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"When does flirting turn into cheating?"

When does flirting turn into cheating?

If, like me, you’re in a relationship in which both partners occasionally move within different circles of friends, the way I see it there is bound to be a certain amount of flirting that goes on. I think that is part human nature, that its healthy and that it should be encouraged. However, where do you draw the line?

I have friends that believe whole-heartedly that if you don’t get caught it doesn’t count as cheating. On the other hand some people have more stringent views on what constitutes as cheating.

To say I’ve given this a lot of thought would not be entirely accurate, but I did come up with a simple rule that makes the grey area a little less grey. So long a no part of you goes into any part of another person, or vice versa, then it’s not cheating.

That means that close friends can share a kiss on the cheek, or the lips and still be in the white. If however as part of that kiss a tongue (or anything else) finds its way into someone else’s oral cavity that’d be cheating.

Obviously there are other examples I could give, but this is a nice, family forum, so try and keep it as clean as possible whilst you pick apart my post ;)

P.S. Ros, if you get me in trouble I’ll come round your house, take Britney hostage and put an axe through your gamecube.

I like that definitiion.

I recon I could get away with *alot*

:D

Rosalind wrote:
> By your interpretation it would okay to tell someone else that you
> loved them.
>
> You wouldn't consider that to be cheating?

That depends whether you mean it or not, and in what context.

Plus just because you don't say it, doesn't mean you don't do it,
but surely you have no control over that . .

I'd put "cheating" like this:

Whatever your partner (the one you are potentially cheating on) would consider as cheating, is by default, cheating.

By your interpretation it would okay to tell someone else that you loved them.

You wouldn't consider that to be cheating?

Rosalind wrote:
> *shocked*
>
> Okay its only chaeting if you do whatever, without the knowledge of
> your partner, or if your partner objects.

1. what is "whatever"?

2. "if your partner objects" is speculative and would never stand up in a court of law, of the court of what is right or wrong in my head. Plus is also leaves room for misinterpretation on the part of the partner.

Insane Bartender wrote:
> "So long as no part of your body enters another persons body,
> it's ok".
>
> That leaves you free for groping breastage, allowing someone to rub
> your member and any number of other somewhat sexual instances I won't
> bother to list on this nice family forum.

ahh, yes indeed, but in order to religiously obey the rule I think that you would have to, in those cirumstances, do so meticulously purposefully.
In other words you would be engaging in an act specifically with the rule in mind so as not to break it. I think that if you have to be that careful not to break the rule then you must know that you're cheating. If that makes any sense . ? . I'm trying to avoid specific examples here.

It also means that putting your hand in someone elses would be considered cheating, which I think clearly is not the case.

Goatboy wrote:

> I'm off for a fag

When the going gets tough. Goatboy goes for a fag.

Without fail

But the topic heading...

She's flirting, not cheating.
Should she invite me over for an evening of sweaty grunt-love, that would be cheating.

However, pretending to be disgusted and shocked by my uggish behaviour is merely flirting, and therefore harmless.
I'm off for a fag

Angry face

*explodes*

Enough flirting, you two