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"Should I feel guilty?"

I posted about a night out on Friday, which ended in me leaving at about midnight so I could ride home for free on the metro instead of staying and having to pay for a taxi later on.

After recovering we went to The Wal's brother's for a BBQ (me, Wal, Fos, Wal's bird and Wal's younger brother) Drank lots of Thai beer (it was only 5%, not like the minimum 8% stuff over there but it tasted about the same) and had a laugh.

Wal enjoys inflicting pain on his friends and decided to try and get me to submit to some wrist lock thingy which really hurt. After fighting for about five minutes I gave up, and then his younger brother Sean wanted to see if he could pick me up. Being stupid, I let him and soon I was spinning around. Instead of dropping me on the sofa nice and safely, only my upper torso hit the nice padded cushions, part of my back hit the hard edge and there was a big crack.

Everyone thought they'd snapped my spine but it was just the wheel on the sofa. Wal's brother then tried to pick up the Fos man and ended up falling through a table (basically put his head through it) He's only 16 bless him, and he was totally mortal; kept threatening people during the taxi ride home.

In between fighting off The Wal Brothers and talking to a Thai girl on the phone I started getting texts off little Gemma, asking if I could keep a secret. Seems Katie, the lovely, curvy blonde did something she shouldn't have in an alleyway with a lad from work who was cracking onto her all night. When I say she's lovely, I really mean it, she's so friendly and will talk to anyone, which is a problem in town when every lad and his dad comes up to try and work the magic. I was keeping an eye on her, pulling her away from large groups of lads and wanted to make sure she got home alright in a taxi. Of course that didn't happen when they disappeared to go clubbing and I left early.

I thought she'd be alright as there were still a few lasses out, but I was a little concerned because everyone else out was a lad who wanted to crack onto her.

If it did indeed happen then I feel a little responsible. Aye, I wasn't the one doing her against a wall, but if I'd stayed out I feel I could've continued keeping an eye on her as she got a bit more drunk. She's trusting and naive but I didn't think she'd cheat on her boyfriend. Even if I'd just said goodbye before they went clubbing I could've told her to stick with Gemma all night, or asked Gemma to keep an eye on her.

Now I don't know what to say to her on Monday morning, do I act like I don't know? Do I ask if she's alright? If I know her I'm sure she's feeling mighty guilty herself, I don't want to rub it in but I also want to make sure she's OK. I don't think she'll get any sympathy from Gemma...

Of course it could all be a lie, the guy who said he did it could've just been bragging to his mates, or someone got the wrong end of the stick. Like I said I never thought she'd cheat on her boyfriend, especially since they've been together for over two years.

I need some advice people, I'm her friend and I'm meant to be there for her, not pass judgement.

Oh, and to lighten the mood a bit, Wal and Sean dropped me on the grass in the garden and literally kicked my ass. And I've got bruises and marks on my arms. Still, I won't have the headache Sean will after putting his head through a small table.

Stryke wrote:
> Stop being so gay about it. How's that?

Perfect :-D

You're making a fool of yourself Mojo.
Be a man for goodness sake.

Stop being so gay about it. How's that?

She was drunk and has a boyfriend.

Of course I'm being sexist; if one of my male friends had pulled some bird from work and done her in an alley, I'd want to shake his hand and buy him a drink. Role reversal never works...

Edit -

"But the way you put it makes it sound like they're expecting you to be the responsible one, therefore meaning they can blame you for their mistakes when you're around."

Na, they don't expect anything from me, except to make them laugh all night. I'm like a cheap laughter hussie.

That's understandable.

But the way you put it makes it sound like they're expecting you to be the responsible one, therefore meaning they can blame you for their mistakes when you're around.

Your friend got laid, what's the problem?

Woah, hey, everyone's making me out to be some sort of anti-learning Terminator of fun! I'm not!

I just don't want to see my friends get hurt when I can do something about it. When I'm not there, fair enough, and I'm usually not, but my mates are what matters most to me.

MoJo.

You can't protect your friends from all the bad things in life. No one likes to see their friends go through bad things. One day, you just gotta let go.

I dread to think how you'll be when you're children start leading their own lives.

Comedy is such a worthy cause :D

I'm not a baby sitter or anything, hell I let my mates steal bowling pins and throw them at each other (and spent the night in a cell for my troubles) but I don't want to see bad things happen to my mates.

Unless it's in the interests of comedy.