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I have decided to start a discussion on the topic of sex education. This idea has come from reading the "Young Prostitutes" thread and this comment:
xgamer wrote:
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> They teach them at 10 actually. Isn't that a bit young ?
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Haldisa wrote:
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>I dont think so.
Sex Education: Where Do You Stand?
This is my opinion, I would like to hear where you stand in each of these 3 areas:
Teaching in schools
I feel the teaching of sex education in schools leaves a lot to be desired. In my school we had maybe 3 lessons in religion class each year on the subject, all very basic where a baby comes from stuff, nothing at all dealing with the emotional side rather than the physical. In primary school we had one day in our last year dedicated to sex education, it was pointless. It consisted of the woman reading through a couple of stories about teenagers’ dilemmas with their boy/girlfriends and a discussion of what we as a class thought would be the right outcome to the situation. I have heard of schemes run in other schools where parents are more involved in the sex education programme. This I feel, has its positives and its negatives for the child, but should be an option given in more schools to have parent involvement.
Teaching at home
I think this is the vital area for a child to develop a sexual education. I am a firm believer that it should be the parents who teach the child about sexual relationships. Parents, unlike teachers, can give their child something that usually isn’t present in a school situation – two way communication and a bond that hopefully gives the child the confidence to talk when they need to about sexual matters. I feel that one of the more important areas of parenting is dealing with sex education in a positive manner, unfortunately it is an area largely ignored by most parents simply because it can be awkward and uncomfortable sometimes, but surely your child having the right information and the confidence to talk to you when they want or need to is far more important.
What age?
So, at what age should the subject first be broached with a child? Well that does largely depend on the child and when the parent feels they are ready, but sometimes it may be better if the parent helps the child be ready than wait until they feel the child is ready. I think first approaching the subject when the child is young, maybe 8-9 is a positive step, it opens the door before the child has had too much exposure to the schoolyard rumours and gossip, and also starts building the relationship from a young age between parent and child. At this young age obviously not too much info need be given but it also means that as the child grows there doesn’t need to be one time where the child gets an information overload and then it’s never mentioned again.
xgamer wrote:
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> They teach them at 10 actually. Isn't that a bit young ?
>
Haldisa wrote:
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>I dont think so.
Sex Education: Where Do You Stand?
This is my opinion, I would like to hear where you stand in each of these 3 areas:
Teaching in schools
I feel the teaching of sex education in schools leaves a lot to be desired. In my school we had maybe 3 lessons in religion class each year on the subject, all very basic where a baby comes from stuff, nothing at all dealing with the emotional side rather than the physical. In primary school we had one day in our last year dedicated to sex education, it was pointless. It consisted of the woman reading through a couple of stories about teenagers’ dilemmas with their boy/girlfriends and a discussion of what we as a class thought would be the right outcome to the situation. I have heard of schemes run in other schools where parents are more involved in the sex education programme. This I feel, has its positives and its negatives for the child, but should be an option given in more schools to have parent involvement.
Teaching at home
I think this is the vital area for a child to develop a sexual education. I am a firm believer that it should be the parents who teach the child about sexual relationships. Parents, unlike teachers, can give their child something that usually isn’t present in a school situation – two way communication and a bond that hopefully gives the child the confidence to talk when they need to about sexual matters. I feel that one of the more important areas of parenting is dealing with sex education in a positive manner, unfortunately it is an area largely ignored by most parents simply because it can be awkward and uncomfortable sometimes, but surely your child having the right information and the confidence to talk to you when they want or need to is far more important.
What age?
So, at what age should the subject first be broached with a child? Well that does largely depend on the child and when the parent feels they are ready, but sometimes it may be better if the parent helps the child be ready than wait until they feel the child is ready. I think first approaching the subject when the child is young, maybe 8-9 is a positive step, it opens the door before the child has had too much exposure to the schoolyard rumours and gossip, and also starts building the relationship from a young age between parent and child. At this young age obviously not too much info need be given but it also means that as the child grows there doesn’t need to be one time where the child gets an information overload and then it’s never mentioned again.
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I'd be too embarassed to go through everything with my parents. Talking with a stranger or reading leaflets is a much better option.
I definitely think it should start at home. I dont know about what age. At my school we had absolutely NO sexual education, even though Im pretty sure its a requirement by law (in ireland). I think the school should be able to teach some aspects of it, i.e biology behind it, aswell as info on pregnancy, stds and safety etc. I think it should be up to parents to teach most of it at home. after all thats where most of the sex happens. with your family. eh? eh? well maybe not. if schools try to scare kids away from sex, like a lot do, then the kids are gonna ignore it and see right through it. kids are smart. lol. What would work just as well if not better would be promoting chastity, although I cant see that catching on either.
whats the point any more you have adults now saying " didnt think it would happen to me " banging head against brick wall !!! and as for the "what to do part " dosent take much working out
Haldisa wrote:
> Teaching in schools
More structured would be useful, you can't have lessons whenever, having said that i know certain people who would skip that day or lesson to avoid it.
