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"Stalker"

I'm after some advice here I guess. Not quite sure how to deal with a rather bizarre situation.

This guy I know has been really interested in this girl for around 3 years, however during this time she's always been with the same boyfriend (who is a really decent guy etc), however this didn't deter our little persistant-to-stupidity Romeo.

He sits next to her at every chance he gets, stares at her all the time (for example, a bunch of mates went to see a friend's band play last night and he spent the whole night staring at her), he waits hours after school to walk her home, even though he lives miles in the other direction, and he told in confidence to a mutual friend, that he understands her better than her boyfriend of 3-years does, despite never spending any time with her.

I thought this was rather desperate, however after the aforementioned gig last night, a few of us went to a bar - his 'target' and boyfriend here there, he wasn't. She told me the extent of his desperation. He waited SIX HOURS after school for her to finish a drama rehershal to walk her home one time. He also hangs around outside her house looking in her windows and stuff (from the street, not in the garden n stuff) and on the occasions she's left the house to ask him what he's been doing he's said he's been at MY house and was walking back (I live on the same estate as her you see), however he hasn't been at my house since around year 8.

I realise it's probably not my place to get involved and suchlike and it may be harmless obsessive-compulsive behaviour - however the girl is also a good friend of my girlfriend's and I don't much want to see her get murdered and raped by this guy either.

So, what would Jesus do, or what would you do, whichever answer works best?

Thanks.

um.. she should probably try to avoid him or maybe someone could tell him to get it though his head that they have been going out for 3 years so they will probably stay together longer.

Light wrote:
> When he's faced
> with the stark evidence of how pitifully little he know about her,
> he'll either
>
> - see sense, and realise he's maybe gone off the rails a little, or
>
> - redouble his stalking efforts

or C) realise his life is worthless and shoot himself. Which, although it would solve the problem, you might feel responsible for :S Tricky one.

That sounds a bit scary to me.. has this girl said anything to him, cos if she'd said summit to tell him that she wasnt interested then maybe he mite calm off.. it seems to me like she isnt doing much do discourage him.. if it was me... id make sure he knew his place.. :)

Whitestripes DX wrote:
> Jump him, stab him.
>
>
> It was self-defense.

Don't listen to him, he's a rogue.

Jump him, stab him.


It was self-defense.

I think you should tell him that you KNOW she's not interested.

Paradox: wrote:
> Do you think it's morally right of me to step him and say "look,
> we know you're stalking her, quit it?"

Only if you're 100% sure, otherwise you could end up looking like a right wally.

Do you think it's morally right of me to step him and say "look, we know you're stalking her, quit it?"

In that case, he really needs to be persuaded that his future happiness does not rest on her shoulders.

It might also be worth trying to get him to write down all the times he's ever spoken to her; held a full conversation. When he's faced with the stark evidence of how pitifully little he know about her, he'll either

- see sense, and realise he's maybe gone off the rails a little, or

- redouble his stalking efforts

His parents are those uber-proud "my child can do no wrong" type.

This media exam we took was either harsly marked or we were taught badly, and his dad rung up and demanded that his son get an A for the unit.

I'm not tangling with that crazy beast.