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"I need to be more talkative damn it!"

I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.

I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.

I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!

And EB, yeah, I know.

There's an elderly gentleman I've known all my life - he was 91 on Friday, lives a couple of doors away.. The other week he lost a reasonably small amount of money, and he was in a right state about it.

It's a shame that some people, who have the capabilities to easily regain small amounts of money, take this for granted, and thieve from the vulnerable.

" Hey X, why don't you suck my pole while I throw some rubbish on you "

Edgy wrote:
> don rocco wrote:
> Edgy wrote:
> Come on - that's a bit harsh.
>
> No need to hit that hard below the belt.
>
> No worse than the things that he has done/said in the past.
>
> True, as he said, 'it's life'. Or isn't he grown up enough to take
> it?

I suspect not.

Just use alcohol Cubist.

Yes.

It makes you cooler.

Cub!st wrote:
> Probably looking in the wrong place but still.

5 hundred kajillion posts later, and he gets it.
Ai ai ai.

He has a very short temper and a very immautre outlook on life.

don rocco wrote:
> Edgy wrote:
> Come on - that's a bit harsh.
>
> No need to hit that hard below the belt.
>
> No worse than the things that he has done/said in the past.

True, as he said, 'it's life'. Or isn't he grown up enough to take it?

He has no nuts! Hit him below the belt as much as you like! :D

Pie?

Edgy wrote:
> Come on - that's a bit harsh.
>
> No need to hit that hard below the belt.

No worse than the things that he has done/said in the past.