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Anyone else have them?
Or perhaps the ques**tion should be "Which ones do you have?" as it's pretty much definite we all have them however badly or not they effect us and our day to day life.
To see someone else with one which you don't have is funny - but not to the person who has the fear.
Friday night at 10-35pm I des**troyed my main one - the fear of flying.
Well not the fear of flying as such I love flying itself, the feeling of freedom and the sights and sounds of being 7 miles or so above ground is an awesome experience but the fear of not being in control and relying on the skills of someone else who you don't know and being confined in a small space with over 200+ people in there with me used to terrify the crap out of me.
But about 6 weeks ago I decided to confront my fears and booked a holiday to Tenerife levaing a week las**t Friday. To tell you the truth my hand was forced - next June I'm getting married and of course it will entail a honeymoon abroad which will involve flying and I do not want to be worrying about it for the next 8 months so this holiday was a "tes**ter" for then and if I could “hack it”.
I firs**t flew in 1997 aged 17 to Toronto and it was no problem - a bit of boredom and agitation towards the end of the flight but nothing else. Greece for 3 years from 1999 - 2001 no probs also.
But in December 2002 I flew to Eurodisney for a “relaxing” break before Chris**tmas. The pas**t year I’d had a problem with my “image” and became obsessed with how people saw “me” and on the morning we left I woke up at about 8am and felt like death.
I was literally shaking and broke into a cold sweat and couldn’t breathe and collapsed onto my bed feeling like I was dying – later I realised it was down to a bad panic attack but at the time I was terrified.
I managed to get to Paris and onto Eurodisney but all through the holiday I was terrified of the flight home.
The flight home was bad but I managed it somehow and for nearly the las**t 4 years I’ve avoided flying.
Until las**t Friday.
I sort of decided “What will be will be”. “Do I let it ruin my life or confront it?”
I decided to confront it. If I re – experience my feelings back in 2002 so what? It’s not likely and if it happens so what?
Las**t Friday I went to work for ½ day and after went to Eas**t Midlands Airport for a 4 hour flight to Tenerife. That day I had a “bad attitude” – come on fear do your wors**t I don’t give a sh*t take me on and I’ll win.
And I did.
At 17-35 we took off and at 21-40 I was in the arrivals terminal at Tenerife Sur waiting for my cases.
My wors**t fears were imagined in my head and in reality were unfounded. I was imagining bad things which were unlikely to happen and causing myself unnecessary anxiety over nothing.
So do you worry over s**tupid things and how badly do you let them effect your day to day life? Do you try and ignore them or let them play on your mind and try and “solve” them in your head?
My only regret is not confronting my fear earlier and spending the las**t 4 years being afraid of flying. If you confront these irrational fears you see they are jus**t that – irrational and only exis**t in your mind and the sooner you confront them and do the opposite of what they are telling you (ie telling me not to fly as it will be jus**t like Eurodisney all over again) they will literally vanish and free you of the fear and anxiety holding you back.
Or perhaps the ques**tion should be "Which ones do you have?" as it's pretty much definite we all have them however badly or not they effect us and our day to day life.
To see someone else with one which you don't have is funny - but not to the person who has the fear.
Friday night at 10-35pm I des**troyed my main one - the fear of flying.
Well not the fear of flying as such I love flying itself, the feeling of freedom and the sights and sounds of being 7 miles or so above ground is an awesome experience but the fear of not being in control and relying on the skills of someone else who you don't know and being confined in a small space with over 200+ people in there with me used to terrify the crap out of me.
But about 6 weeks ago I decided to confront my fears and booked a holiday to Tenerife levaing a week las**t Friday. To tell you the truth my hand was forced - next June I'm getting married and of course it will entail a honeymoon abroad which will involve flying and I do not want to be worrying about it for the next 8 months so this holiday was a "tes**ter" for then and if I could “hack it”.
I firs**t flew in 1997 aged 17 to Toronto and it was no problem - a bit of boredom and agitation towards the end of the flight but nothing else. Greece for 3 years from 1999 - 2001 no probs also.
But in December 2002 I flew to Eurodisney for a “relaxing” break before Chris**tmas. The pas**t year I’d had a problem with my “image” and became obsessed with how people saw “me” and on the morning we left I woke up at about 8am and felt like death.
I was literally shaking and broke into a cold sweat and couldn’t breathe and collapsed onto my bed feeling like I was dying – later I realised it was down to a bad panic attack but at the time I was terrified.
I managed to get to Paris and onto Eurodisney but all through the holiday I was terrified of the flight home.
The flight home was bad but I managed it somehow and for nearly the las**t 4 years I’ve avoided flying.
Until las**t Friday.
I sort of decided “What will be will be”. “Do I let it ruin my life or confront it?”
I decided to confront it. If I re – experience my feelings back in 2002 so what? It’s not likely and if it happens so what?
Las**t Friday I went to work for ½ day and after went to Eas**t Midlands Airport for a 4 hour flight to Tenerife. That day I had a “bad attitude” – come on fear do your wors**t I don’t give a sh*t take me on and I’ll win.
And I did.
At 17-35 we took off and at 21-40 I was in the arrivals terminal at Tenerife Sur waiting for my cases.
My wors**t fears were imagined in my head and in reality were unfounded. I was imagining bad things which were unlikely to happen and causing myself unnecessary anxiety over nothing.
