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I don't know what to do. Help.

Here's the story;

I go to a International summer camp thing every summer for 3 weeks in Switzerland to practise my French etc...etc.. I've been going for the past 3 years and I'm planning to go again this summer.

Since this is International you get people from all over the world... Including New York, USA. There's been a small group of us that's bonded beyond belief and within this group is a girl (OK they’re mostly girls) with whom I've got on exceptionally through the years. I've never got further than being really good friends with her because it's difficult to 'go out with anyone' (imagine being in an environment when you see the same 60 people all day every day) and she's been going out with different guys every year (for the 3 weeks). These relationships of hers end up being over-obsessive from both parties and falling to bits as they go back home (thousands of miles away from each other).

Over this Xmas I've been invited to stay for a weekend in New York at her house on the weekend around the 19-23rd December. Everything's confirmed and I'm going definitely so there's no backing out now.

What I'm wondering about is what she thinks of me as... I think of her as a bloody good friend (admittedly she doesn't look amazing but she has possibly the best personality around) and I would be more than ready to 'go out' but I don’t know about her. She said in a forum discussion on an MSN Group I had set up that I'm 'her best friend in the world' but knowing her she might very well be joking.

However I have reason to think that she isn't... I always am the one who ends up comforting her if one of her boyfriends leaves the camp before her... But then again she hasn't actually ever turned to me for help and support

I don’t know if she’s ready to take our friendship/relationship any further... But the thing is that I am and want to...

What should I do?

Thanks a lot,

HHAT

She could be playing the game where she likes you in that way, but wants to know how you feel first, before she does anything...

Or maybe she really does just see you as a friend.

Ask if she ever sees you as being more than friends.

Trouble is, if she doesn't it can make things a little awkward.

Once you lay your cards on the table, you can't exactly make her unsee them.

But really, it's best to know either way.

Thanks :0)

Ok, don't do what Grix did. I know its what in most circumstances I would say to do as well, but you are a few thousand miles away from home and imagine telling her and then having the awkwardness (which I have had) of a bad response.

I would suggest seeing how it goes! Let everything be gentle and just get along great as friends. If the chemistry is there it will be so clear and moves will be made, things like that happen. Also, if you really have strong feelings, try and be obvious about them.

:)

Grix Thraves wrote:
> Christ, does anyone NOT have woman trouble here? :0D

*Ahem*

I heard that, you insensitive brute.


;-p

Christ, does anyone NOT have woman trouble here? :0D

Ok, here's what you do.

Tell her what you feel.

Wahay! Sorted.

I don't know what to do. Help.

Here's the story;

I go to a International summer camp thing every summer for 3 weeks in Switzerland to practise my French etc...etc.. I've been going for the past 3 years and I'm planning to go again this summer.

Since this is International you get people from all over the world... Including New York, USA. There's been a small group of us that's bonded beyond belief and within this group is a girl (OK they’re mostly girls) with whom I've got on exceptionally through the years. I've never got further than being really good friends with her because it's difficult to 'go out with anyone' (imagine being in an environment when you see the same 60 people all day every day) and she's been going out with different guys every year (for the 3 weeks). These relationships of hers end up being over-obsessive from both parties and falling to bits as they go back home (thousands of miles away from each other).

Over this Xmas I've been invited to stay for a weekend in New York at her house on the weekend around the 19-23rd December. Everything's confirmed and I'm going definitely so there's no backing out now.

What I'm wondering about is what she thinks of me as... I think of her as a bloody good friend (admittedly she doesn't look amazing but she has possibly the best personality around) and I would be more than ready to 'go out' but I don’t know about her. She said in a forum discussion on an MSN Group I had set up that I'm 'her best friend in the world' but knowing her she might very well be joking.

However I have reason to think that she isn't... I always am the one who ends up comforting her if one of her boyfriends leaves the camp before her... But then again she hasn't actually ever turned to me for help and support

I don’t know if she’s ready to take our friendship/relationship any further... But the thing is that I am and want to...

What should I do?

Thanks a lot,

HHAT