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1) Where were you born?
2) Do you ever wish you were someone else?
3) What is the most important trait in a partner that you need?
4) Do you ever wish you could change something in your past and what?
Your girlfriend lives in Singapore ... how do you deal with the problems posed by a long distance relationship? Things like loneliness, longing to be close to her, true intimacy which is the main thing lacking in such a relationship. Do things such as trust worry you ... that she may stray with someone else in your absence? Have you ever thought of calling it a day because keeping it is a lot of hassle, or because there may be someone closer who is right for you?
How do you deal with it all?
>> PB,
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> You said in the other thread you used to be very quiet. Tell me
> more about what changed in your head, and your life, to change
> that.
Possibly a few things. Firstly was the fact that I was pretty small and one of the youngest in the class at school, so I had no confidence. I wasn't ever happy with myself either, you could say that I wasn't 'defined' as a person at that stage. Then I went to work for a few different firms but never really got on with anyone and guess I really had no views on life back then, again, I wasn't defined enough to be happy with who I was.
The build up to changing myself started when I went to college, really. I Made friends with a couple of people in the class that I'm still friends with now. I got into playing Basketball a bit with most of the class too. I was still pretty nervous back then though, certainly couldn't have stood up in a room full of people, but I was starting to feel that I knew myself a bit more. One piece of the puzzle of my ID was in place and this brought a new level of confidence.
University was the biggest change in my life, as it is with many people. First few weeks were hell, but then I met up with the foreign students in my halls (the other students were just interested in drinking and going to the nightclub). These turned out to be very good friends and the different outlook they had, coming from other countries, made me think in different ways. Between that and really getting to know myself better, something clicked and I found a lot more self confidence. Many more pieces of the puzzle were put together at this stage. Before university I was quiet, shy and reserved. After 2 years I was much more outward, daring to do things I wouldn't have done before and making new friends.
Finally, the last piece of the puzzle came in the form of Taekwondo. I'd already been in work in my current job for 3 years and still found it a bit difficult to have enough confidence to do any kind of presentation or training. Taekwondo helped me to work out ways to overcome nerves and also seemed to find the missing piece of the puzzle that went to make up who I am.
I think that if you look at your life and how you see yourself, you'll find that you are made up of the defining moments from your past. Even negative events can have a positive affect on who you become and it is a case of finding the pieces of the puzzle that go towards making yourself a more positive person, based on being happy with yourself.
> @ngel hon, how did you end up with a posh accent?
I really do not think that I have a posh accent. Whatever gave you that idea Machie.
> 1) Where were you born?
High Wycombe.
> 2) Do you ever wish you were someone else?
I never stop wishing I wasn't me. (I like how ludicrously emo that sounds)
> 3) What is the most important trait in a partner that you need?
The ability to laugh with me at the stupidest things.
> 4) Do you ever wish you could change something in your past and
> what?
I wish I'd kissed this girl I used to *really* like. Other than that, nope. Life made me what I am. I might not like it, but toying would be silly.
I sound like a knut. Ah well