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Without a g/f for over 1.5 years and counting, (Her family moved somewhere too far, so we just “let it go”)
But the point is it ain’t for lack of trying. I simply just don’t understand you women. Look:
So basically, the back-story is that there was this girl that I have now asked out 4 times, but none of them recently (as she is unsingle, though I do still “like” her):-
1) I ask if she wants to see a film. She says yes, this weekend. I say great. Then on the Friday, she says “why don’t we go see it with everyone else?” I figure her parents have said something, or something.
2) I ask if she wants to meet up in town – she has a music lesson. I figure, fair enough.
3) film again – she has already seen it, I figure she ain’t interested but I try again anyway
4) I ask – but now she has a b/f, and asks if we can be “just friends”
*all in the period of about five months*
Some time after I asked this other girl if she wanted to see some film (I forget which film but it was during h/t last year). She says “sure when do you wanna go” I give some day and she doesn’t reply until day before h/t ends saying that “she was sorry, but she was in surrey” or somewhere.
Then there was this other girl, but I didn’t know when I asked that she already had a b/f (this has happened with about two others since).
And it ain’t that I don’t generate interest, firstly because otherwise they would have looked plain insulted and just said no, or said no in a roundabout fashion, whilst lying.
Secondly, some girls keep “doing the flirting” but I just turn them down because I am way too picky. Or I humour them with some in return, only to cleverly change the subject when asked if “I am free sometime” – I’m not harsh though, that would just be… err… harsh.
Before it is suggested – I am not gay (proof is that sometime soon the tagline is changing back to LL instead of ST sorry honey as I don’t care about her lifestyle as I’m unlikely to meet her unless……no) Also I don’t find men attractive.
What I wanna know is WHAT THE HELL DO I HAVE TO DO to get someone who I want. I appreciate women like funny guys who are ”cute” and smart, but I see myself as (without trying to sound arrogant) a little bit of all of those things.
*releases anger, generated by loneliness, by hitting broken TV remote against chair*
*replaces batteries in remote*
Help me with the main problem, as the remote now works fine
But the point is it ain’t for lack of trying. I simply just don’t understand you women. Look:
So basically, the back-story is that there was this girl that I have now asked out 4 times, but none of them recently (as she is unsingle, though I do still “like” her):-
1) I ask if she wants to see a film. She says yes, this weekend. I say great. Then on the Friday, she says “why don’t we go see it with everyone else?” I figure her parents have said something, or something.
2) I ask if she wants to meet up in town – she has a music lesson. I figure, fair enough.
3) film again – she has already seen it, I figure she ain’t interested but I try again anyway
4) I ask – but now she has a b/f, and asks if we can be “just friends”
*all in the period of about five months*
Some time after I asked this other girl if she wanted to see some film (I forget which film but it was during h/t last year). She says “sure when do you wanna go” I give some day and she doesn’t reply until day before h/t ends saying that “she was sorry, but she was in surrey” or somewhere.
Then there was this other girl, but I didn’t know when I asked that she already had a b/f (this has happened with about two others since).
And it ain’t that I don’t generate interest, firstly because otherwise they would have looked plain insulted and just said no, or said no in a roundabout fashion, whilst lying.
Secondly, some girls keep “doing the flirting” but I just turn them down because I am way too picky. Or I humour them with some in return, only to cleverly change the subject when asked if “I am free sometime” – I’m not harsh though, that would just be… err… harsh.
Before it is suggested – I am not gay (proof is that sometime soon the tagline is changing back to LL instead of ST sorry honey as I don’t care about her lifestyle as I’m unlikely to meet her unless……no) Also I don’t find men attractive.
What I wanna know is WHAT THE HELL DO I HAVE TO DO to get someone who I want. I appreciate women like funny guys who are ”cute” and smart, but I see myself as (without trying to sound arrogant) a little bit of all of those things.
*releases anger, generated by loneliness, by hitting broken TV remote against chair*
*replaces batteries in remote*
Help me with the main problem, as the remote now works fine
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Like what?
Headbutted them?
Headbutted them?
SHEEPY wrote:
> I'm starting to worry that I'm not interesting in getting a shag
> anymore.
> I'd much rather have a really nice baguette with melted cheese and
> ham.
man food is good, and right now I'd choose the same thing.
> I'm starting to worry that I'm not interesting in getting a shag
> anymore.
> I'd much rather have a really nice baguette with melted cheese and
> ham.
man food is good, and right now I'd choose the same thing.
I've been trying to work it out recently.
There's a lot to work out, and there's the risk of trying too hard if you try to 'use' anything you work out.
The way I see it, people can tell if you want something from them, and the automatic reaction is defensive, to pull away. It's instinctive.
Plus if you're trying too hard it suggests that she's 'better' than you, hence you're pursuing her. Which says she can do better. I think that's instinctive again.
