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I have this problem with a friend at school,a few people already know about my friend wanting me to get drunk and smoke with her.I've been told that I'm too nice and need to make a stand for myself once in a while.I did that today.
I was in english with my friend and she asked me if I had got the alchol yet.I said to her that I didn't want to do it and she started to be horrible to me,swearing at me and calling me names.I didn't like it so I told her that I would do it.
I told my sister about the problem child last night and she told me that I shouldn't do it.I told my mum about it a couple of hours ago,she told me that I was sensible enough to not want to do it but I should tell my problem.Then I said to her that the problem wanted to do this stunt at my house because it's isolated and nobody from my school would see us.Mum said that problem was stupid.
Problem then texted me asking me 'Hve u askd yt abt the bze?Hve u askd if i cn go rnd 2 ur hse yt?'
Translation:'Have you asked yet about the booze?Have you asked if I can go round to your house yet?'
To which I replied:'No,I don't want to do it.Your just stupid and I'm sensible enough to pull out.Ask when your older.I still won't do it,not with you.'
Then she replied:'Wot,u ****ing swot.'
That was it,I had to make my mum text back to her.
Truth was,when that girl said that to me,it really upset me.She teased me because I had common sense.I know that I'm in trouble with other girls now for using my brain and deciding not to gamble with my life by smoking and getting drunk.Problem is always horrible to me and I want to ditch her but I can't because knowing her-she'll hit me like she does with the others.
This whole thing is getting me down now I've made her mad,she'll tell the other 'cool' girls and I'll be really unpopular then.
What do I do?
I was in english with my friend and she asked me if I had got the alchol yet.I said to her that I didn't want to do it and she started to be horrible to me,swearing at me and calling me names.I didn't like it so I told her that I would do it.
I told my sister about the problem child last night and she told me that I shouldn't do it.I told my mum about it a couple of hours ago,she told me that I was sensible enough to not want to do it but I should tell my problem.Then I said to her that the problem wanted to do this stunt at my house because it's isolated and nobody from my school would see us.Mum said that problem was stupid.
Problem then texted me asking me 'Hve u askd yt abt the bze?Hve u askd if i cn go rnd 2 ur hse yt?'
Translation:'Have you asked yet about the booze?Have you asked if I can go round to your house yet?'
To which I replied:'No,I don't want to do it.Your just stupid and I'm sensible enough to pull out.Ask when your older.I still won't do it,not with you.'
Then she replied:'Wot,u ****ing swot.'
That was it,I had to make my mum text back to her.
Truth was,when that girl said that to me,it really upset me.She teased me because I had common sense.I know that I'm in trouble with other girls now for using my brain and deciding not to gamble with my life by smoking and getting drunk.Problem is always horrible to me and I want to ditch her but I can't because knowing her-she'll hit me like she does with the others.
This whole thing is getting me down now I've made her mad,she'll tell the other 'cool' girls and I'll be really unpopular then.
What do I do?
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Seeming you won't listen to me in reality sis...
Problem is a total prat anyway, problem ruins you stuff, Problem blames you for everthing! Tell her when shes travelled down from her fantasy land to realise people who get drunk, put a cancerous white stick in their mouth and bear grudges on you for you being sensible aren't cool their total prats and usually end up in jail! Leave her alone and go around with other people!
Problem is a total prat anyway, problem ruins you stuff, Problem blames you for everthing! Tell her when shes travelled down from her fantasy land to realise people who get drunk, put a cancerous white stick in their mouth and bear grudges on you for you being sensible aren't cool their total prats and usually end up in jail! Leave her alone and go around with other people!
I drink but smoking, no!
Cinnamon wrote:
> Edgy the hero sorts it out. I'm sorry for being so useless. Good luck.
lol, I'm used to it, I used to be bullied over stupid things like not wanting to smoke, so I know what it's like.
But honestly, sometimes it is better to be cruel to be kind, than to not say anything at all. You could just try avoiding her, but that can get complicated or lead to her trying to find out to see why you're avoiding her. Your best bet is to tell her exactly how you feel.
If she has given in to the pressure from her piers, than surely she is more foolish than any non smoker/drinker, and you're braver for saying "no"!
And just because you are doing the right thing, it doesn't mean you're a swot.
A swot is a "Student Who Overly Tries", which not many people in todays society can be called. People who are swots are those who are getting A grades all the time, who ask for even more homework, and always hand things in the next morning no matter how much work they've been assigned.
Sadly, because you're twelve, you've got another 4.5 years of this to come yet, but if you stick up for yourself, say 'no', and just be yourself, you'll find a bunch of friends who wont expect you to drink or smoke.
What's ironic is, girls usually like to look good whether it's to try and get boyfriends or whether it's just so that they can feel good. However smoking, even for a little while makes girls look older, wrinkly, spottier, gives them yellow teeth, makes their skin colour fade and go grey, and basically makes them smell of ash trays.
