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It occurs to me that I'm a utter coward most of the time. I have trouble over-coming it, and it's half the problem why I get so paranoid and all sorts of weird crap happens.
However, I've realised that actually writing down what I'm afraid of, working it out in my mind and then scribbling it down, actually really helps me to see what I have to face. In many ways, it's a little system to see what direction I need to go next, admit to the fear, then attack it.
So, just out of interest (and to see if anyone else has the same problem with being afraid, anxious and the like), I ask what you're afraid of at the moment? You never know, with it out of your system and admitted, maybe it won't be such a problem?
I'm not just talking about phobias like spiders, heights, etc.. more things like debt, being on stage, talking to a girl, etc.
Any other fear related comments also welcome.
However, I've realised that actually writing down what I'm afraid of, working it out in my mind and then scribbling it down, actually really helps me to see what I have to face. In many ways, it's a little system to see what direction I need to go next, admit to the fear, then attack it.
So, just out of interest (and to see if anyone else has the same problem with being afraid, anxious and the like), I ask what you're afraid of at the moment? You never know, with it out of your system and admitted, maybe it won't be such a problem?
I'm not just talking about phobias like spiders, heights, etc.. more things like debt, being on stage, talking to a girl, etc.
Any other fear related comments also welcome.
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Strafio wrote:
"How did our evolution softwire fear into our systems? :-S"
Because we're probably not supposed to fight it. Remember, we're a virus :) Fear has probably kept us alive for God knows how long.
I'm terrified about my art. I can draw alright, but I can't work it into my lifestyle easily... not in the way I can sit down and write, etc.. I can't easily sit down and draw.
(You fat titty, that's half the problem. If you just found an object, sat down and and actually drew it, you'd get satisfaction in it. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and just do it, you've got nothing to prove to anyone. Well, apart from the interview that requires a portfolio, but fearwise, er, you know what I mean.)
I think stress and pressure does create so much fear in me, it's a serious problem... I need to find the balance, enough pressure so I produce good work, but not too much to pin me down completely... argh, it's always about balance! Damnit.
"How did our evolution softwire fear into our systems? :-S"
Because we're probably not supposed to fight it. Remember, we're a virus :) Fear has probably kept us alive for God knows how long.
I'm terrified about my art. I can draw alright, but I can't work it into my lifestyle easily... not in the way I can sit down and write, etc.. I can't easily sit down and draw.
(You fat titty, that's half the problem. If you just found an object, sat down and and actually drew it, you'd get satisfaction in it. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and just do it, you've got nothing to prove to anyone. Well, apart from the interview that requires a portfolio, but fearwise, er, you know what I mean.)
I think stress and pressure does create so much fear in me, it's a serious problem... I need to find the balance, enough pressure so I produce good work, but not too much to pin me down completely... argh, it's always about balance! Damnit.
Black Glove wrote:
> I fear people who unwaveringly believe the beliefs they hold are the
> benevolent truth. People who just won't entertain the notion that
> there are other possibilities outside of their 'truth'.
Do you genuinely fear that? Doesn't is just wind you up a little.
Why is it scary?
I mean, it might be holding people back, but most of the time it isn't doing any real harm, and any superficial harm it's doing, isn't that just their problem?
> On a personal level I fear most things: all to do with people. The
> superficiality of people, the expectations of people, their
> attitudes, their beliefs, their prejudices - it all stems from other
> people.
I fear the same things, but the way I see it is that it stems from me.
It's not the people that scare me, it's my prejudices of them that puts my mind into nerves mode.
I like to think that I'm slowly overcoming it all, but I'm not sure.
I suppose I'm a lot better and more open than I was about 3 years ago.
I'm still a long way off from where I was when I was young and was too innocent to suspect anything, but I guess it wouldn't work being like that because back then I was always in "safe" situations, where there was always an adult assigned to look after me.
I guess the way forward is to take danger rationally, because fear doesn't really help you in a dangerous situation, does it?
> I fear people - just thinking about the sheer numbers ticking over on
> the skin of the globe sends into spiralling despair... and I am one
> of them - just another little body and mind, just another nobody
> dominated by his genes, waiting, searching for what...?
Why do you have to see that as such a bad thing?
What did you ever expect from yourself?
What does it change?
> I fear 'me' - I fear those recurring moments when I realize that all
> and every thing just might be pointless and fatally flawed.
I guess I don't fear myself, but I know EXACTLY who I'm holding responsible for it!
> But to be positive: even though fear is the shadowy bogeyman stalking
> in our footsteps, I think we should never allow fear to catch us and
> clamp our mouths and eyes - there are stronger and greater things in
> life like...
That reminded me of those classes in Donnie Darko. :-)
But yeah, fear is bad for you. It holds you back, so if you were in danger, fear could only stop you from working your way to safety.
Not to say be reckless, but...
