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I have decided to start a discussion on the topic of sex education. This idea has come from reading the "Young Prostitutes" thread and this comment:
xgamer wrote:
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> They teach them at 10 actually. Isn't that a bit young ?
>
Haldisa wrote:
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>I dont think so.
Sex Education: Where Do You Stand?
This is my opinion, I would like to hear where you stand in each of these 3 areas:
Teaching in schools
I feel the teaching of sex education in schools leaves a lot to be desired. In my school we had maybe 3 lessons in religion class each year on the subject, all very basic where a baby comes from stuff, nothing at all dealing with the emotional side rather than the physical. In primary school we had one day in our last year dedicated to sex education, it was pointless. It consisted of the woman reading through a couple of stories about teenagers’ dilemmas with their boy/girlfriends and a discussion of what we as a class thought would be the right outcome to the situation. I have heard of schemes run in other schools where parents are more involved in the sex education programme. This I feel, has its positives and its negatives for the child, but should be an option given in more schools to have parent involvement.
Teaching at home
I think this is the vital area for a child to develop a sexual education. I am a firm believer that it should be the parents who teach the child about sexual relationships. Parents, unlike teachers, can give their child something that usually isn’t present in a school situation – two way communication and a bond that hopefully gives the child the confidence to talk when they need to about sexual matters. I feel that one of the more important areas of parenting is dealing with sex education in a positive manner, unfortunately it is an area largely ignored by most parents simply because it can be awkward and uncomfortable sometimes, but surely your child having the right information and the confidence to talk to you when they want or need to is far more important.
What age?
So, at what age should the subject first be broached with a child? Well that does largely depend on the child and when the parent feels they are ready, but sometimes it may be better if the parent helps the child be ready than wait until they feel the child is ready. I think first approaching the subject when the child is young, maybe 8-9 is a positive step, it opens the door before the child has had too much exposure to the schoolyard rumours and gossip, and also starts building the relationship from a young age between parent and child. At this young age obviously not too much info need be given but it also means that as the child grows there doesn’t need to be one time where the child gets an information overload and then it’s never mentioned again.
xgamer wrote:
>
> They teach them at 10 actually. Isn't that a bit young ?
>
Haldisa wrote:
>
>I dont think so.
Sex Education: Where Do You Stand?
This is my opinion, I would like to hear where you stand in each of these 3 areas:
Teaching in schools
I feel the teaching of sex education in schools leaves a lot to be desired. In my school we had maybe 3 lessons in religion class each year on the subject, all very basic where a baby comes from stuff, nothing at all dealing with the emotional side rather than the physical. In primary school we had one day in our last year dedicated to sex education, it was pointless. It consisted of the woman reading through a couple of stories about teenagers’ dilemmas with their boy/girlfriends and a discussion of what we as a class thought would be the right outcome to the situation. I have heard of schemes run in other schools where parents are more involved in the sex education programme. This I feel, has its positives and its negatives for the child, but should be an option given in more schools to have parent involvement.
Teaching at home
I think this is the vital area for a child to develop a sexual education. I am a firm believer that it should be the parents who teach the child about sexual relationships. Parents, unlike teachers, can give their child something that usually isn’t present in a school situation – two way communication and a bond that hopefully gives the child the confidence to talk when they need to about sexual matters. I feel that one of the more important areas of parenting is dealing with sex education in a positive manner, unfortunately it is an area largely ignored by most parents simply because it can be awkward and uncomfortable sometimes, but surely your child having the right information and the confidence to talk to you when they want or need to is far more important.
What age?
So, at what age should the subject first be broached with a child? Well that does largely depend on the child and when the parent feels they are ready, but sometimes it may be better if the parent helps the child be ready than wait until they feel the child is ready. I think first approaching the subject when the child is young, maybe 8-9 is a positive step, it opens the door before the child has had too much exposure to the schoolyard rumours and gossip, and also starts building the relationship from a young age between parent and child. At this young age obviously not too much info need be given but it also means that as the child grows there doesn’t need to be one time where the child gets an information overload and then it’s never mentioned again.
