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"Clearly Unofficial Poll: Relationships"

Mainly aimed at christians....but anyone can answer....

Is it alright for Christians to have a romance with a non Christian?

yes

no

depends on the circumstances

I wish you the very best of luck Lil Ginge, because i went through a bad depression before I could get my head around it. I hope your spared that.

>Yesh. If any christians on here would like to clear up and define the >reasons why two people should try stay pure till marriage - please do >just out of interest and thirst of knowledg not for arguments..


I believe the problem with sexual relationships for christains is the express forbiddance of fornication:

"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body".(1 Cor 6.18) - King James Ver.

It appears in several other places too.

Dictionary definition of fornication: "Sexual intercourse between partners who are not married to each other." - www.dictionary.com.

Arggg dammit I was on a role

After the whole

BUt -- bla bla christian bf would be easier I was sposed to add..

If anyone was to ever say so that I should try to do such a thing I would politely thank them for concern but never ever want to split with my boyfriend because I love him very much and we work as a teeeeam

Indeed
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I am a fairly new christian.

I found God a year and a bit ago - but have been with my boyfriend for about two now.

I do not attend church, I go to a cell group where I have the support and friendship of a group of lovely christian females where we try to strengthen our relationship together.

Because I have no christian family and my boyfriend isnt particularly christian either I find it extremely difficukt to cope sometimes and feel lonely even - in my faith.

BUT - This will never stop me loving or wanting either. Yesh I am sure that if I split with my boyfriend and found some random christian bloke with the same beliefs things 'faith wise' would be easier.

The thing is here that I started my relationship with sam when I was questioning and finding out. It was sam that brought me through some very difficult times by showing me love and care without him even knowing. Fact of the matter is we both are completely and utterly in love and wil never want to change this. I do have an intimate and sexual relationship with his as at the time when I lost my virginity I was not educated enough on my faith and not strong enough to know generally why and what means I shouldnt.

Now this does prove difficult - because I am so in love and love.. making love as a matter of fact to my boyfriend. I dont want to stop - even though christian friends and when i go to church they will probably try to reason that I should not. This no doubt is stopping me come as close to god as i can do but my intentions are to work my hardest to keep my relationship with sam strong so one day we will marry.

I also believe that as much as god was trying to save us and kep us pure till marriage he mainly does not want me to create numerous soul ties and have sexual relations with other men. Meaning he wanted me to devote myself to one person in which he has blessed me with and I love entirely which I am doing...

Yesh. If any christians on here would like to clear up and define the reasons why two people should try stay pure till marriage - please do just out of interest and thirst of knowledg not for arguments..

Like ros said I do believe that by having a non christian boyfriend it is harder but in time I hope that he will see the beautiful thing i have and want to learn and share it. I will not turn him or force him to be a christian that is something he will do for himself but that is a hope for most christians in a non christian relationship

mikelar wrote:
> US CHRISTIATS SHOULD STICK TOGETHER.

Are you a very devoted christian then mikelar?

If I had a girlfriend who was very religious or had a very religious family i would back out though.

I had a really hard time with this one actually before I decide to drop religeon all together. At the time I was very religous and I was I was sleeping with my VERY non-religous boyfriend.

I asked lots of people about it, my Mum, my local vicar, and christian chat places on the internet. the answer was mostely the same. Its not a good idea, unfotunaly since I had had sex with my boyfriend it wasn't right to get rid of him either.

A few of the views I came across were along the lines of you should set a deadline with god, and if the continue to show no interest in god past the deadline, then you should break up.

there is a passage in the bible which MAY be interepreted as a wife or husband being able to save their partners soul, wether this means the partner is automatically saved, or may be converted by the partner, is somewhat up for sebate.

In the end it was my relationship with my boyfriend that allowed me to come out of the other end of the whole religeon thing safely. I simply cannot see a reason why it's not okay for me to live with my boyfriend indefinitly and have sex, and not be married to him. It felt wrong in my heart.

Personally I wouldnt care, being christian doesn't have that many restrictions compared to some other religions.

Depends on whether you're one of those Christians who believes Christ's message of love and brotherhood, or one of those Christians who holds themselves as a separate caste from those inferior non-believers.

But personally, I'd say go for it.

Poor William of Norwich

its what he would have wanted