Who'd wanna give them a second look?
> Edgy the hero sorts it out. I'm sorry for being so useless. Good luck.
lol, I'm used to it, I used to be bullied over stupid things like not wanting to smoke, so I know what it's like.
But honestly, sometimes it is better to be cruel to be kind, than to not say anything at all. You could just try avoiding her, but that can get complicated or lead to her trying to find out to see why you're avoiding her. Your best bet is to tell her exactly how you feel.
If she has given in to the pressure from her piers, than surely she is more foolish than any non smoker/drinker, and you're braver for saying "no"!
And just because you are doing the right thing, it doesn't mean you're a swot.
A swot is a "Student Who Overly Tries", which not many people in todays society can be called. People who are swots are those who are getting A grades all the time, who ask for even more homework, and always hand things in the next morning no matter how much work they've been assigned.
Sadly, because you're twelve, you've got another 4.5 years of this to come yet, but if you stick up for yourself, say 'no', and just be yourself, you'll find a bunch of friends who wont expect you to drink or smoke.
What's ironic is, girls usually like to look good whether it's to try and get boyfriends or whether it's just so that they can feel good. However smoking, even for a little while makes girls look older, wrinkly, spottier, gives them yellow teeth, makes their skin colour fade and go grey, and basically makes them smell of ash trays.
Who'd wanna give them a second look?
Do what Edgy said and see how it goes.
You said you might get you face smashed in: why who is she, Mike Tyson in a skirt!
You said you might get you face smashed in: why who is she, Mike Tyson in a skirt!
You`re 12... smoking and alcohol are illegal. What does that mean? Its a great motivation to go and do it. There are frightening statistics showing the number of smokers (particularly girls) in their early teens.
You have the problem that a "friend" wants you to join her. Normally this is good... but with smoking it certainly isn`t. This is not an opinion, this is fact: Do not do it for her, if it is something you don`t want to do. It is dangerous, as we all know, and shouldn`t be done.
I think this person shouldn`t really be on your close friend list anymore. It seems a shame, but sometimes its the way of life. I can tolerate people who smoke... just, but should they try and force me to do so as well, then that would be too much, and I would simply go elsewhere.
At your age, its all about opinions from other people though, and you`re no doubt worried that everyone will get the wrong impression of you. However, remember that its the sensible agreeing voices that are the quietest, as they feel they would be similarly targeted. Those who disagree with you are likely to be in large gangs, all agreeing with one another and no doubt thinking they are cool, and they will be the ones who tell you so - but ignore it.
If you don`t wanna smoke... don`t do it, and good on ya. If it means losing a friend in the process, then it can be tricky, but you`ll probably be better off without her. There are plently more people to be friends with, and they won`t be hard to find. Just be your sensible self.
You have the problem that a "friend" wants you to join her. Normally this is good... but with smoking it certainly isn`t. This is not an opinion, this is fact: Do not do it for her, if it is something you don`t want to do. It is dangerous, as we all know, and shouldn`t be done.
I think this person shouldn`t really be on your close friend list anymore. It seems a shame, but sometimes its the way of life. I can tolerate people who smoke... just, but should they try and force me to do so as well, then that would be too much, and I would simply go elsewhere.
At your age, its all about opinions from other people though, and you`re no doubt worried that everyone will get the wrong impression of you. However, remember that its the sensible agreeing voices that are the quietest, as they feel they would be similarly targeted. Those who disagree with you are likely to be in large gangs, all agreeing with one another and no doubt thinking they are cool, and they will be the ones who tell you so - but ignore it.
If you don`t wanna smoke... don`t do it, and good on ya. If it means losing a friend in the process, then it can be tricky, but you`ll probably be better off without her. There are plently more people to be friends with, and they won`t be hard to find. Just be your sensible self.
Cinnamon wrote:
> Now I'm confused.
I wouldn't make a very good agony aunt would I?
So, what
> is the main problem?
Is this girl bullying you, or is it that you want to be
> friends with her again?
She is acting like a bully towards me,but do I want to be friends with her?
DO I HELL!
I'm having troubles getting rid of her without hurting her and without having my face smashed in.Oh,and I'm kinda bothered about the fact that she's turned my,ahem,'friends' against me.
> Now I'm confused.
I wouldn't make a very good agony aunt would I?
So, what
> is the main problem?
Is this girl bullying you, or is it that you want to be
> friends with her again?
She is acting like a bully towards me,but do I want to be friends with her?
DO I HELL!
I'm having troubles getting rid of her without hurting her and without having my face smashed in.Oh,and I'm kinda bothered about the fact that she's turned my,ahem,'friends' against me.
Edgy the hero sorts it out. I'm sorry for being so useless. Good luck.
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