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Ok, since Cooldogs posted his experiences of being bullied, it keeps cropping up time and time again.
Wookie offered his thoughts on the subject, and I want to try and say something about it.
Here goes:
I can say with hand on heart that my schooldays were the most miserable and hated times of my life that I can remember.
Why?
Bullies.
Made my life hell from 12-16 until I left to go to College.
I was small for my age, wore glasses, read a lot and was quiet. In school, this marks you out as a target for others. You’re “weak” or “gay”, and it’s open season on the little kid.
There was a gang of about 6 kids, some my age, some in the year below me that made it their mission in life to harass, taunt, smack and generally abuse on a daily basis.
The train on the way to school, waiting for lessons, walking to the station after school, the train ride home and on the bus until I got off at my stop.
Why?
Because I was quiet, didn’t like sports, never said anything back and just wanted to get on with school and learn stuff. I loved that part of school, learning stuff I didn’t know, I did my homework, paid attention in class and made the effort to do as well as I can.
Which meant I was “different”, and therefore it was ok to go out of their way to torment me.
You read, you play video game and you spend a lot of time in your room. You feel alone, hopeless and lost. You feel like you must be doing something wrong for someone to want to be so nasty to you.
I couldn’t tell my mum, she was a single mum and worked hard to send me to this school, a grammar school, so that I would have a better chance in life.
What do I say? “Hey mum, you know you work all hours so I can go to a good school? Well, I don’t like it. Please send me somewhere else.”
No, you don’t say anything because you realise how much of a struggle it is for a single mother to raise 2 kids and to go without things so you can get the best education possible.
You can’t talk to your teachers, because all that would happen is the bullies would get detention. And then they would come back for you, twice as hard for grassing on them.
So, you go to school every day, you take the punishments, you wish you were somewhere else.
You wish you were invisible, or bigger/stronger than the bullies.
You come home every night and you cry your heart out because there is nobody you can talk to about this, it will never get any better and you know the same thing will happen tomorrow and tomorrow and on and on and on.
Maybe you can’t afford the latest sneakers for games, maybe you wear glasses, or you’re over-weight, or you’re small, or you have a religion that is different, or you’re a different colour.
So many reasons to get bullied.
I spent night after night writing stories (like Cooldogs), playing on my spectrum, reading books or sitting with my star wars toys creating worlds to lose myself in, because anything was better than going to school, where you know this is going to start again.
There may be times when you think about suicide.
It may be 2am and you are awake, stomach in knots because you can’t face what will come when you go through those school gates.
I became withdrawn, didn’t speak much, didn’t go out and tried to be as unseen as possible.
And then I went to college.
Nobody knew me there. I dreaded seeing people from my school there, but nobody was.
And you know what the strange thing is?
I made friends. A lot of friends.
Nobody cared that I wore glasses, nobody cared that I listened to old music, nobody cared that I didn’t like to play football.
These were people that took me for what I was, and didn’t judge me.
I came out of my shell like you wouldn’t believe. I taught myself the drums, I joined a band, I did all the things I should have done when I was at school but didn’t.
I went out with my mates and got drunk, acted the fool and generally goofed off, it was like being let out of a prison cell.
I don’t have any answers if you’re in this position right now, except to say that it WILL stop when you leave school. People outside of school don’t care what you look like/think like etc.
I am no longer a timid little boy, I play in a fantastic band, I have some seriously good friends, I learned to stick up for myself and I take zero crap from anyone now. I’m
And when I see or hear other kids in the same position, I get so angry because nobody, and I mean NOBODY has the right to treat you like that.
Cooldogs had his writing and his dog to save him, I had writing and video-games and movies.
Video games can make you forget about everything else for a while, as can books and movies.
Please, if you’re being bullied and can’t talk to anyone, just hold on and be strong. It WILL end when you leave school, I promise. You’re not stupid or crap, you’re not to blame, you’re not wrong.
