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"Confused about Girlfriend..."

I've had many a girlfriend in the past, but the one I am going out with at the moment is something very special and i can honestly say that I love her... and she loves me, or so she says.

Anyway, last week she sed she didn't want me to go out with her that friday as she was going out one last time with her friends before she went on holiday. Nothing to do with the fact they my friends as well.. anyway, I didn't go in the end. But they all stayed over nite at one of the friends house and apparantly she kissed this other guy, but broke away. She claims she cant remember it, and there were no witnesses, so I cant confirm either way.

We decided to forget about it. I wanted to be angry, just couldn't though. Very weird. She also then told me the real reason she went out was cos she wanted to see wat it was liked without me and then proceeded to go on about how she'll never exclude me again cos it wasn't fun.

She then went on holiday and is still on holiday and will be for a few more weeks. I went out friday nite and stayed at the same friends house and apparantly someone there told her that I was flirting with some of the girls there. All of which back me up in saying that I wasn't.

I then proceeded to get quite a hurtful email saying how I didn't think about her while she's out there and that I am using her kissing that guy as an excuse to get revenge. Even though I honestly did nothing.

I don't really have a reason to post this tbh. I just wanted some ppl to talk to it about with.

Basically, what would you all do? I love her... but at the same time I am hating her for making me feel this way. And i know she used to fancy the guy she kissed, so probably still does. And when she sed she is looking forward to getting home, seeing me wasn't the first thing she sed, it was so she could talk to him about something "important". That could be seen as 2 things. Either she's gonna tell him that him and her are never gonna happen... or well, I don't really wanna think about that...

I cant work anything out and I am very confused about it all... She even spent the whole of the day after she kissed the guy slagging him off... but you would though wouldn't you? You wouldn't be saying good things about them after something like that.

What should I do? Should I do anything? Anyone fancy offering some advise or physcological reports?


Thanks anyways.
Look forward to seeing some replies in the morning.

Great stuff, glad it all worked out.

Agreeing to not go to the cinema is a good sign. Did she explain properly why she didn't want you to go out 'that' night?

Anyhoo, as long as you're both back on track :-)

Well, incase any1 cares now. I spoke to her loads yesterday on MSN and on phone. Basically I can honestly say that I have no more doubts about anything. I asked her not to go to the cinema with the guy, and she agreed cos she didn't want to be alone with him. We are going out tonight (the whole group to welcome her home) and he could have come this evening, but he's scared of me apparantly, so she has decided that maybe she wont bother and just ignore him till he gets the message.

So yeah, I'm happy.

I will talk to her about the whole rejection thingy (him that is) when i see her. Tell her my worries, etc.

I hope it does work out.

Yes she can tell him face to face, it will take a couple of minutes if that.


OK, at least you are prepared to give it ago. Just dont get hurt. Hope things work out for you.

She has this thing about doing things face to face... maybe a bit too face to face on that one occasion. I do know from talking to her past boyfriends that she has never done anything like that before and all her mates say she's never been as happy with anyone than she has as me... but it all seems so contradictory and wrong.

I will give it a chance I suppose, but if the alarm bells go even once, I will dump her.

WoopWoop wrote:
>she is going out with this guy is so she can tell him he doesn't have a chance with her while she is with me and that "won't be a for a while".

She doesnt have to go out with him to tell him that. why not tell him straight out?

> .... Or am I having the wool pulled over my eyes again?

You really have to ask?

Yeah, I got one...

It's all saying how she loves me so much and never wants to let me go and the reason she is going out with this guy is so she can tell him he doesn't have a chance with her while she is with me and that "won't be a for a while".

Also ses that her friend told her that I wasn't flirting and she believes me now. Got a decent conclusion as well about how she loves me soo much, etc...

Also coming round early before we go out for the evening when she's back and ses she is hating her holiday cos all she wants is to be with me.

So yeah... I am kinda thinking she does love me and all.... Or am I having the wool pulled over my eyes again? Should I see how this goes?

O well, no email last nite. Should get one later on today.

Hedfix wrote:
> If you have to worry about saving face its not worth saving it in the
> first place. :P

What you mean by that?

well you wouldn't have a mental image of him sitting on the can



unless you horribly misread it