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"Interracial Relationships"

I'm getting a bit bored of all the religion topics popping up here lately, so let's try something a little different.

Interracial Relationships

What's your opinion on this topic?

-Is there still a stigma attached to them?
-Why are IR's still quite uncommon?
-Why were they seen as being "wrong" in the past?

Just a couple of suggestions there to get you talking.

I thought of this topic after reading an article today about a woman who gave her daughter up for adoption because her family wouldn't accept the child because she was mixed race.

She is now trying to find her daughter 40 years later, but so far has had no luck tracing her. I thought this story was quite sad, but then I started thinking is this still happening in some families today, or have times really changed?

Discuss.

I generally don't find foreigh women attractive (visually). And before you politically correct cretins jump on me, there is a good reason. It's a biological one - we grew up with our own kind (race), and our mind has been formed to find certain things about the opposite sex attractive. Now, shock horror politically correct paranoid types - the races ARE different. Facial features are different, bodily features are different, height/width are different, and yes - skin colour is different.

Our minds have a certain image of what is visually attractive in a mate, and if you have grown up almost exclusively with white girls, you may find the looks of girls from other races 'unorthodox', even 'abnormal'. So your mind is confused in this way, you are unsure whether or not they are attractive.

I say generally, as this is not set in stone. For example, I have always had a soft spot for chinese/asian women, but have never really found black women attractive. And this has nothing to with racism, it's just the way your own mind defines beauty. It's only the same as saying 'I don't generally like fat/skinny women' or 'I don't like tall/short women'.

Of course, once you get to know someone, all that goes out of the window - their personality is the thing that you form an opinion on, and the thing you ultimately fall in love with, but I am talking first looks/impressions here - that we all make upon meeting.

By the way, where I study I find the Chinese girls rather pompous and proud; for example, as I walked past two Chinese girls on the way home, their faces were of the "Not interested unless you try harder pesant" sort, when it's really not neccessary. Though they were probably rich judging by their designer ware clothes and large shopping bags.

There's also the entire issue of culture to deal with; those looking for relationships tend to look for several similar qualities, in particular those that can be shared with each other - but that's rather difficult if you're parying for different gods.

Another reason why IR are uncommon is because of the way a person has been brought up from birth - say a kid was raised in a a certain way, well when they look for mates (for love and friendship) they have a bias towards attributes that most fit their upbringing.

Hope that makes sense.

Well... I am chinese (yes) but i have more interest in english girls than my own.. I see no difference between the races but find blacks/asians less attractive.
I think dating people from another race may be more interesting and different to dating your own although WE ARE all human beings no matter what colour.

I was adopted. I would never plan to find my 'real' parents, as they mean nothing to me. They didn't want me, I don't want them. My real parents are those who raised, taught and supported me, and the only ones I'll recognise. If they came to find me, I would be polite and all, but I would be incapable of feeling any emotional connection to them, and I would make my feelings clear. Remember - they have abandoned you, and some other people have taken full responsibility for you.

To be a parent of an adopted child, and to have them seek out their biological parents must be incredibly hurtful. I just can't understand why anyone would do it.

I have no idea who my biological parents are, or where they are. And I don't care.

I dont see anything wrong with it personally. But scientists said that the gene differance in some races caused common birth defects such as undeveloped nasel antrum (i think it's spelt).
Also they found that people mostly found their own race more attractive than others. But this isnt anything to do with the races it's just a think about people.

I see nothing wrong with it.

I'm getting a bit bored of all the religion topics popping up here lately, so let's try something a little different.

Interracial Relationships

What's your opinion on this topic?

-Is there still a stigma attached to them?
-Why are IR's still quite uncommon?
-Why were they seen as being "wrong" in the past?

Just a couple of suggestions there to get you talking.

I thought of this topic after reading an article today about a woman who gave her daughter up for adoption because her family wouldn't accept the child because she was mixed race.

She is now trying to find her daughter 40 years later, but so far has had no luck tracing her. I thought this story was quite sad, but then I started thinking is this still happening in some families today, or have times really changed?

Discuss.