The "Freeola Customer Forum" forum, which includes Retro Game Reviews, has been archived and is now read-only. You cannot post here or create a new thread or review on this forum.
I've recently broken up with another girlfriend, which is its essence doesn't bother me, because basically it wasn't working out, didnt feel right and we've decided to remain friends which is always good.
The thing that happens to be bugging me is that after we broke up she told me she loved me (actually "in love" not just the sort of 'love' you stick at the end of an email or text) and that she wants to have a baby with me.
Cue fear of fatherhood and the realisation I'm actually just a kid myself to kick in.
The thing that quite worries me is that I haven't known this girl a great deal of time at all. We met at a party, got drunk and did some stuff together and we started going out, but after a while (once I'd sobered up) I didnt feel the same and chose to end it to avoid and later heartache from prolonging the relationship. She took it badly. Really badly. With cries of "don't you find me attractive?" and "what have I done wrong" ringing through my head, I came back with the clichéd-to-death, "its not you, its me" which seemed to settle her down.
I've actually never been told by a girl that she "loved" me, nor have I ever said it to a girl. I'm quite pedantic with the word and beleive it should only be used when you mean it, and she assured me she does love me. This is rather daunting to think that someone who has known me a pretty short amount of time feels that way about me. What's even more frightening is that I don't feel the same way, at all.
I suppose I can finally empathise with those who stalk people and fall in love with them without really knowing them, and the other party is completely oblivious to this. I always though love would be something that came mutually from both parties, but I guess that isn't the case.
I'm not sure if I should feel bad about this, but I really do. I dislike hurting people, but I think I did the right thing to end it before she went skitzo and came off the pill and got pregnant to have the child she's oh-so-desperate to have.
Goes to show that you can be all mature and grown-up but still be a child yourself in some respects.
I'm still a child, I guess, but I like the security and lack of morning sickness it brings.
The thing that happens to be bugging me is that after we broke up she told me she loved me (actually "in love" not just the sort of 'love' you stick at the end of an email or text) and that she wants to have a baby with me.
Cue fear of fatherhood and the realisation I'm actually just a kid myself to kick in.
The thing that quite worries me is that I haven't known this girl a great deal of time at all. We met at a party, got drunk and did some stuff together and we started going out, but after a while (once I'd sobered up) I didnt feel the same and chose to end it to avoid and later heartache from prolonging the relationship. She took it badly. Really badly. With cries of "don't you find me attractive?" and "what have I done wrong" ringing through my head, I came back with the clichéd-to-death, "its not you, its me" which seemed to settle her down.
I've actually never been told by a girl that she "loved" me, nor have I ever said it to a girl. I'm quite pedantic with the word and beleive it should only be used when you mean it, and she assured me she does love me. This is rather daunting to think that someone who has known me a pretty short amount of time feels that way about me. What's even more frightening is that I don't feel the same way, at all.
I suppose I can finally empathise with those who stalk people and fall in love with them without really knowing them, and the other party is completely oblivious to this. I always though love would be something that came mutually from both parties, but I guess that isn't the case.
I'm not sure if I should feel bad about this, but I really do. I dislike hurting people, but I think I did the right thing to end it before she went skitzo and came off the pill and got pregnant to have the child she's oh-so-desperate to have.
Goes to show that you can be all mature and grown-up but still be a child yourself in some respects.
I'm still a child, I guess, but I like the security and lack of morning sickness it brings.
Page:
Lawrence wrote:
> How is this girl unwell just because she loves you and wants a baby?
>
>
> ....
>
>
> oh i see now....
>
> But seriously. Just because this girl loves you and wants a baby
> doesn't make her unwell, it may not be your way of doing things but
> everyone is different and does things in their own special way.
>
> Sort it out!
Lah-de-dah rainbows and buttflies and happy kitten-scented farts.
Seriously, I have sorted it out. Should I knock her up just because she wants me to? No.
> How is this girl unwell just because she loves you and wants a baby?
>
>
> ....
>
>
> oh i see now....
>
> But seriously. Just because this girl loves you and wants a baby
> doesn't make her unwell, it may not be your way of doing things but
> everyone is different and does things in their own special way.
>
> Sort it out!
Lah-de-dah rainbows and buttflies and happy kitten-scented farts.
Seriously, I have sorted it out. Should I knock her up just because she wants me to? No.
cookie monster wrote:
> I would assume the average male vibrator is probably no more than a
> slab of silicon with a motor inside for that "authentic"
> feel.
Silicon mouths which vibrate. Or.. other stuff. If I had a penis, it'd be in my drawers now.
> I would assume the average male vibrator is probably no more than a
> slab of silicon with a motor inside for that "authentic"
> feel.
Silicon mouths which vibrate. Or.. other stuff. If I had a penis, it'd be in my drawers now.
How is this girl unwell just because she loves you and wants a baby?
....
oh i see now....
But seriously. Just because this girl loves you and wants a baby doesn't make her unwell, it may not be your way of doing things but everyone is different and does things in their own special way.
Sort it out!
....
oh i see now....
But seriously. Just because this girl loves you and wants a baby doesn't make her unwell, it may not be your way of doing things but everyone is different and does things in their own special way.