If I saw a fire, I wouldn't fear it, but I'd know better than to get burnt by it. And if someone attacks me, fear might make me freeze, wheras rationally I would try and escape, you know?
How did our evolution softwire fear into our systems? :-S
> I fear people who unwaveringly believe the beliefs they hold are the
> benevolent truth. People who just won't entertain the notion that
> there are other possibilities outside of their 'truth'.
Do you genuinely fear that? Doesn't is just wind you up a little.
Why is it scary?
I mean, it might be holding people back, but most of the time it isn't doing any real harm, and any superficial harm it's doing, isn't that just their problem?
> On a personal level I fear most things: all to do with people. The
> superficiality of people, the expectations of people, their
> attitudes, their beliefs, their prejudices - it all stems from other
> people.
I fear the same things, but the way I see it is that it stems from me.
It's not the people that scare me, it's my prejudices of them that puts my mind into nerves mode.
I like to think that I'm slowly overcoming it all, but I'm not sure.
I suppose I'm a lot better and more open than I was about 3 years ago.
I'm still a long way off from where I was when I was young and was too innocent to suspect anything, but I guess it wouldn't work being like that because back then I was always in "safe" situations, where there was always an adult assigned to look after me.
I guess the way forward is to take danger rationally, because fear doesn't really help you in a dangerous situation, does it?
> I fear people - just thinking about the sheer numbers ticking over on
> the skin of the globe sends into spiralling despair... and I am one
> of them - just another little body and mind, just another nobody
> dominated by his genes, waiting, searching for what...?
Why do you have to see that as such a bad thing?
What did you ever expect from yourself?
What does it change?
> I fear 'me' - I fear those recurring moments when I realize that all
> and every thing just might be pointless and fatally flawed.
I guess I don't fear myself, but I know EXACTLY who I'm holding responsible for it!
> But to be positive: even though fear is the shadowy bogeyman stalking
> in our footsteps, I think we should never allow fear to catch us and
> clamp our mouths and eyes - there are stronger and greater things in
> life like...
That reminded me of those classes in Donnie Darko. :-)
But yeah, fear is bad for you. It holds you back, so if you were in danger, fear could only stop you from working your way to safety.
Not to say be reckless, but...
If I saw a fire, I wouldn't fear it, but I'd know better than to get burnt by it. And if someone attacks me, fear might make me freeze, wheras rationally I would try and escape, you know?
How did our evolution softwire fear into our systems? :-S
Black Glove wrote:
> I fear people who unwaveringly believe the beliefs they hold are the
> benevolent truth. People who just won't entertain the notion that
> there are other possibilities outside of their 'truth'.
Do you genuinely fear that? Doesn't is just wind you up a little.
Why is it scary?
I mean, it might be holding people back, but most of the time it isn't doing any real harm, and any superficial harm it's doing, isn't that just their problem?
> On a personal level I fear most things: all to do with people. The
> superficiality of people, the expectations of people, their
> attitudes, their beliefs, their prejudices - it all stems from other
> people.
I fear the same things, but the way I see it is that it stems from me.
It's not the people that scare me, it's my prejudices of them that puts my mind into nerves mode.
I like to think that I'm slowly overcoming it all, but I'm not sure.
I suppose I'm a lot better and more open than I was about 3 years ago.
I'm still a long way off from where I was when I was young and was too innocent to suspect anything, but I guess it wouldn't work being like that because back then I was always in "safe" situations, where there was always an adult assigned to look after me.
I guess the way forward is to take danger rationally, because fear doesn't really help you in a dangerous situation, does it?
> I fear people - just thinking about the sheer numbers ticking over on
> the skin of the globe sends into spiralling despair... and I am one
> of them - just another little body and mind, just another nobody
> dominated by his genes, waiting, searching for what...?
Why do you have to see that as such a bad thing?
What did you ever expect from yourself?
What does it change?
> I fear 'me' - I fear those recurring moments when I realize that all
> and every thing just might be pointless and fatally flawed.
I guess I don't fear myself, but I know EXACTLY who I'm holding responsible for it!
> But to be positive: even though fear is the shadowy bogeyman stalking
> in our footsteps, I think we should never allow fear to catch us and
> clamp our mouths and eyes - there are stronger and greater things in
> life like...
That reminded me of those classes in Donnie Darko. :-)
But yeah, fear is bad for you. It holds you back, so if you were in danger, fear could only stop you from working your way to safety.
Not to say be reckless, but...
If I saw a fire, I wouldn't fear it, but I'd know better than to get burnt by it. And if someone attacks me, fear might make me freeze, wheras rationally I would try and escape, you know?
How did our evolution softwire fear into our systems? :-S
> I fear people who unwaveringly believe the beliefs they hold are the
> benevolent truth. People who just won't entertain the notion that
> there are other possibilities outside of their 'truth'.