You need to keep going and realise that you will meet people that will like you for the same reasons you’re getting abuse now.
I have gone from being a little boy that lived in his head, to being a drummer with good friends, a beautiful girlfriend and the chance to try and help anyone else in the same situation I was.
Please, please don’t let them think you’re a bad person.
Wookie offered his thoughts on the subject, and I want to try and say something about it.
Here goes:
I can say with hand on heart that my schooldays were the most miserable and hated times of my life that I can remember.
Why?
Bullies.
Made my life hell from 12-16 until I left to go to College.
I was small for my age, wore glasses, read a lot and was quiet. In school, this marks you out as a target for others. You’re “weak” or “gay”, and it’s open season on the little kid.
There was a gang of about 6 kids, some my age, some in the year below me that made it their mission in life to harass, taunt, smack and generally abuse on a daily basis.
The train on the way to school, waiting for lessons, walking to the station after school, the train ride home and on the bus until I got off at my stop.
Why?
Because I was quiet, didn’t like sports, never said anything back and just wanted to get on with school and learn stuff. I loved that part of school, learning stuff I didn’t know, I did my homework, paid attention in class and made the effort to do as well as I can.
Which meant I was “different”, and therefore it was ok to go out of their way to torment me.
You read, you play video game and you spend a lot of time in your room. You feel alone, hopeless and lost. You feel like you must be doing something wrong for someone to want to be so nasty to you.
I couldn’t tell my mum, she was a single mum and worked hard to send me to this school, a grammar school, so that I would have a better chance in life.
What do I say? “Hey mum, you know you work all hours so I can go to a good school? Well, I don’t like it. Please send me somewhere else.”
No, you don’t say anything because you realise how much of a struggle it is for a single mother to raise 2 kids and to go without things so you can get the best education possible.
You can’t talk to your teachers, because all that would happen is the bullies would get detention. And then they would come back for you, twice as hard for grassing on them.
So, you go to school every day, you take the punishments, you wish you were somewhere else.
You wish you were invisible, or bigger/stronger than the bullies.
You come home every night and you cry your heart out because there is nobody you can talk to about this, it will never get any better and you know the same thing will happen tomorrow and tomorrow and on and on and on.
Maybe you can’t afford the latest sneakers for games, maybe you wear glasses, or you’re over-weight, or you’re small, or you have a religion that is different, or you’re a different colour.
So many reasons to get bullied.
I spent night after night writing stories (like Cooldogs), playing on my spectrum, reading books or sitting with my star wars toys creating worlds to lose myself in, because anything was better than going to school, where you know this is going to start again.
There may be times when you think about suicide.
It may be 2am and you are awake, stomach in knots because you can’t face what will come when you go through those school gates.
I became withdrawn, didn’t speak much, didn’t go out and tried to be as unseen as possible.
And then I went to college.
Nobody knew me there. I dreaded seeing people from my school there, but nobody was.
And you know what the strange thing is?
I made friends. A lot of friends.
Nobody cared that I wore glasses, nobody cared that I listened to old music, nobody cared that I didn’t like to play football.
These were people that took me for what I was, and didn’t judge me.
I came out of my shell like you wouldn’t believe. I taught myself the drums, I joined a band, I did all the things I should have done when I was at school but didn’t.
I went out with my mates and got drunk, acted the fool and generally goofed off, it was like being let out of a prison cell.
I don’t have any answers if you’re in this position right now, except to say that it WILL stop when you leave school. People outside of school don’t care what you look like/think like etc.
I am no longer a timid little boy, I play in a fantastic band, I have some seriously good friends, I learned to stick up for myself and I take zero crap from anyone now. I’m
And when I see or hear other kids in the same position, I get so angry because nobody, and I mean NOBODY has the right to treat you like that.
Cooldogs had his writing and his dog to save him, I had writing and video-games and movies.
Video games can make you forget about everything else for a while, as can books and movies.