Sort it out!
PrinceCharmin' wrote:
> I'm glad you "finished" things with the unstable lady, but
> it's really poor how you've treated the whole saga. She may be
> unstable but you needn't go around bad-mouthing her behind her back.
I told her to her face "You are unwell, seek help"
Hardly conniving is it.
> I'm glad you "finished" things with the unstable lady, but
> it's really poor how you've treated the whole saga. She may be
> unstable but you needn't go around bad-mouthing her behind her back.
I told her to her face "You are unwell, seek help"
Hardly conniving is it.
Ineedsleep wrote:
> Goatboy wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> But he broke up
> with me because he felt being in a relationship right now didn't
> give
> him enough time to do other things.
> ------
>
> I have run this through my What-people-mean decoder ring and it came
> up with this:
>
>
> Didn't need a decoder when I broke up with anyone. General
> conversation would go:
>
> "I'm breaking up with you"
>
> "WHY? I love you and I never stop you doing anything you want
> to do."
>
> "Well I do still like you but not enough to stop me screwing the
> next guy I fancy. Sorry, bye and all that."
>
> Cruel but true.
Your boyfriend left you to screw other guys??
Just kidding, i know what you mean!
> Goatboy wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> But he broke up
> with me because he felt being in a relationship right now didn't
> give
> him enough time to do other things.
> ------
>
> I have run this through my What-people-mean decoder ring and it came
> up with this:
>
>
> Didn't need a decoder when I broke up with anyone. General
> conversation would go:
>
> "I'm breaking up with you"
>
> "WHY? I love you and I never stop you doing anything you want
> to do."
>
> "Well I do still like you but not enough to stop me screwing the
> next guy I fancy. Sorry, bye and all that."
>
> Cruel but true.
Your boyfriend left you to screw other guys??
Just kidding, i know what you mean!
Least she only gave him a hand shandy
Paradox: wrote:
> No, I didnt have sex with her, I just assumed the word 'handjob'
> wouldnt beat the filter and I didnt want to go into the gory details.
> It was, in essence, a farewell thing. I'm not going to be seeing her
> any more in a relationship-esque context, just perhaps in groups of
> friends. I'm pretty much decided to "be with" the Wakefield
> lass. She makes me happy and isn't crazy.
I'm glad you "finished" things with the unstable lady, but it's really poor how you've treated the whole saga. She may be unstable but you needn't go around bad-mouthing her behind her back.
> No, I didnt have sex with her, I just assumed the word 'handjob'
> wouldnt beat the filter and I didnt want to go into the gory details.
> It was, in essence, a farewell thing. I'm not going to be seeing her
> any more in a relationship-esque context, just perhaps in groups of
> friends. I'm pretty much decided to "be with" the Wakefield
> lass. She makes me happy and isn't crazy.
I'm glad you "finished" things with the unstable lady, but it's really poor how you've treated the whole saga. She may be unstable but you needn't go around bad-mouthing her behind her back.
Goatboy wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> But he broke up
> with me because he felt being in a relationship right now didn't
> give
> him enough time to do other things.
> ------
>
> I have run this through my What-people-mean decoder ring and it came
> up with this:
Didn't need a decoder when I broke up with anyone. General conversation would go:
"I'm breaking up with you"
"WHY? I love you and I never stop you doing anything you want to do."
"Well I do still like you but not enough to stop me screwing the next guy I fancy. Sorry, bye and all that."
Cruel but true.
> Cub!st wrote:
> But he broke up
> with me because he felt being in a relationship right now didn't
> give
> him enough time to do other things.
> ------
>
> I have run this through my What-people-mean decoder ring and it came
> up with this:
Didn't need a decoder when I broke up with anyone. General conversation would go:
"I'm breaking up with you"
"WHY? I love you and I never stop you doing anything you want to do."
"Well I do still like you but not enough to stop me screwing the next guy I fancy. Sorry, bye and all that."
Cruel but true.
Deathskitten wrote:
> Paradox: wrote:
> Thanks Deathskitten, you've not emailed me in a while :-(
>
> sorry :-) been kinda busy, new job, new bloke etc.
> so how u doing?
badly.
> Paradox: wrote:
> Thanks Deathskitten, you've not emailed me in a while :-(
>
> sorry :-) been kinda busy, new job, new bloke etc.
> so how u doing?
badly.
Cub!st wrote:
> But he broke up
> with me because he felt being in a relationship right now didn't give
> him enough time to do other things.
------
I have run this through my What-people-mean decoder ring and it came up with this:
"I am cheating on you/considering cheating on you, therefore I will let you down gently and place the onus on myself. This will allow me to not feel guilty and run off to bum somebody else"
Harsh but hey, at least hetero's do the same thing.
> But he broke up
> with me because he felt being in a relationship right now didn't give
> him enough time to do other things.
------
I have run this through my What-people-mean decoder ring and it came up with this:
"I am cheating on you/considering cheating on you, therefore I will let you down gently and place the onus on myself. This will allow me to not feel guilty and run off to bum somebody else"
Harsh but hey, at least hetero's do the same thing.
Page: