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Have you ever felt the pressure from your friends? To do something you so badly don't want to do?
The words Peer Pressure, makes your friends sound like enemies. Especially if you have been pressured and think of all the things you have felt you have been made to do.
This was kind of inspired from SHEEPY's topic 'First time for everything', only because I thought that most of the things
I'd done in that list were influenced. By alcohol, of course. But friends push you to drink..! So you 'want' to fit in.
Have you ever felt you've been pressured into doing something? Like smoking your first cigarette or joint, stolen something, or having sex? Or anything else. Or have you ever turned down something because you're not stupid? And then have the grief of getting laughed at by them, or not fitting in.
A lot of people have real friends who wouldn't laugh at them and would accept their choice. But I didn't hang around with the right people so wouldn't know about that! ;)
So.. interesting to know. Have you ever felt pressured into doing something you don't want to? Tell us your stories! :)
The words Peer Pressure, makes your friends sound like enemies. Especially if you have been pressured and think of all the things you have felt you have been made to do.
This was kind of inspired from SHEEPY's topic 'First time for everything', only because I thought that most of the things
I'd done in that list were influenced. By alcohol, of course. But friends push you to drink..! So you 'want' to fit in.
Have you ever felt you've been pressured into doing something? Like smoking your first cigarette or joint, stolen something, or having sex? Or anything else. Or have you ever turned down something because you're not stupid? And then have the grief of getting laughed at by them, or not fitting in.
A lot of people have real friends who wouldn't laugh at them and would accept their choice. But I didn't hang around with the right people so wouldn't know about that! ;)
So.. interesting to know. Have you ever felt pressured into doing something you don't want to? Tell us your stories! :)
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Peer pressure is the lamest thing ever, but a lot of it comes from your own perception I think. Whil obviously your peers will pressure you into doing something (and I admit there have been times where I have) you can also think people are doing things while you aren't.
For instance, I can sit in the college library working while watching several of my friends with their girlfriends (two of which are as fine as anything) and think they are all having sex (in private of course..). Therefore this perception grows in my head until most of my year is too. A lot of them are, and I'm not, I wish I was, but I've learnt really not to care.
I think partly, in an ironic way, that this is where a lot of my anger springs from. Not from jealousy and envy (although I am sure there is a part of me that is....if that doesn't sound too pretentious and obnoxious) but anger actually at the peer pressure as something that exists, not that it infringes on me......and therefore my age group and society, and all the utter shallowness and crap that goes along with it. I'm not afraid to get wound up about things in front of my friends, even when they think I'm going slightly crazy, because I, rather snobbishly and snidely, and yes unfairly think a lot of them have no passion at all, when of course they do. Some of my friends share a similar passion to me for music, arguments and life. Others just are my friends because they are nice people regardless of what they like doing.
The worst are the people who I know who my friends like, but I don't really know. I've been clubbing before. I found it entertaining at the time, but not something I'd like to do all the time, every week as a lot of my friends do. I enjoy being drunk, and that needed no peer pressure ;) I don't smoke anything, and I'm not the most popular guy with the ladies (again, I wish I was, but I'm not the most unpopular either, so ;)). Therefore in the eyes of these other people, I'm lame because I don't do these different things. And you'd think that at the age of 18 people might of grown out of such childish, pathetic rubbish. A lot of them have. However, a lot haven't, and it really annoys me.
For instance, I can sit in the college library working while watching several of my friends with their girlfriends (two of which are as fine as anything) and think they are all having sex (in private of course..). Therefore this perception grows in my head until most of my year is too. A lot of them are, and I'm not, I wish I was, but I've learnt really not to care.
I think partly, in an ironic way, that this is where a lot of my anger springs from. Not from jealousy and envy (although I am sure there is a part of me that is....if that doesn't sound too pretentious and obnoxious) but anger actually at the peer pressure as something that exists, not that it infringes on me......and therefore my age group and society, and all the utter shallowness and crap that goes along with it. I'm not afraid to get wound up about things in front of my friends, even when they think I'm going slightly crazy, because I, rather snobbishly and snidely, and yes unfairly think a lot of them have no passion at all, when of course they do. Some of my friends share a similar passion to me for music, arguments and life. Others just are my friends because they are nice people regardless of what they like doing.
