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I guess we just don't live in an ideal world. But as I say, it's a lot more complicated when people are past their childhood.
I know this is going a bit extreme here but just this week in the papers, there was some Junkie who held two old women hostage at knife point in their own homes, just for the sake of £21. This to me is a form of bullying, but what did the Judge do? He said the drugs were the problem and all the Junkie needed was councelling and sent her back home, just yards from the women she terrorised. Now this Junkie gets to live a free life while the old women are too scared to go out their own door. Where the hell is the justice in that?! Yet again the bully is treated like the victim.
So you can see what I mean when I say that for most cases you're better just dealing with things yourself, because no-one else is going to help you out.
Obviously each instance is different and each should be dealt with in the corresponding way, and also it's a lot more complicated once you get past the age of fifteen or so.
Perhaps I may have just been to schools with excellent bullying policies - maybe it's a different case with other people. Perhaps violence, in some cases, is the only possible answer. But personally I think it should be a last resort.
There's two reasons why children are encouraged to tell an adult - so the bullying can be stopped and both the victim AND the bully can be helped. As I say, it's different in the late teens and onwards, but kids aren't evil. There is always more substance to what is immediately apparent on the surface. Bullies are insecure people and the reason for this stems from a deeper problem.
If you really want to get to the roots of the problem and solve it, then it needs to be done properly and methodically. Using violence or threats is perhaps a little short sighted. While it may stop the bullying for somebody, you need to go deeper to really help, and otherwise you'll just make matters worse for the bully.
> Foreman wrote:
> What's the right thing to do then?
>
> Just tell someone. Simple.
Yes it's the right thing to do, but sometimes it'll just make matters worse.
> You can't just let them get away with it or else it will come to the
> stage where suicide comes to mind.
>
> My advice is to fight back. I wouldn't even warn them, I'd just go
> straight up them and fight the main one.
>
> Defend yourself, yes, but don't start fights.
There's only so much you can take. If you want it over with quick, then you have to fight back. They shouldn't be bullying you in the first place. You can defend yourself for years, but it won't make them stop. It's there way of being big.
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There is very little someone can do about being bullied and that is a sad fact and not true in all cases. But you will grow out of it and you have to be strong. Family is the most important thing to someone who is being bullied. Don't let your brother feel alone.
> Children shouldn't be taught to do things like this. They should simply tell an adult.
From my experience that does not do any good, your parents cant be with you all the time and teachers do feck all. You have to learn to stand up for yourself, you can't go running to mommy when you 19 or something, the quicker you learn to stand up for yourself the better.
> I've never been bullied, but I've got a decent grasp on the morally > correct way to go about things. And in my opinion, this is not it.
If you had ever been bullied then you'd realise that bullies don't care about you, and they don't have any morals of their own. The only language they understand is a boot to the face, and hey, they seem to understand that pretty well.
Of course this didn't go down too well with the headmas**ter and I was to be suspended from school, but after he had a 'chat' with my Dad all I got was 3 days detention. It was a small price to pay because I hardly ever get picked on now, and when I do I'm now confident enough to s**tand up for myself.
So basically the bes**t approach your brother can take, from my experience, is take control of his own life and don't depend on teachers. I realise this is easier said than done, but with the right support from his real friends and family, he should be able to sort things out.
> So, I'm afraid, it is your point of view that I call b******t.
What I was saying is that I felt that what you did was lowering yourself to the mental level of the bully. You called that argument bullsh*t. Notice the "I'd say" at the beginning of my argument.
And my point of view is my point of view. It's not crap. I don't think you're giving good advice. "Go and fight the bully", "Threaten him", "Tie him to some railings"... what the f..? Do you really think that's the best course of action? Is that how adults behave? Children shouldn't be taught to do things like this. They should simply tell an adult.
> I was not bullying the bully - I was teaching someone... no, TWO
> people a very valuable lesson in life. You are completely within your
> rights to disagree with my advice, but if you were a victim of
> bullying yourself, I am willing to bet that you would change your
> tune.
A valuable lesson by scaring the crap out of him? I've never been bullied, but I've got a decent grasp on the morally correct way to go about things. And in my opinion, this is not it.
> Say what you like, it works. I am not a Youth Worker for nothing.
Oh, a youth worker. That doesn't make you any more qualified to give your opinion than I am.