Do you genuinely fear that? Doesn't is just wind you up a little.
Why is it scary?
I mean, it might be holding people back, but most of the time it isn't doing any real harm, and any superficial harm it's doing, isn't that just their problem?
> On a personal level I fear most things: all to do with people. The
> superficiality of people, the expectations of people, their
> attitudes, their beliefs, their prejudices - it all stems from other
> people.
I fear the same things, but the way I see it is that it stems from me.
It's not the people that scare me, it's my prejudices of them that puts my mind into nerves mode.
I like to think that I'm slowly overcoming it all, but I'm not sure.
I suppose I'm a lot better and more open than I was about 3 years ago.
I'm still a long way off from where I was when I was young and was too innocent to suspect anything, but I guess it wouldn't work being like that because back then I was always in "safe" situations, where there was always an adult assigned to look after me.
I guess the way forward is to take danger rationally, because fear doesn't really help you in a dangerous situation, does it?
> I fear people - just thinking about the sheer numbers ticking over on
> the skin of the globe sends into spiralling despair... and I am one
> of them - just another little body and mind, just another nobody
> dominated by his genes, waiting, searching for what...?
Why do you have to see that as such a bad thing?
What did you ever expect from yourself?
What does it change?
> I fear 'me' - I fear those recurring moments when I realize that all
> and every thing just might be pointless and fatally flawed.
I guess I don't fear myself, but I know EXACTLY who I'm holding responsible for it!
> But to be positive: even though fear is the shadowy bogeyman stalking
> in our footsteps, I think we should never allow fear to catch us and
> clamp our mouths and eyes - there are stronger and greater things in
> life like...
That reminded me of those classes in Donnie Darko. :-)
But yeah, fear is bad for you. It holds you back, so if you were in danger, fear could only stop you from working your way to safety.
Not to say be reckless, but...
If I saw a fire, I wouldn't fear it, but I'd know better than to get burnt by it. And if someone attacks me, fear might make me freeze, wheras rationally I would try and escape, you know?
How did our evolution softwire fear into our systems? :-S
Doh darn it!
Reading this made me worry about irrationally fearing things! :-S
Reading this made me worry about irrationally fearing things! :-S
I fear losing my future. Well, I fear death to be honest.
Like, recently I've been getting excited for going to University next year, I'm really looking forward to going and having the time of my life.
As well as going to America next year.
All great stuff is happening to me in the near future, but I fear dying. If I die before the time comes, I'll never experience Uni or anything, that'll be it.
I don't want to die!
Like, recently I've been getting excited for going to University next year, I'm really looking forward to going and having the time of my life.
As well as going to America next year.
All great stuff is happening to me in the near future, but I fear dying. If I die before the time comes, I'll never experience Uni or anything, that'll be it.
I don't want to die!
I don't really know if I mean that, but -
I fear people who unwaveringly believe the beliefs they hold are the benevolent truth. People who just won't entertain the notion that there are other possibilities outside of their 'truth'.
On a personal level I fear most things: all to do with people. The superficiality of people, the expectations of people, their attitudes, their beliefs, their prejudices - it all stems from other people.
I fear people - just thinking about the sheer numbers ticking over on the skin of the globe sends into spiralling despair... and I am one of them - just another little body and mind, just another nobody dominated by his genes, waiting, searching for what...?
I fear 'me' - I fear those recurring moments when I realize that all and every thing just might be pointless and fatally flawed.
But to be positive: even though fear is the shadowy bogeyman stalking in our footsteps, I think we should never allow fear to catch us and clamp our mouths and eyes - there are stronger and greater things in life like...
On a personal level I fear most things: all to do with people. The superficiality of people, the expectations of people, their attitudes, their beliefs, their prejudices - it all stems from other people.
I fear people - just thinking about the sheer numbers ticking over on the skin of the globe sends into spiralling despair... and I am one of them - just another little body and mind, just another nobody dominated by his genes, waiting, searching for what...?
I fear 'me' - I fear those recurring moments when I realize that all and every thing just might be pointless and fatally flawed.
But to be positive: even though fear is the shadowy bogeyman stalking in our footsteps, I think we should never allow fear to catch us and clamp our mouths and eyes - there are stronger and greater things in life like...
My biggest fears are probably Death and Failure...
... More the first only as a result of the second.
I don't know why.
In a world where image is everything, and the world has such strict ideals, I suppose those of us who don't wish to be rich, successful or popular are the outsiders.
I often worry about the lives of my own family... if someone doesn't come home inside sociable hours, or if they haven't made contact for a while. I worry when people are alone.
It's forgivable, I suppose, given the 'Grand Theft Auto' world we live in.
Still. I shouldn't have to worry.
I'm decent at pretty much anything. I've tried my hand at many things. But I'm not exceptionally good at anything. Or rather anything I’ve tried to date.
