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See, this has been on my mind for over 10 months or so.
And it's pretty annoying when you've got something on your mind that you can't quite figure out.
Today, it pretty much all came out through tears. And the relief! The relief is so good. A little weight lifted of those weak shoulders.
Right now. I should be eating. With some family. But I'm not there because of this 'freak' problem.
For some reason. I can't eat in front of more than 2 or 3 people. Sounds so simple, yet when you're actually in that situation it's so hard to deal with. One tiny piece of food, whether it's a carrot or a piece of small meat. I will instantly feel sick due to the smell or sight of it.
It's the feeling too that makes it worse. If I find out I've got to go for a meal with people I haven't seen for a very long time, the nervous feeling will kick in making it worse. Sicky feeling.
There hasn't actually been a time, yet, where I've thrown up in front of them. Thankfully! But everytime food slides slowly down the back of my throat it'll make me want to heave.
But today it came out a little more than I expected.
To my mum. Standing at the top of the stairs saying Sorry. Sorry for acting awkward for the past couple of days. She pointed that out.
I'm still laughing because I couldn't say it, and acted like a little 12 year old throwing a hissy and walked off crying into the bedroom.
But she was the most supportive she's possibly ever been.
So. Am I a freak for not being able to eat in front on people anymore?
I couldn't even it my damn Xmas dinner! That sucks.
And it's pretty annoying when you've got something on your mind that you can't quite figure out.
Today, it pretty much all came out through tears. And the relief! The relief is so good. A little weight lifted of those weak shoulders.
Right now. I should be eating. With some family. But I'm not there because of this 'freak' problem.
For some reason. I can't eat in front of more than 2 or 3 people. Sounds so simple, yet when you're actually in that situation it's so hard to deal with. One tiny piece of food, whether it's a carrot or a piece of small meat. I will instantly feel sick due to the smell or sight of it.
It's the feeling too that makes it worse. If I find out I've got to go for a meal with people I haven't seen for a very long time, the nervous feeling will kick in making it worse. Sicky feeling.
There hasn't actually been a time, yet, where I've thrown up in front of them. Thankfully! But everytime food slides slowly down the back of my throat it'll make me want to heave.
But today it came out a little more than I expected.
To my mum. Standing at the top of the stairs saying Sorry. Sorry for acting awkward for the past couple of days. She pointed that out.
I'm still laughing because I couldn't say it, and acted like a little 12 year old throwing a hissy and walked off crying into the bedroom.
But she was the most supportive she's possibly ever been.
So. Am I a freak for not being able to eat in front on people anymore?
I couldn't even it my damn Xmas dinner! That sucks.
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There are a lot of people who suffer from this. It is a social phobia and if you did a search on the net, I bet you would find tonnes of people who are just like you!
You are not a freak- your problem has rational roots, just like specific phobias such as fear of spiders. Spiders are a risk to us if they are poisonous, and people who eat with us may not seem like a threat, but there is always the fear of making a fool of yourself in front of strangers and this might make you nervous. The more people there are, the worse the phobia is going to be- especially if they are strangers. I bet the more you think about it, the more you emotionally beat yourself up about it and the pressure intensifies, making you more nervous every time!
Did you once have a panic attack whilst eating, or choke on your food? Even the smallest thing could have triggered off a connection between eating with people and fear, embarrasment or humiliation- phobias are common and you are definately not a freak!
You are not a freak- your problem has rational roots, just like specific phobias such as fear of spiders. Spiders are a risk to us if they are poisonous, and people who eat with us may not seem like a threat, but there is always the fear of making a fool of yourself in front of strangers and this might make you nervous. The more people there are, the worse the phobia is going to be- especially if they are strangers. I bet the more you think about it, the more you emotionally beat yourself up about it and the pressure intensifies, making you more nervous every time!
Did you once have a panic attack whilst eating, or choke on your food? Even the smallest thing could have triggered off a connection between eating with people and fear, embarrasment or humiliation- phobias are common and you are definately not a freak!
cookie monster wrote:
> SHEEPY wrote:
> I seem to feel more self aware when I'm eating in a large group.
>
> I'm not sure why
>
> I have that problem too, i feel like im being watched.
It is probably an innate instinct from evolution (if you believ in that theory of course). Maybe due to the possibility of wild animals approaching as you are eating and thus off guard or that you feel others may steal your food.
Or maybe you just eat loudly. :-)
> SHEEPY wrote:
> I seem to feel more self aware when I'm eating in a large group.
>
> I'm not sure why
>
> I have that problem too, i feel like im being watched.
It is probably an innate instinct from evolution (if you believ in that theory of course). Maybe due to the possibility of wild animals approaching as you are eating and thus off guard or that you feel others may steal your food.
Or maybe you just eat loudly. :-)
Now HE…
*Points*
Is a freak.
*Points*
Is a freak.
I'm the opposite: I struggle to eat when alone, because when I do the food starts jabbering to me.
Cheese sandwiches inform me that I'm going to die, and chips [those strips of semi-yellow evil] convince me that the world is going to end unless I draw and undraw the curtains precisely 78 times.
Once I had to dress-up as Cohan the Barbarian and headbutt 3 sheep before sunset, all because a slice of cherry pie threatened to kill my cat.
Cheese sandwiches inform me that I'm going to die, and chips [those strips of semi-yellow evil] convince me that the world is going to end unless I draw and undraw the curtains precisely 78 times.
Once I had to dress-up as Cohan the Barbarian and headbutt 3 sheep before sunset, all because a slice of cherry pie threatened to kill my cat.
I don’t like eating spaghetti in public, but I’m ok with most foods.
SHEEPY wrote:
> I seem to feel more self aware when I'm eating in a large group.
>
> I'm not sure why
I have that problem too, i feel like im being watched.
> I seem to feel more self aware when I'm eating in a large group.
>
> I'm not sure why
I have that problem too, i feel like im being watched.
I seem to feel more self aware when I'm eating in a large group.
I'm not sure why
I'm not sure why
English_Bloke wrote:
> Good advice.
>
> As a wise man once said, “alcohol, the cause of and solution to most
> of life’s problems”.
wise man being homer simpson. :D
good quote. :D
mike, just repeat what i said before. the more cautious and nervous you are the more likely it is that youll mess up. just go with the flow and talk to the people alot to stay relaxed.
> Good advice.
>
> As a wise man once said, “alcohol, the cause of and solution to most
> of life’s problems”.
wise man being homer simpson. :D
good quote. :D
mike, just repeat what i said before. the more cautious and nervous you are the more likely it is that youll mess up. just go with the flow and talk to the people alot to stay relaxed.
i have sort of a similar problem i guess....it's not as drastic though.
I'm don't really like eating infront of people i don't know because i always get a horrible feeling that something bad will happen like, whilst cutting food, it'll fly onto my lap or, even worse, the lap of the person i don't know or ill just get gravy everywhere....I always get food down my shirt when i eat, im quite messy. Im a grown ass bouy as well.....
.....well obviously that helped you no end; changing the subject to me. No need for thanks.
I'm don't really like eating infront of people i don't know because i always get a horrible feeling that something bad will happen like, whilst cutting food, it'll fly onto my lap or, even worse, the lap of the person i don't know or ill just get gravy everywhere....I always get food down my shirt when i eat, im quite messy. Im a grown ass bouy as well.....
.....well obviously that helped you no end; changing the subject to me. No need for thanks.
thanks for your praise and im glad i could help. we dont know if it will work, but hopefully it will. :)
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