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When you've had strong feelings for someone over a long period of time and then, you realise all hope is likely to be worth sod all when it comes down to the fact she's very happy as she is and things may never change, no matter how hard you rub that magic lamp...
How exactly do you go about moving-on from this one fixation to leave it all behind in the past?
That is, basically, the situation I'm in now. Having realised she's more than just 'happy' with her current situation, she'll soon be moving out on her own and everything... Despite her "reputation", there maybe nothing left for me worth fighting for.
When I've been in this kind of situation before, I don't think I've properly "forgotten" about the girl in question. I have learnt how to move on. I understand feelings cannot simply 'die' in an instant, but there must surely be a way of dealing with it and changing your perspective?
The people I know are cut short of ideas on this matter, having barely been this far, this seriously themselves. Ideas I've heard are, generally, ones I just want to forget. You know... Drinking never solves anything and only makes it worse. Is f***ing the very next pretty thing you see really gonna take your mind of it all, if it's meaningless in itself?
How do you escape from these feelings at the end of a meaningful relationshup that breaks down into a million-and-one tiny pieces?
I've seen how hard it can hit people when it comes to divorce if they don't deal with it properly. Very different situation here, I know that. But my 'Confidence' and such has always been very fragile. The slightest crack could lead to social problems, or something, with me...
So, how DO you deal with it?
How HAVE you dealt with things?
What on Earth do I do?
How exactly do you go about moving-on from this one fixation to leave it all behind in the past?
That is, basically, the situation I'm in now. Having realised she's more than just 'happy' with her current situation, she'll soon be moving out on her own and everything... Despite her "reputation", there maybe nothing left for me worth fighting for.
When I've been in this kind of situation before, I don't think I've properly "forgotten" about the girl in question. I have learnt how to move on. I understand feelings cannot simply 'die' in an instant, but there must surely be a way of dealing with it and changing your perspective?
The people I know are cut short of ideas on this matter, having barely been this far, this seriously themselves. Ideas I've heard are, generally, ones I just want to forget. You know... Drinking never solves anything and only makes it worse. Is f***ing the very next pretty thing you see really gonna take your mind of it all, if it's meaningless in itself?
How do you escape from these feelings at the end of a meaningful relationshup that breaks down into a million-and-one tiny pieces?
I've seen how hard it can hit people when it comes to divorce if they don't deal with it properly. Very different situation here, I know that. But my 'Confidence' and such has always been very fragile. The slightest crack could lead to social problems, or something, with me...
So, how DO you deal with it?
How HAVE you dealt with things?
What on Earth do I do?
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you can never forget, but only move on.
*shrug* crap advice, but true.
*shrug* crap advice, but true.
Your Honour wrote:
> Masturbation never solves anything....
BBC News begs to differ: [URL]http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3072021.stm[/URL]
> Masturbation never solves anything....
BBC News begs to differ: [URL]http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3072021.stm[/URL]
Solskjær wrote:
> You know... Drinking never solves anything and only makes it worse.
See, here you would be wrong. I too was in a rather similar situation recently. My solution was a 38 hour drinking binge that ended with my deputy/best friend dragging me home. After waking up feeling just a tad worse for wear things didn't hurt as much. I don't know why not, but they didn't.
Really however, the best way to move on is to realise that there are other wonderful women out there, ones that although different, you could be just as happy with. Mere words I know, but still true. A few days after The Binge From Hell, I ended up chatting to some girl. OK, so nothing happened there. But for those few hours, as we sat and just talked about life and everything, it dawned on me that there are others out there, there is more than just one woman for you. And that gives you perspective, and then it doesn't hurt so much. I still miss my ex, but I could move on now.
> You know... Drinking never solves anything and only makes it worse.
See, here you would be wrong. I too was in a rather similar situation recently. My solution was a 38 hour drinking binge that ended with my deputy/best friend dragging me home. After waking up feeling just a tad worse for wear things didn't hurt as much. I don't know why not, but they didn't.
Really however, the best way to move on is to realise that there are other wonderful women out there, ones that although different, you could be just as happy with. Mere words I know, but still true. A few days after The Binge From Hell, I ended up chatting to some girl. OK, so nothing happened there. But for those few hours, as we sat and just talked about life and everything, it dawned on me that there are others out there, there is more than just one woman for you. And that gives you perspective, and then it doesn't hurt so much. I still miss my ex, but I could move on now.
English_Bloke wrote:
> Puddin™ wrote:
> Time is a great healer...
>
> Unless you have an STD in which case you're better off with a special
> cream
But I haven't got any have I?
> Puddin™ wrote:
> Time is a great healer...
>
> Unless you have an STD in which case you're better off with a special
> cream
But I haven't got any have I?
Puddin™ wrote:
> Time is a great healer...
Unless you have an STD in which case you're better off with a special cream
> Time is a great healer...
Unless you have an STD in which case you're better off with a special cream
Puddin™ wrote:
> There has been one or 2 blokes who i never thought i could live with
> out.
>
> The first one,well i told him not to talk to me no more so thats how
> i got over him.
heed the advice of ms. puddin, it does actually work.
it's also a lot healthier in the longrun if it hurts that much, it's just easier to not have anything to do with them. and yes, i speak from experience so i'll vouch for it :)
> There has been one or 2 blokes who i never thought i could live with
> out.
>
> The first one,well i told him not to talk to me no more so thats how
> i got over him.
heed the advice of ms. puddin, it does actually work.
it's also a lot healthier in the longrun if it hurts that much, it's just easier to not have anything to do with them. and yes, i speak from experience so i'll vouch for it :)
There has been one or 2 blokes who i never thought i could live with out.
The first one,well i told him not to talk to me no more so thats how i got over him.
The second one, i got a boyfriend then when i spoke to him i realised what an idiot he is..tho he's still my mate, kinda
The third..(ok there been 3)...he started calling me names when we broke up so i realised he not worth it,
Get the girl to ignore you and call you names...that should do it.
The first one,well i told him not to talk to me no more so thats how i got over him.
The second one, i got a boyfriend then when i spoke to him i realised what an idiot he is..tho he's still my mate, kinda
The third..(ok there been 3)...he started calling me names when we broke up so i realised he not worth it,
Get the girl to ignore you and call you names...that should do it.
Live in misery for a bit, and then one day you look back and you realise you've no regrets anymore...
So it happened to me. :-)
So it happened to me. :-)
Solskjær wrote:
> How exactly do you go about moving-on from this one fixation to leave
> it all behind in the past?
Similar situation with my moments, except they haven't lasted for years/months, just weeks, and then end when I find out they're married. Meh.
The thought is just, "Oh, well" And that's it. Carry on with your days and find something else to keep you occupied until another comes along. You can't get stuck on one thing else you'll probably go crazy! Easy to write/say to someone, but it's gotta be hard.
> How exactly do you go about moving-on from this one fixation to leave
> it all behind in the past?
Similar situation with my moments, except they haven't lasted for years/months, just weeks, and then end when I find out they're married. Meh.
The thought is just, "Oh, well" And that's it. Carry on with your days and find something else to keep you occupied until another comes along. You can't get stuck on one thing else you'll probably go crazy! Easy to write/say to someone, but it's gotta be hard.
I say don't give up.
Convert her, how hard can it be?
Convert her, how hard can it be?
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