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This thread arises from a conversation I was having with a group of friends at uni a few days back; the conversation was the average conversation about dating, what you find attractive in someone etc until someone brought up internet dating
Anyway, the point is that two of my friends (one male and one female), both in their early twenties admitted they'd used dating sites in the past
The sites used were the completely free sites such as Plentyoffish and OkCupid. One of them (the guy, perhaps unsurprisingly) had an account on both, while the girl used POF
Now, my male mate being on there is about what you'd expect. He's a decent, friendly, sociable guy but he does lack confidence, especially with new people and approaching women. He's also not someone you'd say was particularly attractive or the sort of person who pays particular attention to his appearance and good grooming
So when he brought it up it was more us giving him banter for it and asking whether it conformed to the image many of us had - ie women who, frankly, you'd expect to not have enough confidence to be on the site, scammers etc. As it turns out, he's apparently been on several dates with some fairly attractive women. Definitely a good effort for him at least. The "traditional" perception of women who have to resort to the online realm to get a date is, once again not unsurprisingly, true, however (after being shown the pictures of the several women he went out on dates on) there were attractive, seemingly normal women on the sites. Women that were on their due to not having time with careers etc to "get out there" and find a date
My female friend is not someone you'd expect to be using the dating sites. She is very attractive, in a traditional way. Also perfectly capable of holding intelligent conversation, "guy" conversations etc and very confident. The sort of girl that's had a decent crop of boyfriends - both long term and short term. Anyway, from what she said, there were plenty of oddballs on the site messaging thinks like "hi, wanna bang" and "wow, ur look amazing". To the tune of getting about 50 messages a day through these sites. But there were a few seemingly normal guys, and she even went out on a date as one of the guys from the site, who she described as charming and in general a totally normal, down to earth person, not even particularly lacking in confidence
There were apparently several people who were also unable to move the conversation about each others interests to anything that allowed them to actually go on a date
So my question to everyone on here is this; would you consider using online dating sites - such as the free sites like POF and OkCupid? Or maybe you have used them already?
It seems the perception of online dating as a last resort is changing to the extent that it's now become the domain of normal people with busy schedules, or those who want to look for people for a long term relationship. It seems that for women (based on my incredible research of speaking to my one friend, I know) the site does allow women to state the sort of man they're looking for with the end goal being to meet in real life for an actual date
I'm not sure whether it's something I'd consider myself, simply because I'm still at the stage where going out and finding girls in clubs/bars/societies is easy enough, and I'm not sure I'm necessarily looking for a relationship, much less a long term one
Anyway, the point is that two of my friends (one male and one female), both in their early twenties admitted they'd used dating sites in the past
The sites used were the completely free sites such as Plentyoffish and OkCupid. One of them (the guy, perhaps unsurprisingly) had an account on both, while the girl used POF
Now, my male mate being on there is about what you'd expect. He's a decent, friendly, sociable guy but he does lack confidence, especially with new people and approaching women. He's also not someone you'd say was particularly attractive or the sort of person who pays particular attention to his appearance and good grooming
So when he brought it up it was more us giving him banter for it and asking whether it conformed to the image many of us had - ie women who, frankly, you'd expect to not have enough confidence to be on the site, scammers etc. As it turns out, he's apparently been on several dates with some fairly attractive women. Definitely a good effort for him at least. The "traditional" perception of women who have to resort to the online realm to get a date is, once again not unsurprisingly, true, however (after being shown the pictures of the several women he went out on dates on) there were attractive, seemingly normal women on the sites. Women that were on their due to not having time with careers etc to "get out there" and find a date
My female friend is not someone you'd expect to be using the dating sites. She is very attractive, in a traditional way. Also perfectly capable of holding intelligent conversation, "guy" conversations etc and very confident. The sort of girl that's had a decent crop of boyfriends - both long term and short term. Anyway, from what she said, there were plenty of oddballs on the site messaging thinks like "hi, wanna bang" and "wow, ur look amazing". To the tune of getting about 50 messages a day through these sites. But there were a few seemingly normal guys, and she even went out on a date as one of the guys from the site, who she described as charming and in general a totally normal, down to earth person, not even particularly lacking in confidence
There were apparently several people who were also unable to move the conversation about each others interests to anything that allowed them to actually go on a date
So my question to everyone on here is this; would you consider using online dating sites - such as the free sites like POF and OkCupid? Or maybe you have used them already?
It seems the perception of online dating as a last resort is changing to the extent that it's now become the domain of normal people with busy schedules, or those who want to look for people for a long term relationship. It seems that for women (based on my incredible research of speaking to my one friend, I know) the site does allow women to state the sort of man they're looking for with the end goal being to meet in real life for an actual date
I'm not sure whether it's something I'd consider myself, simply because I'm still at the stage where going out and finding girls in clubs/bars/societies is easy enough, and I'm not sure I'm necessarily looking for a relationship, much less a long term one
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This has reminded me to ask about Butch's mate who travelled to Russia to meet some randomer he met on ChatRoulette. Have you heard from him yet Butch?
Well if you never met new people, you wouldn't have any friends...
i think you shound date somone who is your friend coz you wood know more about that person then someone you dont know:)
Warhunt wrote:
> After that it was a simple case of having a horrific head on
> collision with a drunk driver that left me bed ridden for two
> days to get her to realise she actually really wanted to be with
> me.
>
Ah so that's the secret to success
> After that it was a simple case of having a horrific head on
> collision with a drunk driver that left me bed ridden for two
> days to get her to realise she actually really wanted to be with
> me.
>
Ah so that's the secret to success
I use a couple of these sites, simply because my existing social circle is too limited with no prospect of finding new women any time soon.
I've been on a few dates and my general impression is that the majority are normal, good looking women - but these are also the ones who play the field, taking advantage of their not ugly looks and the men-women ratio on such sites for one night stands, multiple boyfriends or simply to get a free meal/date for the night. I have still yet to meet someone who is in it for the long run... someone who wants a long term partner and not just for random dates.
But other than clubs, bars and internet sites, where else can you meet women without looking out of character? I pretty much envy the people who have met up at school and are now married/with kids, at least they've made a start in their new families.
I've been on a few dates and my general impression is that the majority are normal, good looking women - but these are also the ones who play the field, taking advantage of their not ugly looks and the men-women ratio on such sites for one night stands, multiple boyfriends or simply to get a free meal/date for the night. I have still yet to meet someone who is in it for the long run... someone who wants a long term partner and not just for random dates.
But other than clubs, bars and internet sites, where else can you meet women without looking out of character? I pretty much envy the people who have met up at school and are now married/with kids, at least they've made a start in their new families.
chandler M. wrote:
> i think online dating is stupid id rather be able to hold a girl
> in my arms and no be online acting like it. plus it might be a
> fat lard or someting
Though im guessing you really actually knew it was about 'Meeting Someone online' Not having the whole relationship online!
> i think online dating is stupid id rather be able to hold a girl
> in my arms and no be online acting like it. plus it might be a
> fat lard or someting
Though im guessing you really actually knew it was about 'Meeting Someone online' Not having the whole relationship online!
i think online dating is stupid id rather be able to hold a girl in my arms and no be online acting like it. plus it might be a fat lard or someting
haha ;-)
Haha. Coffee, Vee?
My half sisters dad advertises himself in the paper. I always said that was for sad no hopers. Maybe more because he was exactly that. I would always say that was the last resort. Meeting someone online on a dating site though i dont know. If i was just to randomly meet someone say off here, or my facebook or any other site id feel more comfortable with that then actually going through a dating site.
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