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"I need to be more talkative damn it!"

I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.

I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.

I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!

English_Bloke wrote:
> Bull crap. You had the chance to tell him it was there, but you
> thought you wanted it instead.

Yes as I said I didn't point it out. Obviosly because I wanted it for myself.

> You stole. Just admit it, I would
> think you less of a fool, mildly.

I guess you could call it pety theft.

Cub!st wrote:
> I didn't intentionally hide it. It fell out his pocket. Lay on the
> ground by the seat he was sitting on. He had about twenty minutes to
> find it and he didn't even see it when he got up. I just didn't point
> out he'd lost his money.
>
> Anywat I doubt I'll kill myself. I know I'll have to just get over it
> just I think it'll mess me up bad inbetween times.
>
> (no jokes along the lines of "You can't get anymore messed
> up!" ok? Too easy)

How much was it?

Quinty wrote:
> CTUbauer wrote:
> Quinty wrote:
>
> We will, cheers Quint. Still living with your parents?
>
> I am indeed and loving it.
>
> I mean come on, who would complain about free hospitality and food in
> there stomachs.

Fair comment. And If I insult you, I'm a hypocrite :D

Cub!st wrote:
> I didn't intentionally hide it. It fell out his pocket. Lay on the
> ground by the seat he was sitting on. He had about twenty minutes to
> find it and he didn't even see it when he got up. I just didn't point
> out he'd lost his money.

Bull crap. You had the chance to tell him it was there, but you thought you wanted it instead. You stole. Just admit it, I would think you less of a fool, mildly.

Azul wrote:
> And EB, yeah, I know.
>
> There's an elderly gentleman I've known all my life - he was 91 on
> Friday, lives a couple of doors away.. The other week he lost a
> reasonably small amount of money, and he was in a right state about
> it.
>
> It's a shame that some people, who have the capabilities to easily
> regain small amounts of money, take this for granted, and thieve from
> the vulnerable.

Yep. Is there a banning petition for Cubist yet?

hi, i r X

I didn't intentionally hide it. It fell out his pocket. Lay on the ground by the seat he was sitting on. He had about twenty minutes to find it and he didn't even see it when he got up. I just didn't point out he'd lost his money.

Anywat I doubt I'll kill myself. I know I'll have to just get over it just I think it'll mess me up bad inbetween times.

(no jokes along the lines of "You can't get anymore messed up!" ok? Too easy)

CTUbauer wrote:
> Quinty wrote:

> We will, cheers Quint. Still living with your parents?

I am indeed and loving it.

I mean come on, who would complain about free hospitality and food in there stomachs.

" X, wanna see my porn collection "

"So.....X....do you....like....stuff??....."