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"I hate my family"

I seriously hate my family so so much. Granted they give me a roof over my head and feed me but I am a scapegoat for anything that goes wrong, despite the fact I say and do as little as possible towards them to avoid any kind of conflict. I will go days on end without talking to them and try and go unnoticed but they will find some reason to yell at me or to blame me for something I havent done. My dad has tried to throw me out of the house on several occasions and my mum has done nothing but back him up. I do nothing to them at all, I only see them when I have to (ie. meal times and when I am going out/getting in) I don't do anything bad or nasty and dont even speak to them unless I have to. I don't know what I have done to make them hate me but I cannot think of anything. I have been told I was an accident and that they wished they hadn't had me, despite the fact my younger sister is a little angel who is a symbol of uttermost perfection. I am in a predicament, I don't know if I should run away or something but I don't think I can take the crap they keep throwing at me.

Any advice, please?

I have run that response through my mong-decoder ring and it came out with
"I must remove muzzle before mashing keys with fase"

Absolu† Neó wrote:
> Sounds like a good night out to me Goatboy....

yer it sounds gd

Sounds like a good night out to me Goatboy....

Notorious Biggles wrote:
> Things on the DONT do list include drugs, never ending reams of girls,
> staying out all night, not letting them know what you are up to where
> you are going etc.

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That's the whole point of being a teenager for chrissakes.
What kind of sterile, joyless clones are we trying to raise here???

I still do that now at 29.
Saturday - went out to Camden. Drank, hoovered up drugs, poled her stupid and got back home 4pm Sunday.

And yes, it does make me big and clever.

Notorious Biggles wrote:
> The chinese say " get a job you love, and you will never work a
> day in your life"

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That's exactly what I say. Stole it from some film I saw. Hell, even if you mess up everything and don't go to uni, you could still end up with your dream job someday. Look at James Cameron. Was driving trucks before he got off his butt in the late 70s/early 80s and now he's a multimillionaire.

Wow you people are good at changing topic.

Look kiddo stick in. Some people do have parents who are difficult, some are just downright nasty. I don't know yours so I can't comment on THEM. I would say the best thing to do is study hard, maybe aim for uni if you fancy it, keep your head down. Oh yeah and it pays to be helpful. Don't completely isolate yourself from your family, if you distance yourself they will distance themselves.

This next bit is gonna sting a bit:
A little bit of it is in your head. Period. Thats what happens when you are young. You think they are out to get you. Things seem so much worse than they are. When you get older you see the arguments you have about girlfriends, staying out late, drinking, whatever happens, cause that is just parents. They worry about you. Yup even the nasty ones. But hang in cause things will get better.

Things on the DONT do list include drugs, never ending reams of girls, staying out all night, not letting them know what you are up to where you are going etc. Oh and never just take the car. That really doesn't go down well.

As for uni and the debate about it, well statistics overwhelmingly prove that people in all social classes and ethnic background are more likely to be employed if they have a degree. That is a fact.

But some degrees don't really get you anywhere. Like a BA in law. You wont be a lawyer if you do that. You need to do an LLB for that. A BA in law would only get you a job as a legal secretary, which you could do by joining a law firm after your GCSEs and getting them to train you and pay you at the same time. So that is a degree that has no real benefits. There are others.

And there is no degree that guarantees a job at the end of it. Even teaching. In fact, primary education is one of the most over subscribed courses there is, meaning that there are more people than jobs.

Hence the reason that degrees that feature work placements can be very beneficial. Often the comapny you do your placement with will offer you a job, and if not at least you have experience.

However, despite the many advantages a degree can bring a person in the jobs market, uni is just not for everybody. Do what you enjoy. Within reason. Cause you do still need to join the real world at some stage.

The chinese say " get a job you love, and you will never work a day in your life"

Hang in kid.

...anyway back to the original post. Don't run away, if they treat you this way do your time. As you said right now you have a roof under your head and food. Do well at school, go earn some money and then think about what to do...Use them and loose them, or try work things out tell them how you feel.

davidsobell wrote:

> When's your exam?
> Mine is June 4th and June 10th.

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Yep, same 'ere.

Its fine and well if you have a plan for your life and i hope it succeeds but this whole argument has sprouted from the fact that it is dman irresponsible for you to give such advice to a 15 year old, you may suceed but the probability of others doing so is less than if they were graduates. Telling some one not to do something because you haven't is not in their intersts at all. If things went horribly wrong for me i too would consder doing something like joining the police, however i would stand a better chance of promotion as i would have a degree. This is even more the case if we talk about the army.

Yeah, so do I, heh.

I have tonnes of backup plans, such as joining the police. Basically, none of my plans involve university, as of now. I don't need it for what I want to do, and if I do later on in life, then I'll go to university. I'm just trying to stress that you should only go to uni when you NEED to. Not because people tell you to.