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To be honest, I don't know if it's good or bad.
This topic is mostly stemming from my mates going paintball and wanting me to come. I went once before and didn't like it much at all-well, no where near as much as they all liked. So I don't want to go this time. I'm not sure why I don't want to go...am I boring? Am I too scared to go? I don't know, but I'm certainly very different from the rest of my mates. The problem is, if I say that I don't want to go, they'll take the p!ss out of me, so I've been deserpately trying to think of a decent excuse. Nothing yet.
But all this has made me think. I mean, I hate going places which are very busy. As some of you know, I lack in a lot of self-confidence. I'm nervous around new people, and especially nervous around girls. There's another thing...some of my mates go out with different girls all the time because they're more confident, and they don't seem to care at all when they break up. As some of you may know (I posted a topic on here and FOG Prime all about it,) I got really worked up over this one girl. Just one!
Quite a lot of my friends go to this local nightclub where they try and pick up as many girls as possible. If they asked me to come, I wouldn't know what to say, because that sort of place really doesn't sound like my sort of thing. But I'm worried...why am I like this, and no one else is??
I mean, I enjoy my life. I occasionally go and play cricket and pool with my mates, and I go to a youth club on sunday nights as well as a Christian Youth Group, but that's it. I mean, I don't particurlarly enjoy the youth club. It's good, but sometimes I just wish I could stay at home. I actually think I'm more lucky than some...perhaps they all wanna go out all the time because they have no interests at home, where as I have gaming and this website. I love to play games, and also love to chat here. None of my friends (apart from 1, and he likes going Paintball,) have this...
I'm confused. I like my life, but I'd also like to be a bit more extrovert, a bit more confident and I'd also like to know, within myself why I don't like these things, that so many others do.
At the moment I'm beginning to think that I'm gonna turn out like my uncle (about 40 years old, never married, still at home with his mother.)
Thanks for reading, Ant.
This topic is mostly stemming from my mates going paintball and wanting me to come. I went once before and didn't like it much at all-well, no where near as much as they all liked. So I don't want to go this time. I'm not sure why I don't want to go...am I boring? Am I too scared to go? I don't know, but I'm certainly very different from the rest of my mates. The problem is, if I say that I don't want to go, they'll take the p!ss out of me, so I've been deserpately trying to think of a decent excuse. Nothing yet.
But all this has made me think. I mean, I hate going places which are very busy. As some of you know, I lack in a lot of self-confidence. I'm nervous around new people, and especially nervous around girls. There's another thing...some of my mates go out with different girls all the time because they're more confident, and they don't seem to care at all when they break up. As some of you may know (I posted a topic on here and FOG Prime all about it,) I got really worked up over this one girl. Just one!
Quite a lot of my friends go to this local nightclub where they try and pick up as many girls as possible. If they asked me to come, I wouldn't know what to say, because that sort of place really doesn't sound like my sort of thing. But I'm worried...why am I like this, and no one else is??
I mean, I enjoy my life. I occasionally go and play cricket and pool with my mates, and I go to a youth club on sunday nights as well as a Christian Youth Group, but that's it. I mean, I don't particurlarly enjoy the youth club. It's good, but sometimes I just wish I could stay at home. I actually think I'm more lucky than some...perhaps they all wanna go out all the time because they have no interests at home, where as I have gaming and this website. I love to play games, and also love to chat here. None of my friends (apart from 1, and he likes going Paintball,) have this...
I'm confused. I like my life, but I'd also like to be a bit more extrovert, a bit more confident and I'd also like to know, within myself why I don't like these things, that so many others do.
At the moment I'm beginning to think that I'm gonna turn out like my uncle (about 40 years old, never married, still at home with his mother.)
Thanks for reading, Ant.
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Don't worry about it Ant.
You're not different at all, your normal.
Like Meka says, it's part of growing up (and something you never, ever stop doing even if you hit 80).
It's just how people are.
The nightclub thing with your mates?
That's not confidence. That's fear and rutting. "Must prove myself to others by being a lady's man", whilst 9/10 they look pretty silly.
You don't feel the need to strut around like a stag showing off to everyone.
So?
That makes you a bad person?
Not at all, it makes you quietly confident and relaxed in who you are.
I bet you there are others in the paintballing mob that don't want to go either but won't say anything.
Just say you don't fancy it, didn't enjoy it last time thanks-very-much-though.
Nothing wrong with being honest.
If they're your mates, they'll understand.
We've all felt odd or strange because we don't feel or act like everyone else.
Nothing wrong with that dude, just take strength from the fact that you don't do these things simply because everyone else does.
These very things you think make you strange?
Those are the things that make you strong.
Those are the things that mean you will suceed.
Don't give in and go with the crowd because you think you'll be more "with it" or "popular", because the people that like you for being you will shake their heads as yet another mate turns into one of the crowd.
Be proud dammit, don't be embarassed or think something's wrong with you.
You're not different at all, your normal.
Like Meka says, it's part of growing up (and something you never, ever stop doing even if you hit 80).
It's just how people are.
The nightclub thing with your mates?
That's not confidence. That's fear and rutting. "Must prove myself to others by being a lady's man", whilst 9/10 they look pretty silly.
You don't feel the need to strut around like a stag showing off to everyone.
So?
That makes you a bad person?
Not at all, it makes you quietly confident and relaxed in who you are.
I bet you there are others in the paintballing mob that don't want to go either but won't say anything.
Just say you don't fancy it, didn't enjoy it last time thanks-very-much-though.
Nothing wrong with being honest.
If they're your mates, they'll understand.
