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"Clearly Unofficial Poll: Relationships"

Mainly aimed at christians....but anyone can answer....

Is it alright for Christians to have a romance with a non Christian?

yes

no

depends on the circumstances

>>>>>I really understand what your going through. I know how hard it is. For one thing if you stop having sex with your boyfrind now, he will probably feel on some level that he is the reason why


Thats it as well. He says and I know he would try hi hardest to stop if that is what i wanted in my heart of hearts because he wouldnt let it break us. But he would not WANT to would he and it would not be fair. Also, it could be more than five or six years till we get married and that constant stress and wanting to do something would hurt the relationship to the point over such a long period it wouldnt last. I never want this to be the reason we break up and never want to. Because the bible and people at church reckon its for the best. Grrrrr confusing times huh

Thats what I mean.

It will not deter me from my faith and I have never felt guilty before for sleeping with him. It was that one conversation that made me feel it.

Although Caroline said that God would not want me to feel guilty just think for myself what it is I was doing and wanted to do... She also said that the enemie would use this against me and try and make me feel guilty because he knows it is the easiest way to get to me and get me down.

yesh yesh it all makes sense but I just love my boyfriend. And making love to him is a beautiful thing. God knows that I will stay with him and try with him and never leave or sleep with anyone else but him. Isnt this what the bible teaches??

Ok i do see that a marriage declaring all these thing in a house of god under him would make it better but in this circumstance and yours I do not see why i should not. If I was sleeping with him yet wasnt truly in love and planning to stay and commit entirely to him than yes but in my circumstance and ones like yours I do not see why we should feel this way

I really understand what your going through. I know how hard it is. For one thing if you stop having sex with your boyfrind now, he will probably feel on some level that he is the reason why.

I'm not a Christian any more, that doesn't mean that on some level I don't believe that there is still something, some god, or higher power. I just can't believe in a biblical God.

Carl and I can't afford to get married at the moment, even though we knew before I became strongly christian that we wanted to. One of the main reasons why I don't belive anymore is that I truely cannot see why the fact that Carl and I wanted to wait until we could afford a nice wedding, should stop us having sex. I want to spent the rest of my life with him, but all I could feel was guilt when we were sleeping together.

God is supposed to be loving and forgiving. If thats true why on earth would he frown on what we had. It didn't and doesn't make any sense to me.

Darwock wrote:
> 'Christian' doesn't even imply a religion to me, just a belief. I live
> in Glasgow where it's pretty much Catholic vs. Protestant.
>


Ha! Come to Northern Ireland, we'll teach ya. Its the root off all nationalist hatred.

Rosalind wrote:
> Have you ever definied yourself as a Christian, Darwock?

Uh-oh, the interrogation begins.

Wow I really went mad here.. thats hope this line makes more sense


I love my faith - I love my boyfriend, I simply do not feel that i should stop sleeping with him and because I feel that I dont want to stop -I now feel in a way guilty for thinking 'I dont wanna stop' because the bible teaches it is wrong yet I dont want to stop because I am completely in love it is natural and I will stay and devote myself to him. And I know that he wants nothing more than to work hard at our relationship and stay with me

'Christian' doesn't even imply a religion to me, just a belief. I live in Glasgow where it's pretty much Catholic vs. Protestant.

For the record I am agnostic and grew up in a non-denominational community.

Thanks ros.

I have only ever felt 'weird' about it since i said to my friend a very close ladyfriend who is very strong in her faith that the only reason I would be afraid to go to church is that others will think and frown about my 'wrong doings'

She did say that no one has a right to judge me and that many people just preach things - preaching and blurting out what is wrong and right is very easy but as we both know when you are in the situation it is not so.

She did say that although it is hard she does think that just coz I have started does not mean I should not try to stop.

Which is probably why in the first time in year and a half of sleeping with my beautiful boyfriend i felt weird that I was doing so.

I love my faith - I love my boyfriend, I simply do not feel that i should not sleeping with him and because I feel this I now feel guily and for thinking 'I dont wanna stop'.

It is hard Ros but I do not want it to break my faith or my relationship with sam.

Do you still belive in God Rosalind?

Have you ever definied yourself as a Christian, Darwock?

That's ridiculous, Christianity isn't like some mega-hardcore religion... it's not even like you're talking about a Catholic and a Protestant in an Irish family.

And what's a non-Christian? A Muslim? A Satanist? Someone who doesn't go to church? What exactly is the big deal here....?