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"Real friend or not?"

I have this problem with a friend at school,a few people already know about my friend wanting me to get drunk and smoke with her.I've been told that I'm too nice and need to make a stand for myself once in a while.I did that today.

I was in english with my friend and she asked me if I had got the alchol yet.I said to her that I didn't want to do it and she started to be horrible to me,swearing at me and calling me names.I didn't like it so I told her that I would do it.

I told my sister about the problem child last night and she told me that I shouldn't do it.I told my mum about it a couple of hours ago,she told me that I was sensible enough to not want to do it but I should tell my problem.Then I said to her that the problem wanted to do this stunt at my house because it's isolated and nobody from my school would see us.Mum said that problem was stupid.

Problem then texted me asking me 'Hve u askd yt abt the bze?Hve u askd if i cn go rnd 2 ur hse yt?'
Translation:'Have you asked yet about the booze?Have you asked if I can go round to your house yet?'
To which I replied:'No,I don't want to do it.Your just stupid and I'm sensible enough to pull out.Ask when your older.I still won't do it,not with you.'
Then she replied:'Wot,u ****ing swot.'
That was it,I had to make my mum text back to her.

Truth was,when that girl said that to me,it really upset me.She teased me because I had common sense.I know that I'm in trouble with other girls now for using my brain and deciding not to gamble with my life by smoking and getting drunk.Problem is always horrible to me and I want to ditch her but I can't because knowing her-she'll hit me like she does with the others.
This whole thing is getting me down now I've made her mad,she'll tell the other 'cool' girls and I'll be really unpopular then.
What do I do?

Now I'm confused.
I wouldn't make a very good agony aunt would I?

So, what is the main problem?
Is this girl bullying you, or is it that you want to be friends with her again? Or am I totally misunderstanding the whole thing?

Little Hedgehog wrote:
> I wish I could say those things but I don't like upsetting people.
Anyway,I
> spoke to her today and she says its all my fault,and now she wonders why I'm
> upset with her.
Thanks for what you said.


I know what it's like, I'm the kind of person who hates upsetting anyone. However, I think you should tell her you're 12 years old, not 12 months old and that you don't want to do childish things like getting drunk and inhaling cancer stick fumes cos you've got better things to do like LIVE!

Eh?
Youwot?
You've confused me now.

You say you're 12, then you're right in not wanting to do the drink and smoking thing. Can you not tell your parents about it?

I wish I could say those things but I don't like upsetting people.
Anyway,I spoke to her today and she says its all my fault,and now she wonders why I'm upset with her.
Thanks for what you said.

tell ure friend to pee right off with the smoking but when u grow up a wee bit u'll soon like abit of booze :-P

If she doesn't respect the fact that you don't wanna do those things, and when you say no she resorts to calling you names, then if you ask me, she isn't a real friend.
There's no simple answer to what you should do next. I guess you've just got to be strong and try to do what you think is best. Don't let her or anyone else drag you into something you don't want to do.
If you ask me, it sounds like this girl is jealous, cos you're smart and she is no doubt not exactly the brightest spark.

Post this in the life Forum. You are more likely to get a better responce.

I'm 12,now you can see why I'm bothered about the alchol and smoking,and the cow called problem.

how old r u?