We've all felt odd or strange because we don't feel or act like everyone else.
Nothing wrong with that dude, just take strength from the fact that you don't do these things simply because everyone else does.
These very things you think make you strange?
Those are the things that make you strong.
Those are the things that mean you will suceed.
Don't give in and go with the crowd because you think you'll be more "with it" or "popular", because the people that like you for being you will shake their heads as yet another mate turns into one of the crowd.
Be proud dammit, don't be embarassed or think something's wrong with you.
Nothing wrong with being different mate. Nothing at all.
When I was around your age I was as shy as hell. I could talk to girls, but not always without blushing, and I could certainly never ask one out for fear of rejection.
I liked sitting at home, playing games, writting stories, and look at me now. Married with two children!
So don't think that being the way you are now will mean you end up on your own.
And it's alright to have different interests to your friends too. If you don't want to go paintballing, then don't go, it's not something that's overly appealing to me either.
As I was saying, I was shy at your age, but when I reached about 17 years old, about when I started 6th form, I came out of my shell a bit, made new friends, went out more, had more fun. It's part of growing up though, we change, and it's confusing. Don't worry about how you are, I'm sure everyone that knows you here on the site think that you're a thoroughly decent lad!
When I was around your age I was as shy as hell. I could talk to girls, but not always without blushing, and I could certainly never ask one out for fear of rejection.
I liked sitting at home, playing games, writting stories, and look at me now. Married with two children!
So don't think that being the way you are now will mean you end up on your own.
And it's alright to have different interests to your friends too. If you don't want to go paintballing, then don't go, it's not something that's overly appealing to me either.
As I was saying, I was shy at your age, but when I reached about 17 years old, about when I started 6th form, I came out of my shell a bit, made new friends, went out more, had more fun. It's part of growing up though, we change, and it's confusing. Don't worry about how you are, I'm sure everyone that knows you here on the site think that you're a thoroughly decent lad!
To be honest, I don't know if it's good or bad.
This topic is mostly stemming from my mates going paintball and wanting me to come. I went once before and didn't like it much at all-well, no where near as much as they all liked. So I don't want to go this time. I'm not sure why I don't want to go...am I boring? Am I too scared to go? I don't know, but I'm certainly very different from the rest of my mates. The problem is, if I say that I don't want to go, they'll take the p!ss out of me, so I've been deserpately trying to think of a decent excuse. Nothing yet.
But all this has made me think. I mean, I hate going places which are very busy. As some of you know, I lack in a lot of self-confidence. I'm nervous around new people, and especially nervous around girls. There's another thing...some of my mates go out with different girls all the time because they're more confident, and they don't seem to care at all when they break up. As some of you may know (I posted a topic on here and FOG Prime all about it,) I got really worked up over this one girl. Just one!
Quite a lot of my friends go to this local nightclub where they try and pick up as many girls as possible. If they asked me to come, I wouldn't know what to say, because that sort of place really doesn't sound like my sort of thing. But I'm worried...why am I like this, and no one else is??
I mean, I enjoy my life. I occasionally go and play cricket and pool with my mates, and I go to a youth club on sunday nights as well as a Christian Youth Group, but that's it. I mean, I don't particurlarly enjoy the youth club. It's good, but sometimes I just wish I could stay at home. I actually think I'm more lucky than some...perhaps they all wanna go out all the time because they have no interests at home, where as I have gaming and this website. I love to play games, and also love to chat here. None of my friends (apart from 1, and he likes going Paintball,) have this...
I'm confused. I like my life, but I'd also like to be a bit more extrovert, a bit more confident and I'd also like to know, within myself why I don't like these things, that so many others do.
At the moment I'm beginning to think that I'm gonna turn out like my uncle (about 40 years old, never married, still at home with his mother.)
Thanks for reading, Ant.
This topic is mostly stemming from my mates going paintball and wanting me to come. I went once before and didn't like it much at all-well, no where near as much as they all liked. So I don't want to go this time. I'm not sure why I don't want to go...am I boring? Am I too scared to go? I don't know, but I'm certainly very different from the rest of my mates. The problem is, if I say that I don't want to go, they'll take the p!ss out of me, so I've been deserpately trying to think of a decent excuse. Nothing yet.
But all this has made me think. I mean, I hate going places which are very busy. As some of you know, I lack in a lot of self-confidence. I'm nervous around new people, and especially nervous around girls. There's another thing...some of my mates go out with different girls all the time because they're more confident, and they don't seem to care at all when they break up. As some of you may know (I posted a topic on here and FOG Prime all about it,) I got really worked up over this one girl. Just one!
Quite a lot of my friends go to this local nightclub where they try and pick up as many girls as possible. If they asked me to come, I wouldn't know what to say, because that sort of place really doesn't sound like my sort of thing. But I'm worried...why am I like this, and no one else is??
I mean, I enjoy my life. I occasionally go and play cricket and pool with my mates, and I go to a youth club on sunday nights as well as a Christian Youth Group, but that's it. I mean, I don't particurlarly enjoy the youth club. It's good, but sometimes I just wish I could stay at home. I actually think I'm more lucky than some...perhaps they all wanna go out all the time because they have no interests at home, where as I have gaming and this website. I love to play games, and also love to chat here. None of my friends (apart from 1, and he likes going Paintball,) have this...
I'm confused. I like my life, but I'd also like to be a bit more extrovert, a bit more confident and I'd also like to know, within myself why I don't like these things, that so many others do.
At the moment I'm beginning to think that I'm gonna turn out like my uncle (about 40 years old, never married, still at home with his mother.)
Thanks for reading, Ant.
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