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"I need to be more talkative damn it!"

I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.

I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.

I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!

*rolls eyes* I'm only answering this because you asked a question but I'm going to make it my final response to any comments regarding whether these people are fictional or not. Nadia is real, X is real, they're all real.

My advice:
It won't work out. Go back to your other girlfriend, Nadia. Thats right, the one you boasted about on here. You went out with her to spite the other imaginery girl. Great personality trait that.

Or does Nadia not exist either?

I'm not trying to prove anything. I'm trying to get some advice. Whether you believe it or not you can all read and give advice. You're all choosing not to though.

Cub!st wrote:
> Ah so if it's not jealousy it's spite. Either way great personality
> traits.

Actually personnaly I'm just doing it because its either not true or because X is a man. I just enjoy seeing the great lengths you've gone to to prove to your imaginery internet friends that you have a life.

Ah so if it's not jealousy it's spite. Either way great personality traits.

Cub!st wrote:
> Hmmm to I detect a hint of jealousy?

I dont think anybody here is jealous at all. Certainly not for what you have anyway.

Ju§t Tinkª wrote:
> Cubist you are one sad, sad guy.

Hmmm to I detect a hint of jealousy? There's no way to prove it to you I know so you can believe what you want but I'm telling you it's real.

Course you didn't "just make it up". You spent days thinking it all up, her ingenius name, her age, how much you *snigger* love her and stuff. You can't just think up these things.

You did. Your far to ugly to be going out with a 21 year old.