I've not had so much success lately either though, bar one girl who turned out to be pretty easy (no offence to her but, well, she is), so maybe I'm not the best one to give advice.
But instead of asking out one girl 4 times, maybe you'd do better asking out 4 girls one time each.
And she doesn't have to be perfect. You don't have to meet your future wife now, just have a good time.
There's a lot to work out, and there's the risk of trying too hard if you try to 'use' anything you work out.
The way I see it, people can tell if you want something from them, and the automatic reaction is defensive, to pull away. It's instinctive.
Plus if you're trying too hard it suggests that she's 'better' than you, hence you're pursuing her. Which says she can do better. I think that's instinctive again.
I've not had so much success lately either though, bar one girl who turned out to be pretty easy (no offence to her but, well, she is), so maybe I'm not the best one to give advice.
But instead of asking out one girl 4 times, maybe you'd do better asking out 4 girls one time each.
And she doesn't have to be perfect. You don't have to meet your future wife now, just have a good time.
What do you mean your taking my name off ?
We will be having words about this..
We will be having words about this..
Every time I try to ask a girl out they say yes (probably thinking I mean as a friend) then as the time comes closer they always cancel.
Something's come up, they're stuck at work, they're too tired, or they simply don't answer their phone when I call to make sure it's still on.
They're trying to tell me something, I just don't know what it is.
Something's come up, they're stuck at work, they're too tired, or they simply don't answer their phone when I call to make sure it's still on.
They're trying to tell me something, I just don't know what it is.
Generally I'm 'found'. I hardly ever innitiate, not because I'm damn sexy and women flock to me etc, but because I'm a lazy ass and I don't care either way. If someone takes an interest in me, well, ok. Being the predator is fun, but when the prey are mong-faced girls with zero intelligence, it gets a little... ineffectual, I guess.
But yeah, as everyone says, the problem is you wanting it so much. Learn how unimportant it is, and it becomes much easier.
But yeah, as everyone says, the problem is you wanting it so much. Learn how unimportant it is, and it becomes much easier.
I only have one thought on this thread:
people who seem to believe it's necessary to have a partner at all times confuse me. I have friends and it's all they think about. "omg I don't have a girlfriend I need to get one" etc. I don't get it.
people who seem to believe it's necessary to have a partner at all times confuse me. I have friends and it's all they think about. "omg I don't have a girlfriend I need to get one" etc. I don't get it.
This thread makes me sad, mainly because i'm starting to think the same way or possibly because i've spent the last 10 years actually trying to get rid of that sort of uncaring, neglectful side, i think i've gone to far now and become pathologically nice.
Grrrrrraaaaaghhhhhh!
Grrrrrraaaaaghhhhhh!
mermoid wrote:
> I only have one thought on this thread:
> people who seem to believe it's necessary to have a partner at all
> times confuse me. I have friends and it's all they think about.
> "omg I don't have a girlfriend I need to get one" etc. I
> don't get it.
Yeah be like Merm talk to your mouse :D
I know what you mean, my girlfriend and i ended things summer '03 and i don't care either way about getting a new girlfriend i am happy, just going out getting to know people. There seem to be so many people that need to have a partner and when they don't have one they need attention all the time (which ticks me off) cause they are missing that side of them.
> I only have one thought on this thread:
> people who seem to believe it's necessary to have a partner at all
> times confuse me. I have friends and it's all they think about.
> "omg I don't have a girlfriend I need to get one" etc. I
> don't get it.
Yeah be like Merm talk to your mouse :D
I know what you mean, my girlfriend and i ended things summer '03 and i don't care either way about getting a new girlfriend i am happy, just going out getting to know people. There seem to be so many people that need to have a partner and when they don't have one they need attention all the time (which ticks me off) cause they are missing that side of them.
Vampyr wrote:
> *all in the period of about five months*
In 5 months? Jeez. She sounds like one of those I'll play around with his head for a while, tease him, but won't give types of girlies.
Or she says Yes, thinking it'll be a harmless night out with a friend, but then worries later on that you'll try it on but only wants you as a friend. Something like that.. :^) And/Or.. just not interested.
I also agree with the wonderful weirdness of some people feeling to need to have a partner all the while. A friend at work asked the other day, "Do you have a boyfriend?" No. "Are you happy?" What the hell? Of course I'm freaking happy! I'm not dead, am I? Prats.
> *all in the period of about five months*
In 5 months? Jeez. She sounds like one of those I'll play around with his head for a while, tease him, but won't give types of girlies.
Or she says Yes, thinking it'll be a harmless night out with a friend, but then worries later on that you'll try it on but only wants you as a friend. Something like that.. :^) And/Or.. just not interested.
I also agree with the wonderful weirdness of some people feeling to need to have a partner all the while. A friend at work asked the other day, "Do you have a boyfriend?" No. "Are you happy?" What the hell? Of course I'm freaking happy! I'm not dead, am I? Prats.
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