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When I was learning about sex I got all my info about it and the femlae anatomy from PORNO WOOHOOO. Im still too young to watch porn and I stopped. lol. Shows how much porn protection works. Its an interesting idea, expose kids to controlled porn, well more like allow them to be exposed to it. If they are curious let them look up brazilian transvesites eating horses. Considering a learned a lot from porn, I have a pretty ANTI pornish view of sex etc. I dont think it teaches anything about the meaning of sex, I dont know where I got that from. lol. Oh well. Some fathers even give their sons playboy mags. lol. thats such an easy way. (remember american pie?). hm. Unfortunately I dont like the idea of my kids looking at porn, lol, so theres no way that would ever happen. What parents could do is give their kids 'demonstrations' (like in the meaning of life) and the kids would horrible castrate themselves a few minutes later. problem solved. lol.
Argh. its a tricky issue. The school can easily handle the biological side, IF kids are ready. Maybe if the kids choose WHEN theyre ready to learn about it, through internet resources accesed through the school. that way you can view it whenever you want in the privacy of your own home with your lad out. lol. I suppose that the parents HAVE to educate the child regarding the emotional side of sex, and that needs to start relatively young. I really wouldnt know where to begin though.
Argh. its a tricky issue. The school can easily handle the biological side, IF kids are ready. Maybe if the kids choose WHEN theyre ready to learn about it, through internet resources accesed through the school. that way you can view it whenever you want in the privacy of your own home with your lad out. lol. I suppose that the parents HAVE to educate the child regarding the emotional side of sex, and that needs to start relatively young. I really wouldnt know where to begin though.
Haldisa wrote:
> JFH wrote:
> I'd be too embarassed to go through everything with my parents.
> Talking with a stranger or reading leaflets is a much better option.
>
> What if they had brought it up with you at an early age though rather
> than waiting til you knew it was something that causes embarrassment?
Heh, talking to parents about sex is just one of those most uncomfortable moments in life.
"Awwww, mum! Jeez, what did you have to say that for?!"
I mean, come on! It's only uncomfortable because they're your parents and they hump and you don't fancy them. I get embarassed talking to my parents about my boyfriends!
Either early age talking to the parents, or internet/books/strangers/teachers is the best thing. It's good to talk to friends about it, but you never get the real facts. Parents would be my least preferred option, because you have to see them everyday knowing you've talked about it. Teachers are like doctors with sex-ed, they make you feel comfortable.
I had sex-ed once during the whole time at school. It involved video of a naked man and woman with the whole class giggling. Then ended up putting condoms on bent test tubes. Only a few were willing to do it. They also gave away free condoms, but hardly anyone took them and I kept that condom in my pencil case until Year 11 and then blew it up in the sports hall. Looked like a giant boob.
> JFH wrote:
> I'd be too embarassed to go through everything with my parents.
> Talking with a stranger or reading leaflets is a much better option.
>
> What if they had brought it up with you at an early age though rather
> than waiting til you knew it was something that causes embarrassment?
Heh, talking to parents about sex is just one of those most uncomfortable moments in life.
"Awwww, mum! Jeez, what did you have to say that for?!"
I mean, come on! It's only uncomfortable because they're your parents and they hump and you don't fancy them. I get embarassed talking to my parents about my boyfriends!
Either early age talking to the parents, or internet/books/strangers/teachers is the best thing. It's good to talk to friends about it, but you never get the real facts. Parents would be my least preferred option, because you have to see them everyday knowing you've talked about it. Teachers are like doctors with sex-ed, they make you feel comfortable.
I had sex-ed once during the whole time at school. It involved video of a naked man and woman with the whole class giggling. Then ended up putting condoms on bent test tubes. Only a few were willing to do it. They also gave away free condoms, but hardly anyone took them and I kept that condom in my pencil case until Year 11 and then blew it up in the sports hall. Looked like a giant boob.
I should have guessed it was that.
Haldisa wrote:
> Novocaine wrote:
>
> I would have benefitted from having someone i could trust all
> through
> my life, if you mean would i have talked about it then, i dont know,
> you've seen how i've opened up to you but whether i would have back
> then i've no idea.
