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"Who hasn't cut themselves?"

is it just me, or do other people do it too?

I think self harming is one of those things that you dont understand until you've done it yourself. Ive come across very few people that havent done it that say they understand why someone would do it.

I don't fully understand the reasoning though.

And listing 'good reasons' to self-harm doesn't really resolve it. I can understand how people resort to alcohol or something if they're feeling down but I still don't get self-harming.

It's probably just me but I still don't get it.

darkcrystal wrote:
> I talk to someone on MSN who cuts herself and had to go to a mental
> institution recently. It was a bit freaky when she said 'I've just
> cut myself and feel better'.

But thats exactly why people do it, it does very briefly make them feel better.

Novocaine wrote:

> I've been told inconsistent, speaking to someone different everytime

Yes, they are very inconsistent, and also very impersonal. A lot of people want the comfort and security of knowing there is someone there for them in the long-term, a helpline is neither comforting nor a security long-term due to the obvious lack of consistency and lack of physical contact which makes people feel less alone.

chippxero wrote:
> Unfortunatly what you say is probably true of alot of people that do
> it and make it known. They probably get the same sort of reaction
> from their peers as alot of the negative posts in this forum. But
> this is probably because of so many teenagers do it cause they want
> attention

I've spoken to maybe a handful of people about it but i've never found someone who didn't have an adequate reason, i've never heard of anyone doing it simply for attention unless you're thinking about some sort of Munchausen(Correct me if i'm wrong) sydrome.

> and the ones that really need the help don't get it cause
> is it dismissed as just a phase. I relise that alot of them can't
> talk to people about the problems either through fear of it being
> just seen as silly or through the thought that people will think
> badly of them.

And thats why i got so annoyed at this thread, it's just an example of the kind of attitude thats making it harder for them to get help.

> There are alot of helplines that could be the answer for many young
> people as means that it's a stranger and not someone that will judge
> them. I just hope people can find the help that they need.

I've been told inconsistent, speaking to someone different everytime

I talk to someone on MSN who cuts herself and had to go to a mental institution recently. It was a bit freaky when she said 'I've just cut myself and feel better'.

Unfortunatly what you say is probably true of alot of people that do it and make it known. They probably get the same sort of reaction from their peers as alot of the negative posts in this forum. But this is probably because of so many teenagers do it cause they want attention and the ones that really need the help don't get it cause is it dismissed as just a phase. I relise that alot of them can't talk to people about the problems either through fear of it being just seen as silly or through the thought that people will think badly of them.

There are alot of helplines that could be the answer for many young people as means that it's a stranger and not someone that will judge them. I just hope people can find the help that they need.

I understand what you mean. The problem is though that with some people who self harm, it has come about because they have found shut doors when reaching out for help, so looking for help is proving fruitless. People who cut and make it known are asking for help, all be it not verbally, but many meet hostility rather than getting the help they need.

Then they need to keep looking because nothing will change unless they try to make it change. I'm not trying to say that everyones problems are going to be solved straight away but nothing gets solved if they keep it to themselves. I hope you understand what i mean.

What if the help they receive isnt enough, or isnt the right kind of help chippxero?