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"I need to be more talkative damn it!"

I think I have a great relationship with X. Personally I could just sit and hug X for years just in silence. However I never have anything to say and since I can't always be doing that...and more...there are some awkward silences. I am getting better talking to X but it's still not good enough. I don't understand it myself. I am normally quite a sociable guy. Just last Saturday at my cinema group I talked for hours with this girl and her mate and we ended up going into town after and I am meeting her again later. Why is it I find no trouble talking to her but I do with X? Well actually...I don't care why, I just want to know HOW I can be more sociable. I don't want to ruin our relationship because I barely have anything to say.

I think the main problems are that:
>X is 4 and 3/4 years older than me so we are both at completely different stages in our lives with little in common and little room for overlap
>We have had very few experiences together to talk about because of this. For example I love to hear all these stories X tells me about past jobs and stuff but I haven't even had a job. Other stories outside of work are good to talk about too but i am in none of them and haven't really gone anywhere or done anythign with X before story worth.
>We have no friends in common
>We never really go anywhere with a purpose. Never really go anywhere that'd direct the conversation a certain way or would allow us to do something really memorable that we could talk about later. Ok we went to the cinema today to see Starsky And Hutch before doing the deed which helped a little but normally we are just walking through Edinburgh until we find somewhere to get busy and seriously we have VERY LITTLE to talk about.
>We can't meet up at X's house just to muck about and have a laugh as X's boyfriend is there and it's bloody miles away.

I think the answer is to do more activities with X like going out drinking more often and going places just for a laugh, doing things just for a laugh. Neither of us are exactly rich though, especially not me considering I'm a pennyless student so that could be very hard. Until then though I really need some help becoming a better conversationalist. If you've read the whole post you'll see the problems and be able to help...hopefully. Thanks in advance all!

Yep, that's right. Not teh backwards way.

I believe that covered the 7 years of primary school.

That's right.


Age: 4-5 = yr0
Age: 5-6 = yr1
Age: 6-7 = yr2
Age: 7-8 = yr3
Age: 8-9 = yr4
Age: 9-10 = yr5
Age: 10-11 = yr6

Then High School:

Age: 11-12 = yr7
Age: 12-13 = yr8
Age: 13-14 = yr9
Age: 14-15 = yr10
Age: 15-16 = yr11

Sixth Form

Age: 16-17 = yr12
Age: 17-18 = yr 13

SHEEPY wrote:
> Cubist, shut up and suck my X.
>
> You stupid fud

I do believe Le Sheepu hath spoken.
And stuff.

Cub!st wrote:
> Edgy wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> (Year 8
> for you English folk, I was in year 12 at the time)
>
> I think you'll find it's year 7.
>
> Really? We spend 7 years at Primary School before going to highschool
> for 6 years up in Scotland. They were in their 8th year of education
> as they were in their first year of highschool so I assumed you
> called it year 8 down in England. Hmmmm, maybe I'm wrong. Soz.

Scottish schools are fudged then! :D

Igonring my question?

Azul wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> Soz.
>
> Now I'm convinced you're homosexual.

Argh I'd like to say "At least i don't make sweeping generalisations!" but I'm sure i have on these forums many a time for a cheap laugh.

Cubist, shut up and suck my X.

You stupid fud

Cub!st wrote:
> Soz.

Now I'm convinced you're homosexual.

Edgy wrote:
> Cub!st wrote:
> (Year 8
> for you English folk, I was in year 12 at the time)
>
> I think you'll find it's year 7.

Really? We spend 7 years at Primary School before going to highschool for 6 years up in Scotland. They were in their 8th year of education as they were in their first year of highschool so I assumed you called it year 8 down in England. Hmmmm, maybe I'm wrong. Soz.