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"Tallulah opinion needed please (and some grown-ups)"

Should I ask my lady to marry me.
I mean tonight.

Why?
Dunno, seems like the thing to do and she does make a nice cup of tea.

Oh, that and the fact she's the last thing on my mind at night and the 1st thing in the morning.

So?

Please please get her a ring though.

No matter what she says about not caring about things like that this is MARRIAGE. The biggest most important life changing thing that will ever happen to her.

Do not underestimate the power of jewellery.

er-no wrote:
> If you can see yourself spending a long time together, maybe even the rest of
> your lifes, then yes. Ask her.

However, make sure she is something you have
> arguments with, you know, those pointless arguments that make you 'love' each
> other more. A relationship or marrage without arguments is pointless as it will
> just burn up and then break down.

Don't live with someone who just wants to
> try and hold onto you after about five years. From experience is pointless, and
> can end in whatever family you potentially will have being broken and split
> up.

Yes if its love.
No if its love with another ingredient.


Oooh, this is good advice. Not for him, but for me!

Yeah, she could say no. I mean, if my fella asked me, I'd say no, but seeing as its very unlikely he will ask me, god Im rambling.

So what if she says no? Marriage IS only a piece of paper at the end of the day, when all the other stuff is stripped away. But then again, she might say yes, and you'll feel well chuffed. You'll never know if you dont ask.

If you can see yourself spending a long time together, maybe even the rest of your lifes, then yes. Ask her.

However, make sure she is something you have arguments with, you know, those pointless arguments that make you 'love' each other more. A relationship or marrage without arguments is pointless as it will just burn up and then break down.

Don't live with someone who just wants to try and hold onto you after about five years. From experience is pointless, and can end in whatever family you potentially will have being broken and split up.

Yes if its love.
No if its love with another ingredient.

Seriously?
I don't know.
I want to, but at the same time I'd have to hide if she said no or "Where's the ring?" or "Who are you?"

Dunno.
I need to consider.

Not quite, you ask her to marry you, then both keep it schtum and go and pick a ring together, and be all lovey-dovey and then tell the world. Well thats what a girl here did.




So whats the verdict then? To be or not to be?

This was using the "my mate asked me" ruse.

OK, opinion from two women here
"Of course you need a ring, she'll want to ring her mates and that's what they'll ask, what's the ring like"

You shallow, materialistic beasts.

I meant stop being a wimp in the sense that its obvious you love her, and you want to marry her, so stop trying to talk yourself out of it and do it.

Goatboy wrote:
> Tallulah wrote:
Stop being a
> wimp and ask her. Did you just decide this
> today or have you been thinking
> about it for a while?

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Wimp? To
> commit the rest of my life to one person? Wimp?

And I've though about it for
> a while now, just never in a public domain.
I need a smoke to calm me nerves.

Bah, I get nervous all the time, and I don't smoke to calm my nerves. Wimp. ;D