So do you worry over s**tupid things and how badly do you let them effect your day to day life? Do you try and ignore them or let them play on your mind and try and “solve” them in your head?
My only regret is not confronting my fear earlier and spending the las**t 4 years being afraid of flying. If you confront these irrational fears you see they are jus**t that – irrational and only exis**t in your mind and the sooner you confront them and do the opposite of what they are telling you (ie telling me not to fly as it will be jus**t like Eurodisney all over again) they will literally vanish and free you of the fear and anxiety holding you back.
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Flying - I'm not comfortable putting my life in the hands of an engine, if it breaks down you're screwed.
Heights (this may be linked to the above)
Failure, mostly on a personal level. I'm very closed off to anyone i dont like instantly.
Heights (this may be linked to the above)
Failure, mostly on a personal level. I'm very closed off to anyone i dont like instantly.
Twain wrote:
> Hmm. I wouldn't let one touch me, but that's about as afrai as I
> get with spiders. If one does touch me though, then I simply
> flick it or blow it away, then step on the little blighter. for
> some reason I'm afraid of spiders getting close to me when
> they're not touching me, but when they touch me before I realise
> that they are there, then I just flick it away. What's up with
> that?
The thing about fears is they are imagined - you create the fear it's not the situation itself causing you to be afraid.
With flying a few weeks ago when I was at the airport I was keeping myself occupied to keep my mind off it and when I was queuing up at the gate I started to get the usual fear symptoms - dry mouth, restlessness, increased deeper breathing and sweating more but once on the plane they disappeared because my subconscious came to realise there was nothing to fear.
> Hmm. I wouldn't let one touch me, but that's about as afrai as I
> get with spiders. If one does touch me though, then I simply
> flick it or blow it away, then step on the little blighter. for
> some reason I'm afraid of spiders getting close to me when
> they're not touching me, but when they touch me before I realise
> that they are there, then I just flick it away. What's up with
> that?
The thing about fears is they are imagined - you create the fear it's not the situation itself causing you to be afraid.
With flying a few weeks ago when I was at the airport I was keeping myself occupied to keep my mind off it and when I was queuing up at the gate I started to get the usual fear symptoms - dry mouth, restlessness, increased deeper breathing and sweating more but once on the plane they disappeared because my subconscious came to realise there was nothing to fear.
Hmm. I wouldn't let one touch me, but that's about as afrai as I get with spiders. If one does touch me though, then I simply flick it or blow it away, then step on the little blighter. for some reason I'm afraid of spiders getting close to me when they're not touching me, but when they touch me before I realise that they are there, then I just flick it away. What's up with that?
And I kinda have a strange fear of heights too. It tends to go on and off. sometimes I'm afraid, sometimes I'm not.
I think the only real thing I'm truly afraid of is premature death. I want to die of old age and nothing else, and if I am to die early, I want it to be quick, if not instantaneous. I don't mind about it being painful, I just don't want to be able to notice that I'm dying, ie. losing control of my body or feeling my systems shut down before then losing consciousness.
And I kinda have a strange fear of heights too. It tends to go on and off. sometimes I'm afraid, sometimes I'm not.
I think the only real thing I'm truly afraid of is premature death. I want to die of old age and nothing else, and if I am to die early, I want it to be quick, if not instantaneous. I don't mind about it being painful, I just don't want to be able to notice that I'm dying, ie. losing control of my body or feeling my systems shut down before then losing consciousness.
Funnily enough, Chilbirth is what i fear. Hard to believe maybe but i really do fear it. :)
Borat wrote:
> I wonder why so many people are scared of spiders ... ? I'm no
> different ... I've narrowed my fear down to the creepy way they
> move, and the fact that they're evil spawn from hell ...
I was fine but a few years ago in a short space of time I had quite a few rather unpleasant and vivid dreams about them. For some reason.
I hate them now.
> I wonder why so many people are scared of spiders ... ? I'm no
> different ... I've narrowed my fear down to the creepy way they
> move, and the fact that they're evil spawn from hell ...
I was fine but a few years ago in a short space of time I had quite a few rather unpleasant and vivid dreams about them. For some reason.
I hate them now.
Alfonse wrote:
> They move with such grace and silence...... I try not to kill
> them when I run away screaming.
Could you be able to kill them while you run away screaming?
> They move with such grace and silence...... I try not to kill
> them when I run away screaming.
Could you be able to kill them while you run away screaming?
Borat wrote:
> I wonder why so many people are scared of spiders ... ? I'm no
> different ... I've narrowed my fear down to the creepy way they
> move, and the fact that they're evil spawn from hell ...
They move with such grace and silence...... I try not to kill them when I run away screaming.
> I wonder why so many people are scared of spiders ... ? I'm no
> different ... I've narrowed my fear down to the creepy way they
> move, and the fact that they're evil spawn from hell ...
They move with such grace and silence...... I try not to kill them when I run away screaming.
on a roll tonight eh ... ;)
My reason (for aracnophobia) is that they move too fast, if we were allowed bugs on our olympic team, get the spider and all those legs, I feel sorry for the females, they must spend ages shaving...
I'm only scared of those massive ones that can kill you, those crappy boring house spiders that find their way in the bath just get a "pfffft" and the business end of the magazine i have to hand
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