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"Relationship Rant"

I've recently broken up with another girlfriend, which is its essence doesn't bother me, because basically it wasn't working out, didnt feel right and we've decided to remain friends which is always good.

The thing that happens to be bugging me is that after we broke up she told me she loved me (actually "in love" not just the sort of 'love' you stick at the end of an email or text) and that she wants to have a baby with me.

Cue fear of fatherhood and the realisation I'm actually just a kid myself to kick in.

The thing that quite worries me is that I haven't known this girl a great deal of time at all. We met at a party, got drunk and did some stuff together and we started going out, but after a while (once I'd sobered up) I didnt feel the same and chose to end it to avoid and later heartache from prolonging the relationship. She took it badly. Really badly. With cries of "don't you find me attractive?" and "what have I done wrong" ringing through my head, I came back with the clichéd-to-death, "its not you, its me" which seemed to settle her down.

I've actually never been told by a girl that she "loved" me, nor have I ever said it to a girl. I'm quite pedantic with the word and beleive it should only be used when you mean it, and she assured me she does love me. This is rather daunting to think that someone who has known me a pretty short amount of time feels that way about me. What's even more frightening is that I don't feel the same way, at all.

I suppose I can finally empathise with those who stalk people and fall in love with them without really knowing them, and the other party is completely oblivious to this. I always though love would be something that came mutually from both parties, but I guess that isn't the case.

I'm not sure if I should feel bad about this, but I really do. I dislike hurting people, but I think I did the right thing to end it before she went skitzo and came off the pill and got pregnant to have the child she's oh-so-desperate to have.

Goes to show that you can be all mature and grown-up but still be a child yourself in some respects.

I'm still a child, I guess, but I like the security and lack of morning sickness it brings.

Paradox: wrote:
> but they're only good for porking. Remember that.

Lol :-)

The friends that have fell out with me over this I have known for a long time & I said I would never fall out with my mates over a girl but I just don't know what to do sometimes.

Really sounds like she's using you mate.

If you're not going to bother trying to be "more than friends" when is she worth losing several friends over, just to gain her as a friend?

Ask her out, if she says no then go back to your old friends, tell them you were an asshat and you're sorry.

If you're seen ditching guy mates to hang out with a girl, who isnt even consistantly nice to you and sounds a bit of a moody cow, then you'll be seen as being a bit gay. However your friends will understand if you're chasing the girl in hope of banging her, all guys leave the flock for a while to chase some tail. It happens with my group of friends all the time and nobody batts a eyelid, its the way it is. However if you're ditching friends for another friend it's kinda sucky and lame.

I prefer my guy friends and 'mates', hands down. Girl friends are alright, they can give you advice and suchlike, but they're only good for porking. Remember that.

KR wrote:
> Anyways all my
> friends think she is using me because I can get her into a gym I go
> to for free (Is that really a reason to use someone?).

> I have
> lost a few friends over this because apparently she did something
> similar to one of my old mates which is why a few of them have fell
> out with me

Those alarm bells should be *earsplitting*

I have been friends with this girl I really like for about two months now & everyone I know seems to think we're going out because we are always together but the thing is we are not. Anyways all my friends think she is using me because I can get her into a gym I go to for free (Is that really a reason to use someone?).
She always comes round mine and we are always doing something together (not like that though lol) and she tells me im one of her closest friends even though I haven't known her that long. I have lost a few friends over this because apparently she did something similar to one of my old mates which is why a few of them have fell out with me
The problem is sometimes I just don't know where I stand with her sometimes she is really flirty etc but then other times she is very very annoying - like today she completely blanked me at college and she won't reply to a text message unless it has something that involves her in it which I find funny really but if texts or rings me about a problem I will try and help her no matter what im doing.
I haven't asked her out but she always asks me whether Im "attracted" to anyone and I usually shrug it off.

What shall I do? Shall I ask her out because if she says No then we might not be as good of friends...

I think we've been through this before...

<-----Rad Loins

That about describes me perfectly.

wow..I just noticed that Goatboy is an annagram of Gayboot. Does that qualify me for the special olympics?

Goatboy wrote:
>
> You have a point sir, I much prefer the cardigan wearing gay version
> of Light to the teen-angst hand-wringing version of a year ago.

I was gonna argue with that. Then I realised I'm wearing a cardigan even as I type this.
>
> I'm thinking about setting up a self-help seminar group for confused
> and downtrodden males.
> Anybody that's seen Magnolia will get the general gist of my plan.

Heh; you wanna be Tom Cruise you gaymo...

Urgh, what happened to the end of this thread?

It looks like someone's dog chewed it up.

Thanks Deathskitten, you've not emailed me in a while :-(

hey Kyle, my advice is to try to stay away from this girl, don't feel guilty if she thinks that she has a chance with u then she won't leave you alone so just be reasonably friendly with her if you happen to see her again but try not to be too friendly.