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"I think i just did something tremendously stupid..."

I well my school has a ceildh (sp?) for the two oldest years in my school and me being 2 years away from leaving I get to go. It is in a couple of weeks and today in school we even has to learn how to do Scottish dancing! Anyway there is this girl I've liked for about a year now and I thought this would be the perfect chance to ask her to go out with me even if it was just to the dance.

Unfortunately I wasn't very articulate and I'm too diffident to ask her in person. So I phoned her. I said -

"Hey is ----- there?"
"Yeh sure wait a second I'll just go get her"
"Thanks"
"Hey Stephen (Cubist - ME)"
"Hey, you know how the Ceildh is on the **insert date**"
"Yeh sure"
"Well I was wondering who you were going with, if anyone?"
"I don't know I think I'm just going with the girls"
"Ahhh well if was just wondering if well you wanted to go to it with me?"
"Ohh right, well emm"
"Heh, it was just a thought because I really wanted to ask you first"
"Oh thank you, emmm can I get back to you?"
"Yeh sure thanks, bye ----"
"Bye"

What do you think? Personally I think the real low point was were I said "first" as if I had someone else in mind and although I'm not an expert with women but I don't think that if they say can I get back to you it's a good sign.

I am really worried that I've ruined our friendship now as I have known her for over a year and we used to go to the cinema and so on together. Maybe it was a bad idea all together to ask her but I really felt I had to. You know? If I didn't I would be upset that I missed this opportunity and if I did and it worked out then I would be really happy, I didn't think of the negative.

So on a range of 1 to 10 how stupid do you think I was to ask? 1 being smart and 10 being retarded. Be reasonable though. I know about 2 people who will possibly be reading this and know me so they'll probably start knocking me but it's not as if they didn't know I fancied her or anything.



P.s. Do you think I should tell her that it was me that sent her a valentines card last year? I don't think she ever realised it's me.

I say good on ya for asking! Atleast you know now mate!

A shy bairn gets nowt.

Worrying about saying "first" is nothing. Worrying about whether you have made a t|t of yourself when asking somebody out is what everybody does bar none. I've dropped some right clangers in my time :)

Don't fall into the Friend Zone if you have a chance of escaping.

If it does destroy the friendship look at it this way; you can only have one lover but I am sure you have many more friends. (You could have several lovers but not a good idea) If she doesn't respect you for at least trying then eliminate her.

I know Xerxes is cold hearted but he is just bitter. Bitter and lonely.

Adeiu.

Though you can ask and still not get, if you know what I mean.

Answering the topic post - if you don't ask, you don't get. Simple. I applaud your courage. People should do that more often.

Can't beat a good pair of Scottish Legs ;P Woo go Scots **runs from all the English Forum Members before they think of something better**

humm criticisms at the ready

Heh well call me a traditionalist (if that's a word) but that's how I go about telling someone I like them normally. It may not work, in my experience, but it's what I do. What would be really brave of me is to post a picture of myself all dressed up in my kilt on the night. That'd send you all into fits of laughter lol:D

You are alot braver then me :S

Yea don't worry about it, these people who think that just because you have asked someone out it spoils a friendship are insane, if you like them why not?

Half the time I have found that the people that I have asked out have made great mates.

Good on you for askin her