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"Confused about Girlfriend..."

I've had many a girlfriend in the past, but the one I am going out with at the moment is something very special and i can honestly say that I love her... and she loves me, or so she says.

Anyway, last week she sed she didn't want me to go out with her that friday as she was going out one last time with her friends before she went on holiday. Nothing to do with the fact they my friends as well.. anyway, I didn't go in the end. But they all stayed over nite at one of the friends house and apparantly she kissed this other guy, but broke away. She claims she cant remember it, and there were no witnesses, so I cant confirm either way.

We decided to forget about it. I wanted to be angry, just couldn't though. Very weird. She also then told me the real reason she went out was cos she wanted to see wat it was liked without me and then proceeded to go on about how she'll never exclude me again cos it wasn't fun.

She then went on holiday and is still on holiday and will be for a few more weeks. I went out friday nite and stayed at the same friends house and apparantly someone there told her that I was flirting with some of the girls there. All of which back me up in saying that I wasn't.

I then proceeded to get quite a hurtful email saying how I didn't think about her while she's out there and that I am using her kissing that guy as an excuse to get revenge. Even though I honestly did nothing.

I don't really have a reason to post this tbh. I just wanted some ppl to talk to it about with.

Basically, what would you all do? I love her... but at the same time I am hating her for making me feel this way. And i know she used to fancy the guy she kissed, so probably still does. And when she sed she is looking forward to getting home, seeing me wasn't the first thing she sed, it was so she could talk to him about something "important". That could be seen as 2 things. Either she's gonna tell him that him and her are never gonna happen... or well, I don't really wanna think about that...

I cant work anything out and I am very confused about it all... She even spent the whole of the day after she kissed the guy slagging him off... but you would though wouldn't you? You wouldn't be saying good things about them after something like that.

What should I do? Should I do anything? Anyone fancy offering some advise or physcological reports?


Thanks anyways.
Look forward to seeing some replies in the morning.

Hedfix wrote:
>I realise the irony

Yes. Not a good plan, I've seen that episode of the simpsons and I learnt my lesson. I will ask her not to go to cinema with him to talk. Make it somewhere else. And if she don't like it, then she obviously don't care what I think, so I will dump her. Corrr, it all comes back to dumping, but hey! It'll work out in the end.

You know, you could hire a private investigator/detective to spy on her while you're away. :D

That'd sort out your trust issues (sort of: I realise the irony).

Hedfix wrote:
> In a hundred years I couldn't have guessed you'd say that in your
> next post. :D

Me either, I've only literally just been told to get it sent off today.

WoopWoop wrote:
>
> I'm just filling in my Visa applications to go to Russia for a week,
> hehe. That'll be funny when I tell her Im off to Russia the week
> after she gets back home.

In a hundred years I couldn't have guessed you'd say that in your next post. :D

hehe, yeah. I will stay around. If only to ask you relationship gurus random questions. Well, 7 hours now till I mite get an email. o joy.

I'm just filling in my Visa applications to go to Russia for a week, hehe. That'll be funny when I tell her Im off to Russia the week after she gets back home.

Yup, you seem like a decent member. A decent noob - a rarity in these parts :D

Welcome :)

WoopWoop wrote:
> well, all I suppose I can do is congratulate you and bullett then. I
> hope I can find someone who is worth my time then.

Im sure you will.

Welcome to the forum anyway, hope you stick around and get to know everyone and join in the topics etc...

well, all I suppose I can do is congratulate you and bullett then. I hope I can find someone who is worth my time then.

Im 22 and i have been in a relationship for neally 7 years. We have our ups and downs but we seem to always pull through in the end. There has been times when we have been wary about each other but we have talked things through and sorted it.

We have a beautiful baby boy and are happier then we have ever been at the moment. I say at the moment because we do argue about things but its usually to do with money etc...

The relationship is going well but i know he wouldnt cheat on me deep down and i know i wouldnt cheat on him, there has been times i have flirted and no doubt led people on and shouldnt do it. But it has never got to the point where i got in a situation where i would cheat.

I love my partner and he loves me and i can be sure of that.

ßulle†† wrote:
> In the early
> stages of our relationship, there were certain levels of mistrust -
> mostly on my part though. I know for a fact she loves me
> unconditionally and I'm the same toward her. All is good.
>
> Those kind of women do exist, it's just finding them that's the hard
> part!
>
> Good Luck with whatever you choose to do :)

Maybe if we can get over this then, we'll have no more problems... And I know they excist, just have to look at my friends and how happy they are. Looks like life just has a habit of giving me something good then poking me in the eye.

Well, we'll see how it goes...