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What do you think of the whole idea of getting married?

I had this talk with my boyfriend. He wants to get married whereas I think that we don't need a piece of paper to show how much we love each other.

Am I missing the point of marriage?

I know I want to be with my boyfriend for the rest of my life, I just don't see why I need to get married to show that.

Though to be honest, I'll proberly get married eventually and do the traditional thing.

SHEEPY wrote:
> I knew I shouldn't have waited till the wedding night... I can do
> small but that was micro.

It's not my fault if you couldn't get your little prawn to work.

Chippxero wrote:
> It's alot of stress and finacial cost and at the
> end of the day all thats different is one of your names and you both
> have rings on your fingers.

That's only if you decide on a big wedding, though. Like I said, being married allows you to benefit from paying less tax, as you are techincally one person. Also, children born out of wedlock have fewer benfits that children with married parents.

I knew I shouldn't have waited till the wedding night... I can do small but that was micro.

Chippxero wrote:
> It's alot of stress and finacial cost and at the end of the day

It doesn't have to be though, it only is mostly because people make it so for no reason.

Puddin' wrote:
> Why you say that? She's been with her boyfriend 9 years and i've never
> EVER known them to have an arguement and now they have a lovely baby
> girl (oh yes, me and EB are aunts and uncles)

Some people outgrow their first loves
Some people are to scared too outgrow their first loves
Some people settle for the first thing that comes along
Some people actually find it right away(very rare)

I wish her good luck and hope she's in that last group

Sheepy I hate you I can't believe we ever got married

SHEEPY wrote:
> Not if you end up hating each other and want a divorce the next year.

Yer but she'll love him forever.

You don't need to be married and if one of you doesn't see the point in it why bother? It's alot of stress and finacial cost and at the end of the day all thats different is one of your names and you both have rings on your fingers.

I'd say just wait until you both really want to get married, i personally dont think it's a good idea for young couples but if you can make it work thats great but surely your relationship works just fine with out a contract.

Not if you end up hating each other and want a divorce the next year.

It's not just a piece of paper. The whole point is that you are showing your partner that you love them so much that you want to become one with them in the eyes of God and the law. It's not about the ceremony or the marriage certificate.

Also being married imparts many tax benefits to you and any children you plan on having, so not getting married actually puts you worse off.