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"Bulleying"

A lot of people get bulleyed, it's a common thing, even I used to get bulleyed, but now I have a problem, my brother, now my brother is really disturbed, he has a lot of problems, I mean he is a failure at school, and everybody keeps mucking him because he is fat, the problem is there are people who are bulleying him these days, now anybody else can handle it, but he is greatly hurt, he keeps crying every night, and the teachers wouldn't help, I thought of beating the guys who bulleyed him, but I thought they might do it again to take revenge from him, which complicates things even more, so any advice would be helpful please.

Foreman wrote:
> What's the right thing to do then?

Just tell someone. Simple.

> You can't just let them get away with it or else it will come to the
> stage where suicide comes to mind.
>
> My advice is to fight back. I wouldn't even warn them, I'd just go
> straight up them and fight the main one.

Defend yourself, yes, but don't start fights.

I got bullied terribly at school girls didn't want to be my friends so made up things about me to tell everyone else so they wouldn't be my friends then when i hit 15 and developed a pair of boobs suddenly the boys how where influenced by the "popular girls" changed their mind and i found i had a power over people, i went off the rails with drink, trying drugs and boys. Earning myself a terrible reputation. Now i have moved off to uni in a different country and i wouldn't give the people i went to school with the time of day. But my little sisters are still at school and are being called names about things that i did and i got called. As much as i fight with my sisters at home when it comes to other people picking on them we tend to stick together. I keep telling them how great they are and the stupid things i have done anything to boost their confidence.

Teachers won't do anything and it won't help even if they do. Your brother will change as he grows up physically and mentally sometimes i think bullying can make you a better person. it has taken me years to realise that the bullys are the insecure ones and that i did nothing wrong.

My advice is to be there for your brother let him know he can talk to you, let him know that he isn't the only person to be bullied and that it will end.

Are they beating him up??
Is he your only brother?

Jmaul wrote:
> i get bullied all the time - nobody even cares to take any action and
> stop it

I really feel for you Jmaul. And I can understand your frustration.
The truth of the matter is teachers don't want to get involved, and the few that are willing to help find that their hands are tied. You need the support of your peers - friends, brothers, sisters, friends' brothers etc.
Bullies do what they do because they can. Work out what it is that they have over you - e.g. they are bigger, stronger or have a bigger gang. Then you need to reverse the trend - i.e. Get all your friends to help you until they are the one's in the weaker position. Remember, you are not alone. There are special services set up to help you - Samaritans etc. Look them up in your phone book - they offer excellent advice.

Good luck, and keep the faith! "Nothing lasts forever"
El Horno

Mav wrote:
> I'd disagree, Horno.
>
> I'd say doing what you did in your little "story" is
> exactly what you said was bullsh*t. You were a bully to beat the
> bully. You lowered yourself to the bully's level and that's not the
> right thing to do.


Mav,

No, what I did in my "story" (why the quotation marks - what else would you call it?) was the complete opposite to what I called b******t. I quote - "Firstly ignore all the idiots who say beating up a bully makes you as bad as them. That is total b******t - they don't know what they're talking about." So, I'm afraid, it is your point of view that I call b******t.

I was not bullying the bully - I was teaching someone... no, TWO people a very valuable lesson in life. You are completely within your rights to disagree with my advice, but if you were a victim of bullying yourself, I am willing to bet that you would change your tune.

Say what you like, it works. I am not a Youth Worker for nothing.
El Horno

down wrote:
> I was going to comment, but then I realised what I would say was the
> same as Borats comment.
>
> So screw that.
>
> Did that first sentence make sense?

Just about.

Tell him to tell his teachers

I was going to comment, but then I realised what I would say was the same as Borats comment.

So screw that.

Did that first sentence make sense?

you need to give this bully a bit of his own medicine. tell him you'll break his legs if he carries on.

mild bullying is one thing, but if it's really upsetting your brother, you need to help him. he is going to have to fight his own battles some day, but it is your duty to help him.

Foreman wrote:
> What's the right thing to do then?
>
>
> You can't just let them get away with it or else it will come to the
> stage where suicide comes to mind.
>
>
> My advice is to fight back. I wouldn't even warn them, I'd just go
> straight up them and fight the main one.

I agree, I wouldn't warn him, because then he'll watch his guard. Get into a situation where you are with a few of your mates for support and hit the little git. If he continues to bully your brother go to even more extreme measures. Threaten him more and etc.

i get bullied all the time - nobody even cares to take any action and stop it