The worst are the people who I know who my friends like, but I don't really know. I've been clubbing before. I found it entertaining at the time, but not something I'd like to do all the time, every week as a lot of my friends do. I enjoy being drunk, and that needed no peer pressure ;) I don't smoke anything, and I'm not the most popular guy with the ladies (again, I wish I was, but I'm not the most unpopular either, so ;)). Therefore in the eyes of these other people, I'm lame because I don't do these different things. And you'd think that at the age of 18 people might of grown out of such childish, pathetic rubbish. A lot of them have. However, a lot haven't, and it really annoys me.
Ms NY wrote:
> Isn't it typcial how you always worry about the animals seemingly
> more than other things? Probably because they're the comfort more
> than anything else.
I think I worry about him (my dog) because he's completely innocent in all this and it's his world that's gonna get messed up, too. I know that sounds like I'm comparing him to a child, but that's how I see him - I love him utterly and miss him terribly when he's not there.
> Isn't it typcial how you always worry about the animals seemingly
> more than other things? Probably because they're the comfort more
> than anything else.
I think I worry about him (my dog) because he's completely innocent in all this and it's his world that's gonna get messed up, too. I know that sounds like I'm comparing him to a child, but that's how I see him - I love him utterly and miss him terribly when he's not there.
Sally_UK wrote:
> Do you not have anyone that would look after
> the dog for you, so that you could still see him?
I think she'll keep him and I'll get visiting rights! All joking apart, I think that's what's gonna happen - she'll drop him off for the day now and again so I can sit myself on the floor and have some fun with him.
> I know you feel bad at the moment and in that angry/sad mood where
> you hate her one minute, then think you have feelings for her the
> next and wonder whether you will be ok without her (although may be
> denying it to yourself).
Emotionally I've gone through worse things than splitting up so I know I'll be okay without her.
> So if you can get through this, you will be a stronger, happier more
> confident person - sound good?!!
That's the plan! It hurts breaking up but there's no way we can stay together: we just don't get any longer.
> Do you not have anyone that would look after
> the dog for you, so that you could still see him?
I think she'll keep him and I'll get visiting rights! All joking apart, I think that's what's gonna happen - she'll drop him off for the day now and again so I can sit myself on the floor and have some fun with him.
> I know you feel bad at the moment and in that angry/sad mood where
> you hate her one minute, then think you have feelings for her the
> next and wonder whether you will be ok without her (although may be
> denying it to yourself).
Emotionally I've gone through worse things than splitting up so I know I'll be okay without her.
> So if you can get through this, you will be a stronger, happier more
> confident person - sound good?!!
That's the plan! It hurts breaking up but there's no way we can stay together: we just don't get any longer.
Light wrote:
> Chin up Timmargh. And at the end of the day, f**k 'em. Snakes with
> t*ts, the lot of them!
Heh - cheers, man.
> Chin up Timmargh. And at the end of the day, f**k 'em. Snakes with
> t*ts, the lot of them!
Heh - cheers, man.
Oh just when you cave in to anyone in doing something you not up for. I spose it happens every week. the extremes were smoking etc and i wouldnt go there for my own moral values.
But there was one time I did something I DID NOT want to do. That was in many ways out of my hands but it is terrible to know that if it happened now I would be able to stop it.
Comes with age I spose..enough on that..
But there was one time I did something I DID NOT want to do. That was in many ways out of my hands but it is terrible to know that if it happened now I would be able to stop it.
Comes with age I spose..enough on that..
Timmargh wrote:
> Yes, I'm serious. It's been bubbling under for a while and I thought
> I could live with it, but, we had a *big* argument last week and now
> it's ending and I feel relieved. If I'm honest with myself it's
> something I've wanted for ages but never had the courage to do.
> The only thing that worries is me is what's gonna happen to my dog -
> I couldn't cope looking after him on my own and I'd really miss him
> if I never saw him. Oh, Christ - I'm crying now!
> *pulls himself together*
> I'm sure we'll work something out.
Isn't it typcial how you always worry about the animals seemingly more than other things? Probably because they're the comfort more than anything else. I get the exact same thought with my cats. Different from dogs.. but hey! Best of luck though ;)
> Yes, I'm serious. It's been bubbling under for a while and I thought
> I could live with it, but, we had a *big* argument last week and now
> it's ending and I feel relieved. If I'm honest with myself it's
> something I've wanted for ages but never had the courage to do.
> The only thing that worries is me is what's gonna happen to my dog -
> I couldn't cope looking after him on my own and I'd really miss him
> if I never saw him. Oh, Christ - I'm crying now!
> *pulls himself together*
> I'm sure we'll work something out.
