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I don't know what to do. Help.

Here's the story;

I go to a International summer camp thing every summer for 3 weeks in Switzerland to practise my French etc...etc.. I've been going for the past 3 years and I'm planning to go again this summer.

Since this is International you get people from all over the world... Including New York, USA. There's been a small group of us that's bonded beyond belief and within this group is a girl (OK they’re mostly girls) with whom I've got on exceptionally through the years. I've never got further than being really good friends with her because it's difficult to 'go out with anyone' (imagine being in an environment when you see the same 60 people all day every day) and she's been going out with different guys every year (for the 3 weeks). These relationships of hers end up being over-obsessive from both parties and falling to bits as they go back home (thousands of miles away from each other).

Over this Xmas I've been invited to stay for a weekend in New York at her house on the weekend around the 19-23rd December. Everything's confirmed and I'm going definitely so there's no backing out now.

What I'm wondering about is what she thinks of me as... I think of her as a bloody good friend (admittedly she doesn't look amazing but she has possibly the best personality around) and I would be more than ready to 'go out' but I don’t know about her. She said in a forum discussion on an MSN Group I had set up that I'm 'her best friend in the world' but knowing her she might very well be joking.

However I have reason to think that she isn't... I always am the one who ends up comforting her if one of her boyfriends leaves the camp before her... But then again she hasn't actually ever turned to me for help and support

I don’t know if she’s ready to take our friendship/relationship any further... But the thing is that I am and want to...

What should I do?

Thanks a lot,

HHAT

Easy.

Woman (thinks) "He's my best friend, he's so understanding and nice"
Man (thinks) "I want to sleep with you"
Woman (thinks) "I can tell him anything and there's no pressure"
Man (thinks) "I want to sleep with you"
Woman (thinks) "he makes me feel comfortable and safe"
Man (thinks) "I want to sleep with you"

It's simple.
You dont stand a chance with her mate, sorry.
If she says "he's really nice" or "he's my best friend"? You're considered safe. Which means she would never in a million years consider it.

If she turns to you when she's having boyfriend problems?
You're a mate and nothing else.

It's harsh, but we've all been there.
"He's so nice/safe/such a good friend" is the female version of when we say "She likes a laugh".
It means "I would never consider sleeping with that person ever but I dont want to sound cruel"

Wahey! Just read what I had written: drunken ramble that was illogical and made little coherent sense.

Given the subject is female this is deeply ironic.

hey, you stole my bit.
Oh, and HHAT, never try and start relationships with good friends. It all leads to tears in the end.

hehehe....hahaha.........HaHaHa......BWAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA....

i don't know.

The sagacious one wrote:
> I can only see you "wasting your time" doting over her and
> putting up with her crap about how poorly the other blokes have
> treated and then she'll say "I'm not looking for a relationship
> right now-just good friends!" when you tell her your true
> feelings. Then two days later she will be seeing that complete
> cockmonkey that no one likes...

That could be useful if I actually understood it and it was in English.

Women don't appreciate that blokes never hang out with them to be "best friends".

I can only see you "wasting your time" doting over her and putting up with her crap about how poorly the other blokes have treated and then she'll say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now-just good friends!" when you tell her your true feelings. Then two days later she will be seeing that complete cockmonkey that no one likes...

You do though

Don't have a bloody clue where your priorities lie

Of course I don't like classing half the world but heh

Mystique wrote:
> SHEEPY wrote:
>
> Damn dirty women
> ******
> Yep. We suck.

In more ways that one.

SHEEPY wrote:

> Damn dirty women
******
Yep. We suck.

See problems everywhere

I'm giving up on all relationships till Uni... and if I hate people at Uni then I'll never probably.

Too much heart break and annoying-ness

Damn dirty women