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"Men ??????????????"

For all the ladies out there - have any of you worked out just how men think?

For the men out there - HELPPPPPPPPPP!

I am really struggling to understand men, they seem to say one thing one minute, then something else completely different the next.
why cant you say what you mean and stick to it.

Biggie Little Jr wrote:
> Sunflower wrote:
> OMG! V_M, where'd you get your avatar... I reconise (SP) it but
> can't think >:(
>
> It's Doodle.

no it`s not.
and no sunny, you don`t recognise it. i guarantee you won`t have heard of it :D

it`s "Ziltoid the Omniscient"

.. what`s a "doodle"?

speckle wrote:

> Incidentally, how many of you blokies actually tell your partner
> how you feel about them? Mine doesn't and it will be what splits
> us up in the end if it doesn't change (after 7 years you'd think
> he'd be able to open his mouth and say.... )

The flip side of this is surely after 7 years you know how he feels? How often are you expecting him to say 'those words' or has he ever said them?

Sorry, just curious as it's not clear from above :)

I can't generalise how men think because, let's face it, they're just as different as us women are.

However I do know that mine actually hates being made to think at all.

I can't help asking questions because I want to find solutions or get affirmation but this seems to drive him mad - I can't even ask him what he wants to drink sometimes! But then, he doesn't like me making decisions for him either.

I think he's cognitavely (can you say that?) and emotionally lazy, whereas he thinks I'm practically lazy! (which is not actually laziness but stress induced exhaustion)

I don't think it's a man thing though, I think it's just a retentive strain in the male members of my boyfriends family (his uncle and grandad had similar traits). Not sure on the solution.... hoping to work it out soon!

Incidentally, how many of you blokies actually tell your partner how you feel about them? Mine doesn't and it will be what splits us up in the end if it doesn't change (after 7 years you'd think he'd be able to open his mouth and say.... )

Your Honour wrote:
> People who mince their words, and beat around the bush get on my
> nerves. Don't like someone/something? Say it. Want a favour? Ask
> it etc etc.

It’s an EGO thing. If you ask you can be perceived as imposing, yet dropping a hint is ok, because that person then feels good offering. As for telling someone/something you don’t like them/it- is that really your place?

Personally that’s what gets up my nose more than people who ‘mince their words’. If an individual is so sure about their dislikes, why are they unable to keep away from them in the first place?

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Ladybird wrote:
> ... Kindness and compassion aren't what Grix deserves from me anyways.

Apart from when you want something from him.

Don't mind me, I'm "Just callin' it as I see it, straight up and forthwith".

So on the basis of this thread, all men are straight talking "say what they mean" kind of guys.

Hmmmmmm.....yeah sure I believe that. ;)

Right, to try and steer this back on course...

I personally don't like it when people try to lead you into asking them something for example:

We're out for a mates birthday, a friend who lives out of town says: It's a shame I won't be able to have a drink....

What he means is, I have to drive home, so I can't drink. However, if you'd be kind enough to let me stay over, then I'll be able to have a drink.


So, why not just ask if you can stay over?

People who mince their words, and beat around the bush get on my nerves. Don't like someone/something? Say it. Want a favour? Ask it etc etc.