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"I need to be more talkative damn it!"

I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.

I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.

I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!

Perhaps she found 5p on the way. Oh I dont know...

Mystique wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> CTUbauer wrote:
> I've got 10p and a Chomp.
>
> 2 chomps after Mystique takes that 10p to the shops.
> ****
> That didn't make sense.

And this surprises you why......?

Basically, you took the 10p to the shop, bought another chomp and now the boy has 2 chomps.

Mystique wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> CTUbauer wrote:
> I've got 10p and a Chomp.
>
> 2 chomps after Mystique takes that 10p to the shops.
> ****
> That didn't make sense.

Especially seeing as chomps have gone up in price...

don rocco wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> Damn straight. Please rules are there to be broken, there would be
> no
> need for rules if they were followed anyway.
>
> It hurts my black heart that you think this makes you cool.

Never said it makes me think I'm "cool" *sniggers* what are you 5? Anyway yeh, as I said rules are there to be broken so I don't see why I shouldn't.

Mystique wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> CTUbauer wrote:
> I've got 10p and a Chomp.
>
> 2 chomps after Mystique takes that 10p to the shops.
> ****
> That didn't make sense.

Just smile and wave :)

Cub!st wrote:
> CTUbauer wrote:
> I've got 10p and a Chomp.
>
> 2 chomps after Mystique takes that 10p to the shops.
****
That didn't make sense.

Cub!st wrote:
> Damn straight. Please rules are there to be broken, there would be no
> need for rules if they were followed anyway.

It hurts my black heart that you think this makes you cool.

Cub!st wrote:
> don rocco wrote:
> It was your fault, your an arrogant spammer who thinks that he is
> above the rules.
>
> Damn straight. Please rules are there to be broken, there would be no
> need for rules if they were followed anyway.

Indeed, for if everyone followed the rules, there would be no rules to be broken. And therefore people could do what they like. Rules would have to be implemented to prevent that.

Oh you are special Cub!st. I don't mean that in the good sense either.

English_Bloke wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> Damn straight. Please rules are there to be broken, there would be
> no
> need for rules if they were followed anyway.
>
> Um. Wha?

Wrong thing to say in this blokes presence. You've no idea what you've done.