Isn't it typcial how you always worry about the animals seemingly more than other things? Probably because they're the comfort more than anything else. I get the exact same thought with my cats. Different from dogs.. but hey! Best of luck though ;)
Lil Ginge wrote:
> Dont ya hate the feeling of doing something you know is wrong or you
> know you didnt really wanna do though?
> I feel i let myself down and I hate that.
Agreed. Horrrible feeling. Feel you let yourself down for what? You said No, didn't you?! Or is that something else?
> Dont ya hate the feeling of doing something you know is wrong or you
> know you didnt really wanna do though?
> I feel i let myself down and I hate that.
Agreed. Horrrible feeling. Feel you let yourself down for what? You said No, didn't you?! Or is that something else?
Thanks gorgeous!
Dont ya hate the feeling of doing something you know is wrong or you know you didnt really wanna do though?
I feel i let myself down and I hate that.
Dont ya hate the feeling of doing something you know is wrong or you know you didnt really wanna do though?
I feel i let myself down and I hate that.
Heheh, you strong gal! *screams at top of healthy lungs* "I RESPECTCHU!"
I have taken alot of stick in my time for various things.
One was because I still hadnt kissed anyone while evrybody else was studying in tongenastics, the other was because I hadnt experienced anything other than a kiss whilst the rest of my ho friends had...
I always felt isolated when everyone around me was exepted and 'groupy' because they smoked. Some people completely respected that I thought for myself and did not want to try something just because its their and just because everyone I know is doing it, the others labelled me goodie goodie I suppose and often ripped me for not even taking a lug - yes yes supposedly I was 'too scared' yep 'to scared to end up on a machine that fills my lungs with oxygen and another that kills the pain'
The drug issue was huge. I have always got along better with lads and at a certain time when I was hangin with the gang etc etc everybody suddenly decided that doing drugs was like 'way cool' and whether it be cannabis which I hate anyway - to a pill, poppers or even coke once or twice.
Again, I saw what I believe was sheer pressure and conformity here and decided I would never jump for anyone to fit in with people who are liking me for something I dont want to do. Therefore I ...again Took crap about being the only one not stoned but being not stoned showed me what absolute retards the ones that were looked like when they are.
Saying this I was pressured into doing something with someone, looking back now I feel physically sick and want to rip the guys balls off but I have forgiven him and we are friends.
Sex or 'making love' was the main one i didnt want to lose because when I saw the way 90% of my friends lost their virginity to a sixth former who was cheating on his girlfriend etc etc I thought UH NO!
So making love to my long term boyfriend was one of the best days of my life ;) oo yea *SCORE*
I hate peer pressure and am glad that at most points I have stood strong and thought on my own two tiny feet. There are things that I do sometimes now and think - o good god. Such as buying the same top everyone else is wearing that deep down doesnt tickle me taste buds but do it to look like a sheep. dear dear
One was because I still hadnt kissed anyone while evrybody else was studying in tongenastics, the other was because I hadnt experienced anything other than a kiss whilst the rest of my ho friends had...
I always felt isolated when everyone around me was exepted and 'groupy' because they smoked. Some people completely respected that I thought for myself and did not want to try something just because its their and just because everyone I know is doing it, the others labelled me goodie goodie I suppose and often ripped me for not even taking a lug - yes yes supposedly I was 'too scared' yep 'to scared to end up on a machine that fills my lungs with oxygen and another that kills the pain'
The drug issue was huge. I have always got along better with lads and at a certain time when I was hangin with the gang etc etc everybody suddenly decided that doing drugs was like 'way cool' and whether it be cannabis which I hate anyway - to a pill, poppers or even coke once or twice.
Again, I saw what I believe was sheer pressure and conformity here and decided I would never jump for anyone to fit in with people who are liking me for something I dont want to do. Therefore I ...again Took crap about being the only one not stoned but being not stoned showed me what absolute retards the ones that were looked like when they are.
Saying this I was pressured into doing something with someone, looking back now I feel physically sick and want to rip the guys balls off but I have forgiven him and we are friends.
Sex or 'making love' was the main one i didnt want to lose because when I saw the way 90% of my friends lost their virginity to a sixth former who was cheating on his girlfriend etc etc I thought UH NO!
So making love to my long term boyfriend was one of the best days of my life ;) oo yea *SCORE*
I hate peer pressure and am glad that at most points I have stood strong and thought on my own two tiny feet. There are things that I do sometimes now and think - o good god. Such as buying the same top everyone else is wearing that deep down doesnt tickle me taste buds but do it to look like a sheep. dear dear
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