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"I think I need to help someone, and I'm not sure how."

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Fri 18/07/03 at 10:40
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This is about a girl. It always is, I suppose – no-one writes topics about blokes on here. Not meaningful ones. That’s something worth taking into consideration, because, despite the platonic tone I am keen to emphasize, I wouldn’t be typing this if the girl was a boy. But perhaps that’s just the way people are, I don’t know.

This is a girl called Skoda. She’s a ballet dancer. Some of you might remember her from a thing on a trampoline last summer (Jebus, have I been posting here that long?). She’s probably one of my best friends, when I think about it. I’ve known her since year 8 – I’ve just finished my GCSEs, so that makes it 4 years. That’s a long time.

Here is the problem. She’s funning crazy now. Not crazy in a mentally impaired way, but in a ‘better to burn out than fade away’ way. She’s a heavy drinker – she won’t just have a couple of alcopops, she’ll drink until she drops.

And frequently does. I’m not usually there, but you hear stories. Falling down in the middle of roads, that was 2 Fridays ago. Week before that, she ended up at my house. I wasn’t here, I was in Penzance. But my older sister (21, back from uni) had to rescue her in a pub, and bring her back here to vomit and cry. My sister hasn’t seen Skoda for years, but they used to be ballet dancers together.

Of course, this could only be a problem in my head. Maybe I just want to save her in a nice dramatic Dawsons Creek way, I don’t know. After all, if I really wanted to help someone, I should try the alcoholic in the village, because he definitely needs saving. But I don’t want to do that, and nor does anybody else, so they won’t. And he’ll die, there’s no question about that.

The other thing is sex. She’s 16, she can sleep with people, I don’t care. But she does. A lot. She had a boyfriend for 3 months, that was good, that was steady. But that broke up a couple of weeks ago, so she’s single now. I don’t know…obviously she wouldn’t do it if she didn’t enjoy it, and I’m not in any position to tell her what she does and doesn’t enjoy. But I just think, in the long run, she’s going to get so emotionally hurt.

Because she’s gorgeous. Absolutely drop dead gorgeous. And nobody disputes that. It’s not just her figure, it’s the way she moves. Everything about her, her laugh, everything, just makes you want to, in Goatboys words, ‘pole her’. And people will pretend to care about her just so they can touch that body. And at some point she’s going to reach for someone, and they’re not going to be there, not on an emotional level.

Just to note, I’m absolutely and totally in love with my girlfriend, so, although I admit Skoda is fit, there’s not a thought of anything happening between us. Because my girlfriend is the best. Completely and utterly the best.

So this my point, and this is what I want replies to. Other than this helping me sort out how I feel, this being carthetic (is that a word?), I need to know if I should try to do something. Because, in 2 years time, I couldn’t bear to see that she’s still in the state that she’s in. Because I don’t think she’s happy. I don’t think she’s happy at all.
Sun 20/07/03 at 05:21
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"8==="
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Reality bites.

If you lose control: it bites a part of you that you need to survive.
Sun 20/07/03 at 05:18
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"The mighty GE90-115"
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Interesting take on "survival of the fittest" there!!!
Sun 20/07/03 at 05:16
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Hedfix wrote:
> I'm in a "survival of the fittest/natural selection" mood so
> I'll leave this topic alone for now.

Still in this frame of mind.

If I don't know someone and they're addicted to something which makes them act like a fool then I do wish wish for a quick nasty end for them, especially if they brought it upon themselves.

Obviously some people have been abused and are psychologically screwed up and turn to drink/drugs/whatever.

Do I have time to help these people? No.

Do I wish to know them? No.

If it was someone I knew I'd try to help them but if they started taking their s**t out on me I'd cut'em loose really damn fast.

If you can't help yourself then you are in serious trouble.
Sun 20/07/03 at 05:07
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"The mighty GE90-115"
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UPDATE: the plonker mentioned below has just called me, on his way home, and considerably subdued and back to his polite self, he wonders why all the birds flocked AWAY from him and his crazy mate all night.

*Sigh
Sun 20/07/03 at 04:46
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"The mighty GE90-115"
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On a slight tangent - my mate has been calling me up for the last two nights to say how "high" he is on ecstasy, his first time was on Thursday night.On saturday night (a few hours ago) he drank 500mls of Vodka and popped a pill, then went to a club, before that he phoned me to say how he was loving it, I really couldnt share his enthusiasm especially when he asked me to lend him £100 on Monday!!! In the space of ten minutes he flipped on me about 3 times, having a go at me for not going to visit him, then completely forgetting that he'd just had a go at me.(Repeat cycle 2 more tmes)

What cheek!!!
Sun 20/07/03 at 04:02
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"8==="
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I'm in a "survival of the fittest/natural selection" mood so I'll leave this topic alone for now.
Sat 19/07/03 at 21:57
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"Sex On Wheels"
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I don't but was confused at what you were saying for a while heh :S :D
Sat 19/07/03 at 21:57
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"joypadjunkies.com"
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Oh sorry, just dont wanna get on the wrong side of anyone!!!!!
Sat 19/07/03 at 21:52
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"Subliminal messenge"
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Calm down Angel. No one really cares that you made a mistake.

;D
Sat 19/07/03 at 21:50
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Think of just got a bit confused with the reply bit and who wrote waht! What a stupid BIT** i am

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