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"Bulleying"

A lot of people get bulleyed, it's a common thing, even I used to get bulleyed, but now I have a problem, my brother, now my brother is really disturbed, he has a lot of problems, I mean he is a failure at school, and everybody keeps mucking him because he is fat, the problem is there are people who are bulleying him these days, now anybody else can handle it, but he is greatly hurt, he keeps crying every night, and the teachers wouldn't help, I thought of beating the guys who bulleyed him, but I thought they might do it again to take revenge from him, which complicates things even more, so any advice would be helpful please.

Mav wrote:
> I'd disagree, Horno.
>
> I'd say doing what you did in your little "story" is
> exactly what you said was bullsh*t. You were a bully to beat the
> bully. You lowered yourself to the bully's level and that's not the
> right thing to do.

What's the right thing to do then?

You can't just let them get away with it or else it will come to the stage where suicide comes to mind.

My advice is to fight back. I wouldn't even warn them, I'd just go straight up them and fight the main one.

Sometimes its worth taking yourself to that level as long as what you achieve is to make somebody else feel better. Whether or not the story is true i don't know. Whether or not his advice is completely sound i am not sure. But I agree that violence is probably a very viable option for this particularly serious case.

I'd disagree, Horno.

I'd say doing what you did in your little "story" is exactly what you said was bullsh*t. You were a bully to beat the bully. You lowered yourself to the bully's level and that's not the right thing to do.

Good advice.

Right, I work with youths who are troubled, so I do know a little about this kind of thing. I'm not going to go into all that cr@p about why bullies do what they do, besides, it's obvious. They are morons!

Firstly ignore all the idiots who say beating up a bully makes you as bad as them. That is total b******t - they don't know what they're talking about.

From what you have said already, I can see that your brother is in dire need of help. If this is allowed to continue it could have very serious reprocussions, if not now, then in later life. You, as his older brother, have a responsibility for his well-being. Unfortunately parents' hands are quite often tied when it comes to the bullying of their offspring (the law is not on thier side). It is up to you to sort these people out! You've got a few years on them, but if you're still a little worried or you fear there may be a lot of them, take some friends with you. Ask your brother who the ringleaders are. The others are just sheep and will follow whoever/whatever they see as being popular. Find out where they're going to be (out of school would be best) and go and see them. Tell them that if you hear of any of them so much as saying a bad word against your brother again then you will ..... (you have to choose whether to threaten them with violence or not - it should be your final option, but from what you say you might have to). Now, remember, there is only one language these bullies understand and that is FEAR! You have to scare them. Chances are these bullies are bullied or have been bullied themselves so use it! Tell them you will beat them like you were their daddy, that your brother is very popular with your friends and they will ALL help you. Fear is the key. Sorry I can't help you more right now, you have to work out which way will work best in your situation. Whatever you do, it's not going to make things worse, it can only make it better. If nothing else your brother will see how much you love him and that's gonna make him feel a lot better already!

Finally I've got a little story for you:
My friend had a similar problem to yours. His little brother was very small and was always getting picked on because of his size and because his parents were poor. There were lots of kids who used to pick on him, but there was one (there usually is) who was the worst. My friend asked me if I'd help him to scare this lad till he s**t himself, so I agreed. We followed the kid out of school and when he was alone we pounced. We took him to a nearby bridge that spanned a busy road. There, we stripped him down to his shorts and tied him to the railings. He threatened us, screemed and everything else you'd expect him to do, until he started to cry. It would have been easy to let him go there and then with one last word of warning, but we didn't. We left him there. We went and got ourselves a snack and returned about an hour and a half later and let him go. By this time the kid would have done anything we asked, but all we did ask of him was to leave my friend's brother alone. He did, and so did all the others. My friend's brother never had any trouble like that again. In fact, some of the kids who were involved became his friends. Seven years has gone by and one of these kids is now his roomate in college!

Good luck,
El Horno

Never laugh at a Bully's joke or show any signs of recognition towards something stupid and idiotic that he is likely to have done to grab attention and show how 'Cool' he is.

While you have to learn to stand-up to them at times, you also need to know when to plainly ignore them.


If they see a reaction in something they do, it only fuels them.

Turn the other way and they begin to act in desperation since no-one's looking.

The best thing for bullying is a backhand slap of insults.

Fighting doesn'even really do much, you win or you lose but they'll probably still carry on. From my experience the best way to beat a bully is:

Insult him back worse than he insukts you
or
Get loads of mates to stick up for you, maybe they can all insult the bully at once and then the tide changes.

RoJ wrote:
>(Fat people are always poked)

"dere is no 'e' in bulying!!"

Shut up you morons.

gerrid wrote:
> I've eyed a fair few bulls in my time, I tell you.
>
> Good times.

Fricking brilliant. Quite possibly the most wonderful thing you've ever said.
*Larfs*