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I was just talking to my best friend and she's going to Zimbabwe for a couple of weeks next month. She was told she can bring a friend and she's chosen to bring a friend from college she's known 6 months. I thought she was going to ask me when she rang, we've been best friends for 16 years!
To make matters worse she said the reason they chose the two weeks they're going is because nothing important is happening then. In other words, she's completely forgotten my 21st birthday is during the second week she's away! We were supposed to be organising a party together and she's completely forgotten.
I didn't remind her when she rang. It didn't feel right. But I'm really hurt by the fact that she didn't invite me or remember my birthday's coming up.
Am I being unreasonable thinking this?
To make matters worse she said the reason they chose the two weeks they're going is because nothing important is happening then. In other words, she's completely forgotten my 21st birthday is during the second week she's away! We were supposed to be organising a party together and she's completely forgotten.
I didn't remind her when she rang. It didn't feel right. But I'm really hurt by the fact that she didn't invite me or remember my birthday's coming up.
Am I being unreasonable thinking this?
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Whitestripes DX wrote:
> Why would you think I was trying to be funny?
>
> It was a serious point, she can talk to her friend about it like I
> said, or she can ignore the problem and go out of her mind with
> worry.
>
>
> Try and keep up.
I'm not worried as such about it, just really hurt by it. I know she doesn't mean any harm by it, I guess she just figured that Donna's more fun than I am. I'm not going to ignore it at all, just going to wait to bring it up when she gets home rather than before her holiday. Like i said before, I don't want to spoil the trip for her. She's going to go one way or the other.
> Why would you think I was trying to be funny?
>
> It was a serious point, she can talk to her friend about it like I
> said, or she can ignore the problem and go out of her mind with
> worry.
>
>
> Try and keep up.
I'm not worried as such about it, just really hurt by it. I know she doesn't mean any harm by it, I guess she just figured that Donna's more fun than I am. I'm not going to ignore it at all, just going to wait to bring it up when she gets home rather than before her holiday. Like i said before, I don't want to spoil the trip for her. She's going to go one way or the other.
Whitestripes DX wrote:
> Why would you think I was trying to be funny?
Whitestripes DX also wrote :
> Hello, welcome to sarcasm.
what is sarcasm then?
> Why would you think I was trying to be funny?
Whitestripes DX also wrote :
> Hello, welcome to sarcasm.
what is sarcasm then?
Bora† SagdiyeV wrote:
> Your 'argument' was that she should pretend her friend doesn't
> exist.
>
>
> I think pretty much everyone on this forum could tell you that is no
> way to sort it out.
>
>
> Most peoples relationships are robust enough to survive the occasional
> fall out. If it was me, I would have mentioned it as soon as she said
> she was going away, if she had still gone away, I would have made sure
> she knew I was hurt by it, like forgetting her birthday.
Right.
Now read back and realise that's EXACTLY WHAT I TOLD HER YOU IDIOT.
Christ, some people are so sodding stupid.
> Your 'argument' was that she should pretend her friend doesn't
> exist.
>
>
> I think pretty much everyone on this forum could tell you that is no
> way to sort it out.
>
>
> Most peoples relationships are robust enough to survive the occasional
> fall out. If it was me, I would have mentioned it as soon as she said
> she was going away, if she had still gone away, I would have made sure
> she knew I was hurt by it, like forgetting her birthday.
Right.
Now read back and realise that's EXACTLY WHAT I TOLD HER YOU IDIOT.
Christ, some people are so sodding stupid.
MoJoJoJo wrote:
> Lindgren wrote:
> No. I fancy guys.
>
> ------
>
> Sorry, I don't have psychic eyes. You're either gay, or a girl.
I'm a girl.
> Lindgren wrote:
> No. I fancy guys.
>
> ------
>
> Sorry, I don't have psychic eyes. You're either gay, or a girl.
I'm a girl.
Why would you think I was trying to be funny?
It was a serious point, she can talk to her friend about it like I said, or she can ignore the problem and go out of her mind with worry.
Try and keep up.
It was a serious point, she can talk to her friend about it like I said, or she can ignore the problem and go out of her mind with worry.
Try and keep up.
> Your 'argument' was that she should pretend her friend doesn't
> exist.
>
>
> I think pretty much everyone on this forum could tell you that is no
> way to sort it out.
Most peoples relationships are robust enough to survive the occasional fall out. If it was me, I would have mentioned it as soon as she said she was going away, if she had still gone away, I would have made sure she knew I was hurt by it, like forgetting her birthday.
> exist.
>
>
> I think pretty much everyone on this forum could tell you that is no
> way to sort it out.
Most peoples relationships are robust enough to survive the occasional fall out. If it was me, I would have mentioned it as soon as she said she was going away, if she had still gone away, I would have made sure she knew I was hurt by it, like forgetting her birthday.
Lindgren wrote:
> No. I fancy guys.
------
Sorry, I don't have psychic eyes. You're either gay, or a girl.
> No. I fancy guys.
------
Sorry, I don't have psychic eyes. You're either gay, or a girl.
Whitestripes DX wrote:
> Hello, welcome to sarcasm.
>
>
> If you seriously thought I was advising her to do this then you are
> more of an idiot than I gave you credit for.
they say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, but your mindless ramblings were about as humourous as a dose of rickets
> Hello, welcome to sarcasm.
>
>
> If you seriously thought I was advising her to do this then you are
> more of an idiot than I gave you credit for.
they say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, but your mindless ramblings were about as humourous as a dose of rickets
Bora† SagdiyeV wrote:
> Whitestripes DX wrote:
> Yeah, well at least I have a brain to feed semi-intelligable
> thoughts
> to my mouth, rather than getting all my ideas from randomely
> assembled
> fridge magnet letters.
>
> my arguement made sense though, and didn't resort to daft rubbish
> about fridge magnets.
...
Your 'argument' was that she should pretend her friend doesn't exist.
I think pretty much everyone on this forum could tell you that is no way to sort it out.
> Whitestripes DX wrote:
> Yeah, well at least I have a brain to feed semi-intelligable
> thoughts
> to my mouth, rather than getting all my ideas from randomely
> assembled
> fridge magnet letters.
>
> my arguement made sense though, and didn't resort to daft rubbish
> about fridge magnets.
...
Your 'argument' was that she should pretend her friend doesn't exist.
I think pretty much everyone on this forum could tell you that is no way to sort it out.
What, so hiding emotion is the best form of release?! No.
Lindgren, I highly doubt she means harm to you. If she has been friends with you for 16 years, she is not going to want to lose that relationship now. Shes obviously got into college and other friends, and perhaps unfortunatly sees you as an 'old' friend, and perhaps doesen't consider the same things she should do around you, which she would consider with somebdoy she doesn't know so well.
Tell her. Like WS sad, you'll know where you stand, and I bet you my last pound (refuse to say buck :D) that she meant no harm and will probably be extra nice to you.
:)
Lindgren, I highly doubt she means harm to you. If she has been friends with you for 16 years, she is not going to want to lose that relationship now. Shes obviously got into college and other friends, and perhaps unfortunatly sees you as an 'old' friend, and perhaps doesen't consider the same things she should do around you, which she would consider with somebdoy she doesn't know so well.
Tell her. Like WS sad, you'll know where you stand, and I bet you my last pound (refuse to say buck :D) that she meant no harm and will probably be extra nice to you.
:)
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