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"Confused about Girlfriend..."

I've had many a girlfriend in the past, but the one I am going out with at the moment is something very special and i can honestly say that I love her... and she loves me, or so she says.

Anyway, last week she sed she didn't want me to go out with her that friday as she was going out one last time with her friends before she went on holiday. Nothing to do with the fact they my friends as well.. anyway, I didn't go in the end. But they all stayed over nite at one of the friends house and apparantly she kissed this other guy, but broke away. She claims she cant remember it, and there were no witnesses, so I cant confirm either way.

We decided to forget about it. I wanted to be angry, just couldn't though. Very weird. She also then told me the real reason she went out was cos she wanted to see wat it was liked without me and then proceeded to go on about how she'll never exclude me again cos it wasn't fun.

She then went on holiday and is still on holiday and will be for a few more weeks. I went out friday nite and stayed at the same friends house and apparantly someone there told her that I was flirting with some of the girls there. All of which back me up in saying that I wasn't.

I then proceeded to get quite a hurtful email saying how I didn't think about her while she's out there and that I am using her kissing that guy as an excuse to get revenge. Even though I honestly did nothing.

I don't really have a reason to post this tbh. I just wanted some ppl to talk to it about with.

Basically, what would you all do? I love her... but at the same time I am hating her for making me feel this way. And i know she used to fancy the guy she kissed, so probably still does. And when she sed she is looking forward to getting home, seeing me wasn't the first thing she sed, it was so she could talk to him about something "important". That could be seen as 2 things. Either she's gonna tell him that him and her are never gonna happen... or well, I don't really wanna think about that...

I cant work anything out and I am very confused about it all... She even spent the whole of the day after she kissed the guy slagging him off... but you would though wouldn't you? You wouldn't be saying good things about them after something like that.

What should I do? Should I do anything? Anyone fancy offering some advise or physcological reports?


Thanks anyways.
Look forward to seeing some replies in the morning.

You two could just both be, shock horror, HONEST with each other no? None of this revenge business and listening to friends who are clearly just spinning out gossip. Just tell each other honestly what you've been up to and how you feel about it all and you should be able to work through it.

Hedfix wrote:
> That sucks. Just try to get on with life until those 11 days are up.

Its easy to say it... following it through is very hard.

Yeah I don't know you.

I feel like a member of Jerry Springer's audience or something (except my father wasn't a pig and I have an education and dreams beyond eating the biggest burger in the world). :S

But for what it's worth: the cinema thing sounds odd to me.

Y'see, I know exactly what position you're in - I've been there myself, and it sucks. The fact that all she can talk about is her need to speak to this guy, and not that she misses you and wants to be with you, kinda proves her heart's not in the right place. She needs to get her priorities right before messing you around. Why do they need to go to the movies to 'talk'??

As everyone knows, relationships are built on trust - without that, they're worthless.

Well done to you for trusting, caring and genuinely being concerned about the future of your relationship. Since us lot don't know the full details - and don't know the two of you personally - we could never be in any position to fully judge your circumstances.

It's all up to the two of you to sort this out. You'll make the right choice in the end, and if you don't, it's not the end of the world, there's plenty more fish in the sea etc. :)

That sucks. Just try to get on with life until those 11 days are up.

I believe the person who said I was flirting was her ex, a supposed new mate of mine... Probably just trying to split us up, but it had the desired effect and made her very worried.

Her friends say she never ses stuff that she dont mean, so I guess she prolly isn't lieing to me. I just need to know what she needs to talk to this guy about...

Well, 11 days and I'll have an answer. How badly does that suck!

I already know of 2 others who are available to me...

But, Yes, I do love her.

I think Bullet's first part was right. She really dont seem to be worth it. I'll just see how it goes when she comes back.

Another update from the land of email, she needs to talk to the guy she kissed about "stuff that was said". But she ses the only way I'll ever lose her is if I two time. But she's going ALONE to the cinema with this guy so they can talk about it.

I really mite just ask her about it when she returns.... I'll probably dump her soon. It'd kill me if she did anything else, so yeah... best without her probably, even if I do love her, she obviously doesn't love me. So, no point wasting my time tbh.

Heh, good point :D

But, if it turns out that the relationship has to end for whatever reason, he'll need to get over it as depression can be a nasty illness.

Therefore, he should try to forget about her and go out on the pull again!

Love hurts. It's a fact you have to deal with.

ßulle†† wrote:
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> If this pathetic bitchiness carries on, just stop caring, go out and
> nail as many women as you can. You'll feel a lot better for it.

Unless he does actually love her in which case he probably won't.

Bullett's advice seems generally sound, apart from the last bit actually.

Mystique's just mucking around - ignore her.

Azul's just being Azul.

El Robin is too simple as usual.

Don't ask me, I don't have enough information.