If you're going to teach it you have to do it completely, it's no good going through the science only to leave the whole other side alone.
I dont think it helps to learn that in a group environment, it only takes one person to cause trouble and it could decend into chaos, not all kids are ready to learn that stuff at the same time but someone has to teach it and as you say most parents would rather leave it to the education system.
> Teaching at home
>
> I think this is the vital area for a child to develop a sexual
> education. I am a firm believer that it should be the parents who
> teach the child about sexual relationships. Parents, unlike teachers,
> can give their child something that usually isn’t present in a school
> situation – two way communication and a bond that hopefully gives the
> child the confidence to talk when they need to about sexual matters.
> I feel that one of the more important areas of parenting is dealing
> with sex education in a positive manner, unfortunately it is an area
> largely ignored by most parents simply because it can be awkward and
> uncomfortable sometimes, but surely your child having the right
> information and the confidence to talk to you when they want or need
> to is far more important.
Can't really add much to that, it would be the ideal way but thats not the way it is, you can't talk to a kid if they dont want to listen to what you're saying, i think i'd buy some books and let then read when theyre ready, i think it helps if you're not embarassed and books take away the personal side.
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> What age?
Obviously before puberty, i think on a need to know basis but it would be a good idea to have gone through it before secondary school, things tend to go a bit mad after that.
> Teaching in schools
More structured would be useful, you can't have lessons whenever, having said that i know certain people who would skip that day or lesson to avoid it.
If you're going to teach it you have to do it completely, it's no good going through the science only to leave the whole other side alone.
I dont think it helps to learn that in a group environment, it only takes one person to cause trouble and it could decend into chaos, not all kids are ready to learn that stuff at the same time but someone has to teach it and as you say most parents would rather leave it to the education system.
> Teaching at home
>
> I think this is the vital area for a child to develop a sexual
> education. I am a firm believer that it should be the parents who
> teach the child about sexual relationships. Parents, unlike teachers,
> can give their child something that usually isn’t present in a school
> situation – two way communication and a bond that hopefully gives the
> child the confidence to talk when they need to about sexual matters.
> I feel that one of the more important areas of parenting is dealing
> with sex education in a positive manner, unfortunately it is an area
> largely ignored by most parents simply because it can be awkward and
> uncomfortable sometimes, but surely your child having the right
> information and the confidence to talk to you when they want or need
> to is far more important.
Can't really add much to that, it would be the ideal way but thats not the way it is, you can't talk to a kid if they dont want to listen to what you're saying, i think i'd buy some books and let then read when theyre ready, i think it helps if you're not embarassed and books take away the personal side.
>
> What age?
Obviously before puberty, i think on a need to know basis but it would be a good idea to have gone through it before secondary school, things tend to go a bit mad after that.
Haldisa wrote:
> Ive heard about these Disney videos. What age group were your class
> then and when do you feel it would have been more appropriate to show
> them?
We'd have been 10 or 11. I think that just waiting one or two years more would have been adequate. Though waiting would have meant we'd have been in secondary school so maybe it was best to see them just before going into a more grown up environment.
> Ive heard about these Disney videos. What age group were your class
> then and when do you feel it would have been more appropriate to show
> them?
We'd have been 10 or 11. I think that just waiting one or two years more would have been adequate. Though waiting would have meant we'd have been in secondary school so maybe it was best to see them just before going into a more grown up environment.
A worse lie has never been told.
gerbil man wrote:
> Haldisa wrote:
> Where Do You Stand?
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> Behind Emma Watson.
Hilary Duff > Emma Watson
> Haldisa wrote:
> Where Do You Stand?
>
> Behind Emma Watson.
Hilary Duff > Emma Watson
JFH wrote:
> It was an awful lesson. We watched two videos made by Disney, one for
> boys and one for girls.... I did feel it was too early to have a lesson
> like that though because everyone was giggling all the way through.
Ive heard about these Disney videos. What age group were your class then and when do you feel it would have been more appropriate to show them?
> It was an awful lesson. We watched two videos made by Disney, one for
> boys and one for girls.... I did feel it was too early to have a lesson
> like that though because everyone was giggling all the way through.
Ive heard about these Disney videos. What age group were your class then and when do you feel it would have been more appropriate to show them?
It was an awful lesson. We watched two videos made by Disney, one for boys and one for girls. They weren't particuarly helpful and they just went over basic changes during puberty and the reasons for periods, erections, etc. I did feel it was too early to have a lesson like that though because everyone was giggling all the way through.
JFH wrote:
> I'm in year 10 and I've had one sex education lesson throughout my
> whole life and that was in year 6. Obviously we've covered the
> technical side of things in biology but nothing else.
Do you feel that it was adequate, or that it could be dealt with more thoroughly? Or would you rather it wasnt dealt with at all?
> I'm in year 10 and I've had one sex education lesson throughout my
> whole life and that was in year 6. Obviously we've covered the
> technical side of things in biology but nothing else.
Do you feel that it was adequate, or that it could be dealt with more thoroughly? Or would you rather it wasnt dealt with at all?
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