>
> I was quite different back then too, and I doubt you would have
> viewed me the same way, but if someone my age and like me now had
> been around when you were 12 do you feel you would have maybe opened
> to them?
No i dont think so, i think it's important to be on an even scale and i would have ignored someone older, the reason i get on with you is because we're usually on the same level these days.
> Novocaine wrote:
>
> I would have benefitted from having someone i could trust all
> through
> my life, if you mean would i have talked about it then, i dont know,
> you've seen how i've opened up to you but whether i would have back
> then i've no idea.
>
> I was quite different back then too, and I doubt you would have
> viewed me the same way, but if someone my age and like me now had
> been around when you were 12 do you feel you would have maybe opened
> to them?
No i dont think so, i think it's important to be on an even scale and i would have ignored someone older, the reason i get on with you is because we're usually on the same level these days.
Novocaine wrote:
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> I would have benefitted from having someone i could trust all through
> my life, if you mean would i have talked about it then, i dont know,
> you've seen how i've opened up to you but whether i would have back
> then i've no idea.
I was quite different back then too, and I doubt you would have viewed me the same way, but if someone my age and like me now had been around when you were 12 do you feel you would have maybe opened to them?
>
> I would have benefitted from having someone i could trust all through
> my life, if you mean would i have talked about it then, i dont know,
> you've seen how i've opened up to you but whether i would have back
> then i've no idea.
I was quite different back then too, and I doubt you would have viewed me the same way, but if someone my age and like me now had been around when you were 12 do you feel you would have maybe opened to them?
Haldisa wrote:
> Novocaine wrote:
> Haldisa wrote:
> What would you have done if you had questions?
>
> I would have ignored them, i was very shy
>
> Do you feel you would have benefited from having someone you could
> trust to ask at the time? Or do you feel it wouldnt have made a
> difference?
I would have benefitted from having someone i could trust all through my life, if you mean would i have talked about it then, i dont know, you've seen how i've opened up to you but whether i would have back then i've no idea.
> Novocaine wrote:
> Haldisa wrote:
> What would you have done if you had questions?
>
> I would have ignored them, i was very shy
>
> Do you feel you would have benefited from having someone you could
> trust to ask at the time? Or do you feel it wouldnt have made a
> difference?
I would have benefitted from having someone i could trust all through my life, if you mean would i have talked about it then, i dont know, you've seen how i've opened up to you but whether i would have back then i've no idea.
Novocaine wrote:
> Haldisa wrote:
> What would you have done if you had questions?
>
> I would have ignored them, i was very shy
Do you feel you would have benefited from having someone you could trust to ask at the time? Or do you feel it wouldnt have made a difference?
> Haldisa wrote:
> What would you have done if you had questions?
>
> I would have ignored them, i was very shy
Do you feel you would have benefited from having someone you could trust to ask at the time? Or do you feel it wouldnt have made a difference?
Haldisa wrote:
> What would you have done if you had questions?
I would have ignored them, i was very shy
> What would you have done if you had questions?
I would have ignored them, i was very shy
JFH wrote:
> Just talking to your peers can get you a lot of information
Good lord no
> newspapers
Aye The Sun, the great educator
> tv and the internet
You're kidding, honestly ?
> There is plent of other information available. Of course not all of it
> is reliable.
See above
> Just talking to your peers can get you a lot of information
Good lord no
> newspapers
Aye The Sun, the great educator
> tv and the internet
You're kidding, honestly ?
> There is plent of other information available. Of course not all of it
> is reliable.
See above
Novocaine wrote:
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> It wouldn't have for me, i think the books thing would, ideally you
> give them as much education as possible without making them
> uncomfortable and while the parents would be the best way thats not
> always the possible.
What would you have done if you had questions?
>
> It wouldn't have for me, i think the books thing would, ideally you
> give them as much education as possible without making them
> uncomfortable and while the parents would be the best way thats not
> always the possible.
What would you have done if you had questions?
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