Please, if you’re being bullied and can’t talk to anyone, just hold on and be strong. It WILL end when you leave school, I promise. You’re not stupid or crap, you’re not to blame, you’re not wrong.
You need to keep going and realise that you will meet people that will like you for the same reasons you’re getting abuse now.
I have gone from being a little boy that lived in his head, to being a drummer with good friends, a beautiful girlfriend and the chance to try and help anyone else in the same situation I was.
Please, please don’t let them think you’re a bad person.
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hi me again just to let you know ive been taking these now for just over 2months and have lost just over 2 stone, im gona take a 1 week break as recomended and start again, ive ordered alot this morning as most of my friends want them as they just cant beleive the results, neither can my fella as he just booked a summer hol and im not going shopping for a bikini until nearer the time, as ive not worn 1 for years as ive just covered up in the past,
thank you for all the support and speak soon
lucylou
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thank you for all the support and speak soon
lucylou
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thanks again
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thanks again
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hi me again, just an update to my weight loss, well ive lost another 8lb ive ordered more just incase they run out and ordered for 2 friends of mine aswell
thank you
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hi i cant believe that these really work ive lost 6lb in 2days now ill keep you posted over the next couple of days ive recomemded you to all my friends.
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Goatboy wrote:
> who remembers The Cookie Crew?
I remmeber them, they were, uh, good, i think, yeah, errrm, they released some good, er, stuff.
*Grabs his coat and legs it out the door.*
> who remembers The Cookie Crew?
I remmeber them, they were, uh, good, i think, yeah, errrm, they released some good, er, stuff.
*Grabs his coat and legs it out the door.*
Although you must have been told this many times before, but the fact that you have made your own opinion on these things will, in the long run, make you a much more rounded individual as you have not taken the same views as your peers because you have an unbiased viewpoint.
I myself was bullied, and I understand that this will affect other areas of your life. Try to separate your school and personal life, where your peers may try to integrate it. Belonging to two separate societies may sound difficult, but you can choose who to socialise with whereas inside the school environment, you are forced into a class. Try to find people that share your views inside school, although I'm sure you have already done so.
Forming your own views based solely on your own experiences is indeed something to be admired, and having people outside of school and family to turn to will help, as explaining these situations to family or teachers is very difficult. As long as this does not have any major detrimental affect on your studies, then you should try to cope outside of school, but if this is really affecting you inside and outside of school, then the situation should be resolved using the proper means, even if this does mean that you be unpopular in the short term.
I myself was bullied, and I understand that this will affect other areas of your life. Try to separate your school and personal life, where your peers may try to integrate it. Belonging to two separate societies may sound difficult, but you can choose who to socialise with whereas inside the school environment, you are forced into a class. Try to find people that share your views inside school, although I'm sure you have already done so.
Forming your own views based solely on your own experiences is indeed something to be admired, and having people outside of school and family to turn to will help, as explaining these situations to family or teachers is very difficult. As long as this does not have any major detrimental affect on your studies, then you should try to cope outside of school, but if this is really affecting you inside and outside of school, then the situation should be resolved using the proper means, even if this does mean that you be unpopular in the short term.
Then you are equally a decent person, and I'm not being sarcastic.
I admire you just as much for not being a part of the problem.
I admire you just as much for not being a part of the problem.
Pink Floyd: In my account the best ever band!
Now where is their new album?
Now where is their new album?
Floyd does rule.
I remember (this was in the mid-eighties), getting stick because whilst everyone else was listening to Acid House, I had The Doors, Pink Floyd and The Beatles on my walkman.
Now, I might be wrong here, but almost 15 years later, who remembers The Cookie Crew?
I think I've made my point
I remember (this was in the mid-eighties), getting stick because whilst everyone else was listening to Acid House, I had The Doors, Pink Floyd and The Beatles on my walkman.
Now, I might be wrong here, but almost 15 years later, who remembers The Cookie Crew?
I think I've made my point
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