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I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.
I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.
I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!
I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.
I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!
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SHEEPY wrote:
> Cubist is crap
In bed? :P
> Cubist is crap
In bed? :P
English_Bloke wrote:
> Azul wrote:
> English_Bloke wrote:
> Who cares? When you're down, go steal some cash from an old guy.
>
> I can tell he's touched a nerve with you, sir.
>
> Well, I try to be nice to all on here. I try to give thought-out
> replies to people.
>
> However, I deal with the other side of his “situation”. A couple of
> quid may be nothing to him, but to an older person it can be. I just
> think it is unforgivable that a person would see an old bloke drop
> some cash, make sure he can’t find it and keep it.
Yep, pretty fecking cruel if you intentionally hide it etc. Not something I would do personally.
> Azul wrote:
> English_Bloke wrote:
> Who cares? When you're down, go steal some cash from an old guy.
>
> I can tell he's touched a nerve with you, sir.
>
> Well, I try to be nice to all on here. I try to give thought-out
> replies to people.
>
> However, I deal with the other side of his “situation”. A couple of
> quid may be nothing to him, but to an older person it can be. I just
> think it is unforgivable that a person would see an old bloke drop
> some cash, make sure he can’t find it and keep it.
Yep, pretty fecking cruel if you intentionally hide it etc. Not something I would do personally.
Cub!st wrote:
> I was thinking the same.
You stole, from an old man, what do you expect?
> I was thinking the same.
You stole, from an old man, what do you expect?
don rocco wrote:
> I hope it ends badly and you kill yourself. I remember the time you
> couldn't even do that right.
Come on - that's a bit harsh.
No need to hit that hard below the belt.
> I hope it ends badly and you kill yourself. I remember the time you
> couldn't even do that right.
Come on - that's a bit harsh.
No need to hit that hard below the belt.
Cubist is crap
Azul wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> Thanks Quinty, I think a better question now would be. How to cope
> with the pain of losing someone you love at 16? I mean I'm just a
> teen for gods sake. Hormones all over the place, it'll be shockingly
> bad.
>
> It's called life. Deal with it, moron.
And if you can't do that, kill yourself, here, now.
Good 'ol BR! :)
> Cub!st wrote:
> Thanks Quinty, I think a better question now would be. How to cope
> with the pain of losing someone you love at 16? I mean I'm just a
> teen for gods sake. Hormones all over the place, it'll be shockingly
> bad.
>
> It's called life. Deal with it, moron.
And if you can't do that, kill yourself, here, now.
Good 'ol BR! :)
Azul wrote:
> English_Bloke wrote:
> Who cares? When you're down, go steal some cash from an old guy.
>
> I can tell he's touched a nerve with you, sir.
Well, I try to be nice to all on here. I try to give thought-out replies to people.
However, I deal with the other side of his “situation”. A couple of quid may be nothing to him, but to an older person it can be. I just think it is unforgivable that a person would see an old bloke drop some cash, make sure he can’t find it and keep it.
> English_Bloke wrote:
> Who cares? When you're down, go steal some cash from an old guy.
>
> I can tell he's touched a nerve with you, sir.
Well, I try to be nice to all on here. I try to give thought-out replies to people.
However, I deal with the other side of his “situation”. A couple of quid may be nothing to him, but to an older person it can be. I just think it is unforgivable that a person would see an old bloke drop some cash, make sure he can’t find it and keep it.
I hope it ends badly and you kill yourself. I remember the time you couldn't even do that right.
Quinty wrote:
> Going against the grain of the previous abusive posts.....
>
> ....i know what you mean Cubist. The last 3 lasses i've been with
> didn't exactly help (pretty quiet on the whole), but yeah i have a
> similar problem, not helped by the fact that im very very shy.
>
> Just try and keep the conversation going even if it is a load of
> random rubbish....dunno...maybe make random observations of the
> environment your in? Or something.
>
> Wow i'm such a great help ;-)
>
> Good luck anyway.
>
> Carry on the jibberish now kids.
We will, cheers Quint. Still living with your parents?
> Going against the grain of the previous abusive posts.....
>
> ....i know what you mean Cubist. The last 3 lasses i've been with
> didn't exactly help (pretty quiet on the whole), but yeah i have a
> similar problem, not helped by the fact that im very very shy.
>
> Just try and keep the conversation going even if it is a load of
> random rubbish....dunno...maybe make random observations of the
> environment your in? Or something.
>
> Wow i'm such a great help ;-)
>
> Good luck anyway.
>
> Carry on the jibberish now kids.
We will, cheers Quint. Still living with your parents?
Azul wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> Thanks Quinty, I think a better question now would be. How to cope
> with the pain of losing someone you love at 16? I mean I'm just a
> teen for gods sake. Hormones all over the place, it'll be shockingly
> bad.
>
> It's called life. Deal with it, moron.
Thanks, some people can't deal aswell as others though. Just looking for some advice. Probably looking in the wrong place but still.
> Cub!st wrote:
> Thanks Quinty, I think a better question now would be. How to cope
> with the pain of losing someone you love at 16? I mean I'm just a
> teen for gods sake. Hormones all over the place, it'll be shockingly
> bad.
>
> It's called life. Deal with it, moron.
Thanks, some people can't deal aswell as others though. Just looking for some advice. Probably looking in the wrong place but still.
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