I'm about to start a story. So I have a storyboard to get done by next weekend; although there's no real time constraints or do-by goals. We'll see how that goes, and I might try writing.. If I’m happy with the first part.
But back to the topic on hand. Fear is something that affects every one of us... it may not be something we want to talk about, but everyone has fears. You just have to pray that they don't get a hold of you, and that you can get them under control.
One day, I'm going to die. I sincerely hope that it's when I’m 65+, and a footnote to a satisfying life. But I can't guarantee that. I can't guarantee I'll be a success. I may spend my whole life earning a low £18,000 a year, and only be able to live in a flat.
But regardless, I have to try. As we all do. You reap what you sew; get out what you put in. Consider the story of the Little Red Hen, who made her bread with no help. If you want to be a success, or date a girl, or make friends with someone you've never been friendly with... you have to try. Step out into the void, and it may not be so unfamiliar after all.
Fear is all in the mind. It's a disease. It's a plague. It reassures you of a negative outcome, with no reassurance itself. Pray, if you have a faith. Tell yourself, you're going to try and make every effort to, if you don't. Fear is, at any given point in your life, inevitable... but never invincible.
I should trust God with the lives of my family and with my future. Your fear is not bigger than you... It's like a Cobra that tries to make itself bigger to intimidate its foe. Don't be fooled.
Be Brave. Be Strong. Be Fearless.
Game
... More the first only as a result of the second.
I don't know why.
In a world where image is everything, and the world has such strict ideals, I suppose those of us who don't wish to be rich, successful or popular are the outsiders.
I often worry about the lives of my own family... if someone doesn't come home inside sociable hours, or if they haven't made contact for a while. I worry when people are alone.
It's forgivable, I suppose, given the 'Grand Theft Auto' world we live in.
Still. I shouldn't have to worry.
I'm decent at pretty much anything. I've tried my hand at many things. But I'm not exceptionally good at anything. Or rather anything I’ve tried to date.
I'm about to start a story. So I have a storyboard to get done by next weekend; although there's no real time constraints or do-by goals. We'll see how that goes, and I might try writing.. If I’m happy with the first part.
But back to the topic on hand. Fear is something that affects every one of us... it may not be something we want to talk about, but everyone has fears. You just have to pray that they don't get a hold of you, and that you can get them under control.
One day, I'm going to die. I sincerely hope that it's when I’m 65+, and a footnote to a satisfying life. But I can't guarantee that. I can't guarantee I'll be a success. I may spend my whole life earning a low £18,000 a year, and only be able to live in a flat.
But regardless, I have to try. As we all do. You reap what you sew; get out what you put in. Consider the story of the Little Red Hen, who made her bread with no help. If you want to be a success, or date a girl, or make friends with someone you've never been friendly with... you have to try. Step out into the void, and it may not be so unfamiliar after all.
Fear is all in the mind. It's a disease. It's a plague. It reassures you of a negative outcome, with no reassurance itself. Pray, if you have a faith. Tell yourself, you're going to try and make every effort to, if you don't. Fear is, at any given point in your life, inevitable... but never invincible.
I should trust God with the lives of my family and with my future. Your fear is not bigger than you... It's like a Cobra that tries to make itself bigger to intimidate its foe. Don't be fooled.
Be Brave. Be Strong. Be Fearless.
Game
Grix Thraves wrote:
> Stuff like going to university, getting a new job, etc. I fear kinda
> completely losing my mind to fear too, so I'm kinda afraid of fear
> itself, but that's a good thing I expect.
>
> I suppose when you look at all fears you can narrow it down to a
> basic raw fear of something..
That's true, if you fear social situations, I think it pretty much takes over almost every other part of your life. Messes with your confidence and takes ages to get it back!
I think you're right, though. The only way to deal with fear is to face it. But what's that thing called which stops you from actually doing it? What are we afraid of if we're trying to make things right? Suppose that's change, too.
> Stuff like going to university, getting a new job, etc. I fear kinda
> completely losing my mind to fear too, so I'm kinda afraid of fear
> itself, but that's a good thing I expect.
>
> I suppose when you look at all fears you can narrow it down to a
> basic raw fear of something..
That's true, if you fear social situations, I think it pretty much takes over almost every other part of your life. Messes with your confidence and takes ages to get it back!
I think you're right, though. The only way to deal with fear is to face it. But what's that thing called which stops you from actually doing it? What are we afraid of if we're trying to make things right? Suppose that's change, too.
The confidence lacks in me everytime I step on stage. I shake at the beginning of almost every performance I do. Yet, that doesn't bother me. I become an utter coward when it comes to trying to tell a girl I like her. I can easily talk to a girl, it's just that I start to fear the ones that I really like. On a deeper level, I'm scared of losing my family. And I REALLY fear rejection. It's one of the worst things to suffer and it builds up inside you for a long time.
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