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"Relationship Rant"

I've recently broken up with another girlfriend, which is its essence doesn't bother me, because basically it wasn't working out, didnt feel right and we've decided to remain friends which is always good.

The thing that happens to be bugging me is that after we broke up she told me she loved me (actually "in love" not just the sort of 'love' you stick at the end of an email or text) and that she wants to have a baby with me.

Cue fear of fatherhood and the realisation I'm actually just a kid myself to kick in.

The thing that quite worries me is that I haven't known this girl a great deal of time at all. We met at a party, got drunk and did some stuff together and we started going out, but after a while (once I'd sobered up) I didnt feel the same and chose to end it to avoid and later heartache from prolonging the relationship. She took it badly. Really badly. With cries of "don't you find me attractive?" and "what have I done wrong" ringing through my head, I came back with the clichéd-to-death, "its not you, its me" which seemed to settle her down.

I've actually never been told by a girl that she "loved" me, nor have I ever said it to a girl. I'm quite pedantic with the word and beleive it should only be used when you mean it, and she assured me she does love me. This is rather daunting to think that someone who has known me a pretty short amount of time feels that way about me. What's even more frightening is that I don't feel the same way, at all.

I suppose I can finally empathise with those who stalk people and fall in love with them without really knowing them, and the other party is completely oblivious to this. I always though love would be something that came mutually from both parties, but I guess that isn't the case.

I'm not sure if I should feel bad about this, but I really do. I dislike hurting people, but I think I did the right thing to end it before she went skitzo and came off the pill and got pregnant to have the child she's oh-so-desperate to have.

Goes to show that you can be all mature and grown-up but still be a child yourself in some respects.

I'm still a child, I guess, but I like the security and lack of morning sickness it brings.

Hee hee, us girls know!!

cookie monster wrote:
> You don't really hear about vibrators for men, funny that.

Your obviously not looking in the right places.

Edit: Damn Lawrence, you beat me to it :(

cookie monster wrote:
> Lawrence wrote:
> cookie monster wrote:
> Lawrence wrote:
> yeah, i can always spend time with me and never get bored. I make me
> laugh so why do i need anyone else?
>
> For those times when your hand just doesnt satisfy.
>
> Why wouldn't it?
>
> Sometimes it just feels a bit samey.

It can get like that with someone else....so i've been told :o)

There are vibrators for men, you have to look closely...or so i've been told :o)

Lawrence wrote:
> cookie monster wrote:
> Lawrence wrote:
> yeah, i can always spend time with me and never get bored. I make me
> laugh so why do i need anyone else?
>
> For those times when your hand just doesnt satisfy.
>
> Why wouldn't it?

Sometimes it just feels a bit samey.

You don't really hear about vibrators for men, funny that.

cookie monster wrote:
> Lawrence wrote:
> yeah, i can always spend time with me and never get bored. I make me
> laugh so why do i need anyone else?
>
> For those times when your hand just doesnt satisfy.

Why wouldn't it?

Rosalind wrote:
> Thats why God invented Vibrators :p

Heh. That's the sort of comment that would get you burned as a witch in some biblically inclined US States...

(and yes Fozz, the attitude of "I don't get to enjoy sex ergo no-one else should" is yet another reason I tend to get all snappy at you)

Thats why God invented Vibrators :p

Lawrence wrote:
> yeah, i can always spend time with me and never get bored. I make me
> laugh so why do i need anyone else?

For those times when your hand just doesnt satisfy.

yeah, i can always spend time with me and never get bored. I make me laugh so why do i need anyone else?