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"Don't you just hate it......"

When people insult you about your looks? It may just be for a laugh but I've always believed that personal insults are a big no.

This all stems from yesterday when someone made a comment about my smile. Now the person who made this comment hasn't got much ground to say anything about my pearlies but he did anyway.

How does everyone here handle insults about their appearance? I tend to put it down to jealousy. Lately, I've been quite popular with the girls in our local and I think this person who said the comments is a bit put out about it.

What do you think about it? Am I right in saying that personal insults are wrong? You can insult someone about who they are/how they act but not about how they look.

I don't know why I took offence really but it just seemed a bit silly and it was as if he was trying to really offend me when we've always got on so well. I didn't respond, just laughed it off. Meh.....

Since it sounds as though you were in a pub - and so both of you are over 18 at the very least - i'd just shrug the comment off and think the guy was immature beyond belief. Insulting looks is something you do at primary school.

You shouldn't have laughed at his comment, you should have just looked away with a 'er...your a bit stupid' expresion look on your face.

Speaking personally, I tend to feel that any and all insults are fair game. You have to use your own judgement as to whether they are appropriate for the circumstance (ie. Whether you're really trying to offend someone or not). I hurl insults with gay abandon and I haven't genuinely tryed to offend anyone for a few years now. That said, I sometimes get it wrong and so I apologise.

All of which is a long way of saying: I don't think it's insults that are so much the problem but people's unwillingness to apologise.

Although I'm a beautiful creature :D

People do nothing to deserve lucks, luck i guess. I don't judge people on looks... although it seems to be that a lot of attractive people are stupid and I hate them.

I dunno

Beauty, eye , holder

Errr no i dpon't insult looks

me so tired

*dies*

People are scared to insult me now, ever since I snapped a hockey stick across someone who urined me off.

:D

idlewild wrote:
> Even worse, you're scared to say it to their face...

The whole point of my post was to try and say that I would never issue a personal insult to someone, even if provoked. I think it's petty. You can't change your looks (well, not most of them).

All in all, in situations like that, I always come out the winner. Insulting them back would just be making me as bad as them.

Primal wrote:
> I would never say anything like that to him. I do think that though,
> obviously.

Even worse, you're scared to say it to their face...

idlewild wrote:
> Hypocrite? Maybe....

Who me?

I would never say anything like that to him. I do think that though, obviously.

cookie monster wrote:
> If someone insults your looks do the same back.

Nah, I just laugh it off. People do it all the time and it's usually the same people which is why I think it's a jealousy thing.

Primal wrote:
> When people insult you about your looks? It may just be for a laugh
> but I've always believed that personal insults are a big no.
>
> This all stems from yesterday when someone made a comment about my
> smile. Now the person who made this comment hasn't got much ground to
> say anything about my pearlies but he did anyway.

Hypocrite? Maybe....

If someone insults your looks do the same back.