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"I need to be more talkative damn it!"

I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.

I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.

I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!

Call him Harry, Cubist

I knew it!

If you ignore everything, though, it'll build up. And kill you. Or something.

I don't need to talk crap about your 'relationship', you're doing a fine job of it yourself.
And as for the wrapper peeling...Purlease, think I'm going to waste eating time and energy opening a wrapper? I just eat the whole thing. Wrapper n all.

Oh yeah, and watch your language Cubist. If you don't like what someone writes just ignore it, swearing and making fat jokes just makes you look like a dick.

Cub!st wrote:

> Sorry no deal, I can't, if none of the people from my school went on
> this site I could but it'll mean something to them if I use the real
> name so I have to keep it as a single letter.


FAKE NAME! DUHH!

Come on, you just made me have to use Forest Fan material!

Cubist, please don't be offended by this, but I thought you were gay. I could've sworn you said you were.

We all know who you are talking about, so can't you just call her, "her", you see it's the "X" thing that is getting on my baps.

Well done Cub!st, you've done it again.

All we have to do is click "report that post" and chances are you'll get banned for insulting a forum member with intent.

Either that, or the much preffered aftermath will occur. You'll self humiliate yourself some more :D

English_Bloke wrote:
> Tell you what. I will read what you wrote and give a reply as long as
> you stop calling it "X". Deal?

Sorry no deal, I can't, if none of the people from my school went on this site I could but it'll mean something to them if I use the real name so I have to keep it as a single letter.