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"It's over"

My girlfriend of the last 4 years and 5 months is leaving. We've argued, split up and then got back together numerous times, but this time it's permanent. Why? Because I finally said all the things I wanted to say in every other argument but didn't the balls to.

She's packing her things up in the other room as I type this. I'm not sat here thinking ...

"Oh, no! I'll be so lonely!"
"Who will I snuggle up to at night?"

... but instead I'm thinking ...

"I can put my speakers in the right place so the soundstage is right."
"A double bed all to myself."
"I can leave the toilet seat up!"

I've told her she didn't have to move out straight away. I said that this is as much her home as it was mine. But, after the things she's said and accused me of in the last couple of weeks I'm glad she's going.

I won't be the typical bachelor, going out drinking and sleeping with anything that moves - I'll just see my mates, have a laugh and do what I like without worrying that every comment or action will be taken as a subtle dig at her. I can talk to my mother on the phone without having to replay the conversation to her afterwards because she thinks my mum hates her. I can spend more than 30 seconds on my PC without getting moaned at. I won't have to endure endless soaps and crap TV shows. And - best of all - I can spank my monkey when I like and where I like!

Timmargh wrote:
> HA! That made me choke!

Rosalind wrote:
> the chicken?

Nah - I was giving my old chess set a clean and I was giving my bishop a good polish ...

My relationship was heading for the gutter a few years ago. We lived together for a bit while we were at the same Uni, then we had to move home, but we only live 10 minutes apart form each other anyway. But being together for so long and then having to live apart again took it's toll and we ended up having a MASSIVE argument and falling out for a while. We didn't split up, just didn't speak properly for a few weeks. Things improved more as we grew accustomed to life at home again, but there was still this sense of having to hang around each other all the time, until one day I cracked and said, "That's it, either I have my freedom, or you can f**k off!", and she said "What the f**k are you talking about, you have your freedom." - those weren't the exact words, but it was something like that. And lo and behold she was right - I'd always had the freedom, just never bothered doing anything with it. So now I can spend as much time away from my lady as I like without the fear of incurring fe-rage!

TIMMARGH!!!

Timmargh wrote:
> HA! That made me choke!

the chicken?

okay I'm leaving.

Light wrote:
> Well...I have to say that you're handling it a damn side better than I
> did when Mrs Light and I split for a couple of years... Go forth and
> enjoy thyself my friend!

Like I said I am upset it's over but there's so many thing I got moaned at for doing that I felt trapped but never had the nerve to do anything about. And now it's over, I feel like a big weight has been lifted off me.

HA! That made me choke!

Timmargh wrote:
> The sagacious one wrote:
> Yeah but "self helping" yourself at the dinner table
> whilst
> your parents are dining with you, is a bit much.
>
> You heard about that, then?

No I heard it.

"Timmargh.. timmargh.. timmarghtimmargh.. timmatimmatimma gnuufff TIMMARGH!! TIMMARGH TIMMARGH!!!

*Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnuuuuuuuufff*

*Ahu ahu puff pant*

Timmargh spill salt on table again"

Well...I have to say that you're handling it a damn side better than I did when Mrs Light and I split for a couple of years... Go forth and enjoy thyself my friend!

Goatboy wrote:
> TIMMARGH!

TIMMARGH!!

Unbeliever wrote:
> Sorry to hear it mate. But, "absence makes the heart grow
> fonder" so after a while I guess you'll be missing her.

I know I'll miss her ... but I'll enjoy doing the things I couldn't even more.