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"He felt bad. For an hour."

He felt bad because he didn’t feel bad.
Does that make sense? I’ll explain if you have a couple of minutes, it’s not much to spare to sum up a few years of his life.

He did everything for her, because that’s what he thought you did for someone you loved. Without asking or question he would take her places, wait for hours whilst she pursued her dreams.
He lost count the number of times he had driven over there at 3am when she needed someone to tell her how special she was.
He surrendered totally to her.
And all the time, he refused to see how stupid he was. He couldn’t see how he was getting played.
He ate so much of himself you would laugh at him if you didn’t pity him so much. But he thought this was the real deal, he genuinely couldn’t see beyond his own view.

He let himself be told, time and time again, how he could improve himself. How he could be a better man, how he could be more productive and achieve more.
The oddest thing though, he was happy being him.
But it got so he didn’t know who he was supposed to be anymore.

Then one day, the worst and best thing happened at the same time. He was condemned to his prison of wounded-ego yet set free from the very things that upset him (only he couldn’t see it right at that moment).
And he played the bad-man role so well he ended up feeling guilty they had split, even though it wasn’t his decision.
He begged and pleaded for her to change her mind, but she pinched her lip and told him how it had taken her so long to reach this decision.
Like that was supposed to help him I guess?
So he went back to this room and wrote many heavy and important things to try and explain to himself just why he felt bad about the split.
Then it hit him:
He didn’t feel bad at all.
Oh sure, he felt lonely, but that passes.

He felt happy because he could just get on with the things that made him happy, the things that made her unhappy.
Only that was the moment she decided she had made a mistake and wanted him back.
But he didn’t want that.
But he had been played so well that he felt bad about not wanting to get back to her.
Can you imagine that?
This man felt like the guilty party because he had been dumped?

He laughed at the absurdity of the whole thing. He knew what he wanted to do, he wanted to phone her and let her get really emotional about wanting to reunite.
He wanted to hear her at her most vulnerable and open.
And he wanted to laugh and hang up on her.
But he was good, he continued to take her calls and listen to her regrets and he mouthed sympathy noises.

And as soon as he was off the phone to her?
He was on the phone to another girl.
He was being exactly who he wanted to be with this one.
He was in control, this one didn’t have his number so she couldn’t call him.
She emailed him a couple of times a day – flirtatious and amusing contacts.
And he liked this, because it was still at the stage where you looked forward to hearing this one on the phone, imagining what it will be like when you hook up.
And he enjoyed it all the more because he knew exactly where this was headed – nowhere deep and meaningful.

The first one had been interesting enough to talk to
Nothing in common but let’s be honest here for a moment
If you think you’re going to get laid then you’ll fake interest in anything
Anyone that says different is a liar or Jesus H Christ himself
So they did it (you want a poem about love? Go read Keats)
And afterwards he stopped calling her and moved on
The next one seemed ok
They spent two weekends together and she gave him the whole rap
About how she was still trying to get rid of her ex-husband and blah blah
And he decided he didn’t want to deal with that emotional anchor
So he told her
And she got mad at him, phoned and texted him all hours calling him names
So what did he do? Did he accept these insults and agree?
Yeah right, I’ll tell you what happened
He phoned her and showed her what true anger was
She stopped calling

The third seemed like a winner
She was intelligent, attractive and independent
And after 2 weeks she went back to her ex
She hoped he didn’t mind and wasn’t upset
He told her he wasn’t and to have a nice life
The fourth was the most recent
She was happy, bubbly and very fit
He ran through the script and they got it on
She then felt confused about what had happened and
“I didn’t mean for it to go that far that quick”

And he laughed to himself
It’s not like she didn’t know what she was doing
She was more than willing and extremely able
But he knew what it was that bugged her
She wasn’t honest with herself about life
She felt guilty for enjoying sex without a relationship of months
He had not needed to convince her to shed her clothes
She asked him to stay, not the other way round
He had provided her with the excuse for enjoying herself
And she took it, as she should do
Except then she got that whole guilt thing
She ran that whole “Not looking for anything serious” schtick to him
And he agreed 100%
She wanted time to “sort her head out”
He had already deleted her number from his phone and replaced it

Don’t get mad my friend or think I’m treating them like objects
Not once have I done anything other than be a willing participant
And I’ve been nothing but honest with them all
They say they want the same thing
Until they get it, and then they get confused feel angry at themselves
For just enjoying life and themselves with someone
But that’s life I suppose
Now, if you’ll excuse me I have to arrange Wednesday night
With one from last Friday

Honestly, you’d think it would be harder than this to bag them
But it’s not
You just have to be confident enough to know that underneath that make-up
Underneath that attractive face and admiring glances from other men in the pub
Is a person that just wants to be told how special they are
Do that with a straight face and you’re sorted.
Of course you’ll call me shallow and heartless
But as far as I can see, everyone does it
Just not everyone admits it

So you speak for *all* women and *all* one night stands do you?
How many have you had? I'm interested here.

And I dont expect anyone to cheer or applaud, but neither do I expect people to suddenly burst in and start slinging their mental words about willy-nilly.

You see Annie, there's a thing called "courtesy". It helps get your point across so much easier.
When your 1st contribution to a thread is to label me "a dick", then that suggests you are a bitter old maid that resents others going out and enjoying themselves.

By all means comment on what I have written, or counter any ideas/notions that I may have raised.
But to resort to personal attack is to mark out your stall as a weak debater.
Discuss points or issue that you feel are derogatory to your gender as a whole, just don't start mudslinging when you came here and started "Yak Yak Yak" at your boyfriend for admitting he was thinking of accepting a lift from a girl at work with the unwritten acceptance it was a sex thing.

You appear to have a massive self-confidence/self worth problem and resort to attacking others in a justification of making yourself feel better.

Well, not me love. I don't know you, don't have to placate you for a ride or even have to respond to your inane screeching. But I will continue to do so, because it's funny and passes my time.

You, sir, sound like an angry hen.

Goatboy wrote:
> I read fine.
>
> I just fell through the cracks of your argument a few posts back now
> to be honest, can't be arsed with defending myself against a hostile
> woman that felt the need to try and turn this thread into a personal
> attack on whether I can or can't do my job well.
>
> I'm not sure if it's the presumptousness of a person that feels they
> can just start criticising and attacking someone, who was making
> general points about his own life or the pure mentalness of your posts
> that amuses me more.
>
> Cheers Paul.

You set yourself up to be attacked by posting this topic in the first place. Do you honesly think people will cheer you and respect you for what you wrote.... no.... you have dug yourself a hole.

I was mearly telling you how it is for women and one night stands.

P.S my name is not Paul.

I read fine.

I just fell through the cracks of your argument a few posts back now to be honest, can't be arsed with defending myself against a hostile woman that felt the need to try and turn this thread into a personal attack on whether I can or can't do my job well.

I'm not sure if it's the presumptousness of a person that feels they can just start criticising and attacking someone, who was making general points about his own life or the pure mentalness of your posts that amuses me more.

Cheers Paul.

Goatboy wrote:
> So women don't get down without waiting for 2 months because they want
> to make a man feel good?
> They don't just think "I'll have you" and enjoy it?


no you just dont read properly do you! Of course women think "I'll have you"! but for some reason she may not have had sex for sometime, for whatever reason. I never said she DIDN'T HAVE SEX FOR 2 MONTHS THEN FINDS A MAN ALL OF A SUDDEN TO MAKE HIM FEEL GOOD. I said she may not have had sex for a few months and so is desperate if again she cant find anyone else.

Filters enable a much more amusing way of getting your point across.

I think i'll boff my lady later.

Why fat birds get moody when blokes won't boff them.

I'm completely baffled by this topic. What are talking about again?

Balls.

Self-important balls.
So women don't get down without waiting for 2 months because they want to make a man feel good?
They don't just think "I'll have you" and enjoy it?

Sorry to break it to you but they do. And just because a bloke writes about his state of affairs, you felt it fit to jump in and cast aspersions on my abilities?
Did I once go into detail about how good/bad they were?
Because, and here's a shocker, some women are crap too.
*claps hands to face*

You aren't all shag-masters, some of you haven't got a clue. And make up for that by being "a nice person" or "bubbly" or "great sense of humour".
And don't you just get upset when a bloke says "No thanks love, you were crap" and has your best mate instead?

that's fine, women are just as shallow as men then..... but we do it in a good way.... we make him feel good.

?
That's just as shallow as I am.

And you were giving me stick because?