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"Well, I did it."

Moved out.
Left the girlfriend.
Why?

After 6 weeks of silence, distance and abuse I've had enough. Last night, and having thought more and more about it since writing in this thread, I decided I wouldn't take it anymore.
Started as soon as I got in, and I mean literally the moment I stepped through the door.

Door opens, I walk in and take off coat.
"You're home then" in a foul mood
"Uh...yes"
She grabs her fags and goes back upstairs, slamming the door.
I sit down in the living room and think "Here we go again"
10 mins later she comes in, slams her ashtray down "I didn't do any food, what do you fancy?"
"Ah...I'm fine thanks, not hungry"
"You c###"
"....what?"
"You pathetic c###"
And it goes again.

Phoned a mate to help me get my stuff out as quickly as possible and tolerate almost an hour of being told "You're ####ing stupid" and "I ####ing hate you, you worthless ####"

*sighs*
That's what happens when you're a nice bloke and treat women like dirt or slap them about - you get abused, without rhyme or reason, non-stop for 6 weeks. Night and day from the moment you get in until the moment you fall asleep.
I've not slept at all last night and currently sit at my desk trying to work out just what the hell happened.

But I do recognise the pattern of abuse in relationships.
Person gets angry, person says vile and hateful things.
Person then tells you that you're the reason they said those things because "you're so ####ing stupid".
It's the same old situation of a bloke standing over the cowering wife shouting "Look what you made me do"

No more. I'd rather take a few days of inconvenience and sleepless nights rather than have somebody constantly put me down, tell me I'm worthless and sneer at everything said or done.
Women? No thanks, I'm sure there are some perfect ones out there but I've had my fill for a long time.
Video games, music and mates is my existence.

And Scotty, if you're reading this mate, thanks for helping me last night. I rang because I knew you'd come running to help me, and I'd do the same for you without question or hesitation. I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you did for me, I am forever in your debt dude.

Now, where's my ####ing cigarettes and coffee?
This boy has 6 weeks of repressed anger and now-safe-to-vent fury to bleed out.

Different.

I seem to have an inbuilt radar for wounded, mental women that feel the need to take out past-transgressions on me because I dont shout and scream at them.

Was this the girlfriend that left you before? Or a different one?

Cheers Pandy.

It was one of the hardest things I think I've ever done. I just reached the point where I couldn't handle the anger and insults, the sneering and being sworn at etc etc.

It was "Do I stick this out and hope this time she'll *really* mean she's sorry or do I realise that in 6 weeks there have been 4 days when we've laughed together and I haven't sat up until 2am because I dont know what to do".

This really, really sucks but hey, life moves on and in a few days/weeks I'm sure it'll be chalked up to experience.
Right now I'm trying to decide whether to be angry, forgiving or go mental and try to buy a sniper rifle.

I was in a similar situation for a few months (you know Light, ask him!) with constant emotional blackmail, not having *any* time to myself as she wanted to spend each and every minute of the day with me (I’m in my final year at uni and so need time to work), her paranoia, her insecurity and constant screaming matches between the two of us. After each argument where I was basically close to breaking something (I’d never hit her though, only myself or inanimate objects) she would tell me she loved me and didn’t want to be without me. Everything would be ok for a couple of days until the cycle started again. I eventually arranged a meeting with a psychiatrist due to stress of work, uni work and the relationship. The last argument was too much, she pushed me too far (it was on my birthday of all times) and I dumped her. People can only be supportive for so long. She moved out the next day and although it was difficult for a while (I went on a month long bender, drinking quite heavily every night Pathetic I know) I am much happier, calmer and at ease with myself now, and am in a relationship with a girl who is everything I could want in a lass.
Sometimes you just have to be hard on yourself and the other person. If a relationship can be salvaged then it is worth the effort, but if you look deep into yourself and think, “This will never work” the decision to call an end to it is the only option, but a brave and difficult one to make. Well done.

I read most of that thread yesterday without replying and erm well done for moving out I guess. It seemed like you were going to see it out until the rent thing was finished.

You should be alright though after a while... back onto Seduce and Destroy, band and video games etc

Good Luck

Well done, and good on you.

She sounds like the worst person you could have been stuck with.

Fair enough. I think I'll join you. Not literally, of course - that would be hideous. But I'll grab myself a coffee and a smoke...

Footie ain't my thing thanks.
I did laugh this morning already at a website.

I just feel tired and drained, sleepy and exhausted.
Must smoke.

Good work, I think.

Fact of the matter is, if you can't see a relationship going anywhere and more hassle and torment outweighs the good times then there's not much point in carrying on, is there?

Maybe this'll cheer you up or at least help you forget those bad moments for a while:

http://www.robertobaggio.com/games/index.asp


Click on the "submit" utton and enter the football world...

Wow.
Well done.